I was being compared again!

Aww, i hate to be compared with others also, it is very irritating...you did right when you do ignore all the comparing.

It is unfair to compare you with anyone. You are unique and should not be compared with others. You have your own plus points, which others may not have. Please don't feel upset, you are the best creation of the Great God and you are special, do not bother what others say. You know how good you.

You need to tell them that you already worked hard and they should not say that to you. They don't know how you feel that is why you need to let them know that you hate it when they are criticizing and comparing you with others and you don't want them to do the same anymore.Most of the time people criticizing others because they don't want to show that they do have weaknesses perhaps more than others.

This is normal for kids and teenagers. I used to be compared all the time to smarter kids that do exceptionally well in school. I was a normal kids. I did not really get gold medals in sports and in science fairs. But my parents were very accepting in the end. Right now, they do not compare me anymore. I am thankful for them. I think you just have to wait. Don't give up on your family. They love you and they just want you to be better. good luck, friend! happy mylotting.

I really symphatized you tess....I was also compared not with other people but its with my own sister by other people.It really hurts.I tried so hard not to be affected but human as we are we are emotionally weak. Sometimes i'm eaten by my insecurities as we go together.However the good thing is that my family never let me feel that way that's why i'm also struggling to eleminate that feeling.Our ties with my sister is stronger and nobody can ever destroyed it....I hope you will also be strong to face them.Don't ever think of running away because you are just given them the reason to criticize and humiliate you again.

My parents do this a lot. I'm the creative type, and my brother is the sciencey, "smart" one . Even though we each have our own talents, my parents act like he's smarter than me. It makes me so mad! He failed Bio, and I told my dad jokingly, "At least I didn't fail Bio." he got mad and said "don't you dare compare yourself to him!" not as in, we each have our own talents so don't compare yourself. As in, "he's so much better than you so don't bother." Gah.

It is painful to be compared to someone especially if that would magnify the fact that you are lacking and that the other person is the other way around. I do not think that it is right to even compare us to another people because that is not really helping us. They wanted us to be like them. Sometimes, I try to understand their intention for comparing me to other people. They wanted me to change and be like this person. But you are right that this is our lives. Only us knows where to go to happy. Also, it is only us who know our own capabilities and limitations. Sometimes, they are forcing us to be the person we are not and that is really hard. Try to voice it out and explain yourself. Some people do not really realize that they are making mistakes if no one would tell them. They do not even realize sometimes that they are already hurting other people. Show them how you feel. I guess that your happiness is still more important to them than becoming the person you are not.

This is usually a common problem with most people. People will never be the same and should never be compared. Most people comparing others tend to see the only positive side of that person and tend to ignore his/her weakness.

You're right, running away isn't right. And if you run away, there's no assurance that they will stop criticizing you that way. It could even be worse. I have experienced that from my very own mom. I have harbored and kept within me feelings of resentment. One day, I just couldn't take it and I asked her to sit down and talk to me. I told her how I feel about her critical words, and the manner they were said to me. And I found out that she thought she's helping me; she thought that those words are going to wake me up and make me so inspired to better myself from those girls she's always comparing me with. After that talk, I never heard her compare me again with anyone. We both learned that we both meant well, its just that we don't know that its affecting one of us the wrong way. Have you tried talking to them? Telling them how you feel? Could be also that they didn't know. Just my POV.