Disappointed...

Maybe you should not have had your hopes up that high to begin with. Just because the lawyers said one thing does not mean it was going to happen that way. Be grateful for what you did get and move on with your life. I do not think you are the low end of your family. I know I don't know them, but from talking with you here on MyLot I get the feeling that you are the richest one of all. You are nice, you are honest and caring. To me that is work millions. Not everyone has the opportunity to make old of money. I know because I am in a situation like you. So I get it.

Oh honey, I am soooo sorry to hear that.It must be so tough to get such a let down.I'm really sorry.I don't know how you feel both you and the guy with the girlfriend problems...But God knows and He's aching too to see you all in pain and disappointments and discouragements.Know always, that you can go to Him.He is the Comforter and the Just Judge, the Vindicator of them who love Him and supplier of our needs.

First off You and Hubby Are Not , Not the scum of Any family. Do not let Anyone make you feel that way! you two are good people and you have each other. Anyone who looks down on this is the Scum , Not you! Ok about the money. It is enough to find a better place to rent? And to take the kids on a mini vacation. The kids will love it. Or... it can be a start for the college fund. 20,000 is a nice sum! To answer your question. No, I haven't been told something that great was to happen and it didn't happen. But I have had loved ones pass away . That is worse. So look on the bright side. You , Hubby , and the kids are healthy. And you have each other.

hi Lovingmybabies oh that was awful of the lawyer to su ggest su ch a lare sum as the let down mst have been overwhelming. but look at the bright side you have 2 0000 thousand more dollars than yu o had before. somehow you m ight still be able to realize one or two of your dreamed. I know I think how y ouo fee. when we b ecame homeless and my son worried for my safety on the streeet got me in here a retirement center he promised i would not be here long as he wo uld get a great jog and we would be ab le once more to rent a two bedroom a partment. well nothing has worked out likethat he is working but not making the big wages that would get us in to a 2 bedroom apt. so yes I am disappointed but am having to see the bright side of it too so as to stay happy here and now.

I´m so sorry this happened to you. I hope you did not overspend while you were waiting for the settlement because that way you can get into big debts. Coudn´t your hubby use part of that money to study something so that he could work in spite of his handicap? I hope everything turns out the best for you! Take care.

I've been let down a few times, so I know how you feel. That's why I remain pessimistic. So that if something does turn out good, I get pleasantly surprised. I think it's good that you've already poured out your emotions. To get it out of your system. And focus on moving ahead. I know it's not the sum that you and your family wanted, but it IS something. And I hope that you could use it to make your lives a little better. And maybe a little treat to bring a little happiness to you, and your kids (and your husband of course), that you deserve.

I'm sorry you were let down I would be very mad, not disappointed. Did the tell you way they were only settling for $20,000? What about going to court to fight the amount? If my husband couldn't work there is no way I would not settle for $20,000. even $125,000 isn't a lot for someone who will not be able to work - especially if he is not getting disability or other compensation. I'm sorry you have to vice up time with your kids. I know how hard that is. I'm dreading my husband medically retiring from the military because as much as I enjoyed working I don't like having to put our youngest in daycare and I don't like having to send my son back to public school. Even though I'm going back to school.my husband thinks we will be able to alternate our schedules enough for things to stay the same. I doubt that.

Personally I think you need to be grateful for what you are getting. Maybe they just could not get you the original amount they told you due to situations they were not aware of at first. Or there are sometimes times when someone is just estimating and then wrong and like you said they should have prepared you more for this. But this is better than nothing and you just need to always remember that god is always in control.

Oh my goodness, this sounds terrible for you. What happened and do you HAVE to settle? Is it too late to change lawyers? I feel so bad for you and what schemers those lawyers were. They should have known what this was going to do from the beginning. I wish I could help you out, I really do. I'm so sorry.

It was terrible that they even threw out that big of a sum. They should have known that they weren't sure they could honestly get you that much. You had so many plans and now it's all down the drain. Though I don't think your life will forever be the way it is now. It's good you are getting atleast the $20,000 back though.

I would be very disappointed too if I were told we were receiving $125,000 then again later it was only going to be $20,000. Look at it this way though.... you can at least get a decent vehicle, take your family on a vacation and still have plenty of money left. Just use the money that you are going to get wisely. Internet Hugs!

