I need to get back
By imAbigael
@imAbigael (475)
Philippines
July 23, 2012 2:43am CST
I cant deny that I am depress for over 1 to 2 months, I felt low energy, my eyes its started to look darken, eye bags, so sad, then the news feed I read on my facebook which is my one friend tries to put me down, She hates me for being so mad at me because i didnt talk to her for almost 4 months and she is jealous about we never invites her to go to the mall with other friends. My reasons are its because she is so mad (always angry), self-centred, and lazy sometimes, we have a misunderstanding i dont want to be near her or see her because i get hurt so much about the things she talk on facebook and she also want that attention. I just want peace on my mind i dont need bad vibes everyday thats why i dont want to be near her anymore.
I need to get back, I dont want to feel her low level of thinking, I dont want to be affectted of her ugly life. I want to delete her but If I do (imagine the mad volcano) ahhh I dont want world war 3!!! I dont know what to do. Can I kill her??? huhuhu :(
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3 responses
@chookie1971 (2271)
• Australia
13 Aug 12
The first thing to do is, do you really need this person as a friend on facebook? If you don't want to be near her, then unfriend her. Always remember that she will be replaced on facebook so please don't worry about your number of friends. And also don't worry about the volcano, eventually it will all die down.
That is step one of recovery.
The next thing is to focus on you. You will need to do things that make you happy. If this person goes to a certain placex, try to avoid them or go at different times.
Look for people that will lift your spirits up. The ones that make you laugh and smile or just say something positive.
I had friends that annoyed me so much especially on facebook. Before the time line changes, I had blocked her from seeing my posts and photos. She was only there for games. Every so often we would see each other. I found a right balance.
I had another friend that annoyed me even more on facebook than the other person. It is a long story but the end results were, she annoyed me on facebook and via text message. she lied and stood by her story. She even adds friends from other friends lists. I ask how does a person with limited means and finances find a way to average to adding one person per day? She is generally a nice person but if she changed a few things, she would be a better person, but I am not a person to go and change a person. Well I ended up deleting her off facebook because she became facebook friends with a neighbour which she had met. But even after facebook, she created more problems. I just hope I can find the right balance there too. But if not, it doesn't both me as I think I have other wonderful friends.
So remove all the negative vibes out of your life and replace them with good vibes.
@chookie1971 (2271)
• Australia
15 Aug 12
I do hope you can find a balance. I don't know if you have time line but if you can discover how to do extra lists, you can create lists and sort your friends into them. So you can target different audiences. I have 3 different levels, Local, non local and overseas. Depending on the person, depends of what list they are in although overseas people are with non local and overseas.
We can hope for the change for the better, but don't count on it. I am here if you need me.
@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
13 Aug 12
I appreciate all of your advise and thank you so much, actually we have the same problem like your friend number 2, she really annoyed me every time I see her on facebook and even on my inbox. So thankfully I had a samsung phone and it has a feature that you can block the message from thet certain person. And on facebook I really cant delete her because that would be an issue within our group friends but as I can I have to unsubscribe watever she do so she cant pissed me off. And I change my routine in logging on facebook or sometimes I dont want to use my facebook just to have my peace of mind everyday. Again thank you so much for listening and I hope we find our own happiness, then hopefully those people will realize their own mistakes and I wish they will change someday for the better.
@discuss67 (56)
• India
24 Jul 12
The world is filled with all sorts of people.Some are too good and some not so.It is up to you to choose who you want to be with.If your comfort level is low with a particular friend it is better to stay away from that person.Killing a person will solve her problem but not yours!
@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
thats true, sorry about the "kill" thing but I cant realy do that, but anyway thank you i just dont understand why they do that bad ideas..
@hunterdon (17)
• United States
23 Jul 12
You need to surround yourself with people that have a positive impact on your well being. Don't bother with someone that brings you down.
If you ended the friendship, the blow-out would be temporary, but the relief may be life long.
@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
Thank you I agree with you, Right now i'm trying to change my routines then keep myself busy so I wont remember her.. Thanks for the advise I know it will bring back my peace of mind soon.