Funny you should bring this up today. I just got off the phone with a lawyer...the third one I've contacted in my case. Yesterday, after months of trying to get this lawyer in Portland to take me seriously, after sending her all the information she requested and emailing her several times for some kind of response, she had her aide email me that her calendar was full and she had no room for me! I have been trying since December to get a lawyer to sit down with me and discuss my case, tell me if I even have a case or not and let me get on with my life. The first lawyer said this would be a federal case so he insisted I call this woman in Portland so I did. When I tried to call him back today, his number was disconnected! So I turned to the phone book. We now have an appointment with a new lawyer tomorrow morning bright and early. At least he can tell us if we have a case or not. If we don't, then I can let go but if we do, he can bloody well go to bat for us. This is exactly why I told that first lawyer that I didn't want an out of town lawyer...because when they're not local, they just plain don't care. I'm sorry you had such a disappointing settlement. Here's hoping mine turns out a little better but I'd even be happy with $20k at this point...we could pay off some of these bills! Hugs!

Unrealistic expectations for me caused lot of grief earlier especially when I am promised for money to clear my debts

It seems your family bears down on you too muc, you have to live within your means. Do what you need to do to make sure you have what you need. Don't look forwqard to people needing you, or being on top in your family. Just be happy for what you have.

We have a friend that was hit by a semi, the semi did not stop at light. They kept telling her she would get a big settlement. They just settled with her, and after paying the lawyer and all the bills, she had $10,000 left.

$20,000 is a nice sum of money. But it wont last that long things are so expensive. I can totally understand why you are dissapointed when you were expecting to get around 105,000 more then you are really going to get. I think your lawyer was wrong to tell you this. Maybe he had hoped that if he got you to think he could get you that much money you would chose him instead of another lawyer. Perhaps another lawyer truly could have gotten you the rest of that money but you will never know now. I remember your other post about the drunks in your neighborhood and how you couldnt wait to move once your husband got the settlement. I am really sorry to hear you wont be able to now. That is really sad and a huge let down seeing as you werent just going out and buying frivilous stuff you were going to move somewhere better for your children to grow up.

Most lawyers can't be trusted! I have always know this and known alot of people who have been screwed over by lawyers! Most only care about themselves and not their clients! I hate to say this but you and your husband are very gullible. Not just with lawyers but lots of other people. You and your husband are very nice people and this gets you in trouble. In today's world,in some cases,being not so nice is better then being nice! I hope I did offend you! If I did I am sorry! Just telling you what I think.

Unfortunately almost anyone with an attorney attached to the words gets robbed. Even SSD can turn you inside out. When I finally realized I was disabled, and went to the Social Security Office, they sit you down and even have you fill out the paperwork where you want your check to go in the checking account etc. Piece of cake right? That piece of cake turned into almost 3 years of nightmare for me. While I was being poked, prodded, and PROVING I needed to be declared disabled after working almost all my life, serving my country, raising 5 children, I called a Social Security Rep for Veterans. HE informed me til I was refused 3 times he could not help me. Once I had been refused the third time, call him. Well I did. HE then sent paperwork to me and he was to get like 40% of the pay from the beginning date not just the date HE started. People from the 50's and 60's did not know what a savings was. When I started work at age 15 I got 90cents an hour for being a nurses aide. I went in the army day after I turned 18. I was so proud. Got a 98.00 pay check a month divide that into 4 then 40 hours. And the Army did not go by hours month meant month. I fortunately had figured out how to run a business so I could stay home and raise 5 children. So while I was in the medical field at a young age, then tugging and pulling babies, toddlers, my business, then going on to go back in the Army during Desert Storm for more tugging and pulling, getting my EMT and working for 12 years with HIV/AIDS pts, I finally am told I have spinal desinegration in my cervical and lumbar areas. So as the Social Security Rep worked my case and getting a portion of my money, I was finally going to have to have a hearing with a judge on my case. My rep called me and one thing slid me under the wire to getting a 529.00 month SSD Check. Know what it was? Did I still have a copy of my Prescription for my walker. prior to that I was being repealed time and time again telling me I could still tug and pull working housekeeping in a hotel. yep. Life is not kind no matter what age you are. you are just greatful for the meager amount you get and go on until life is over I guess. Did your hubby settle for that meager amount if he is now unable to work? I always think of you and your children even though I don't talk to you everyday! Much love to you darlin.

Hi friend, sad to hear about this, they must avoid this lie which made you to dream a lot. Be sportive, some times too much of expectations will give disappointments. Hope you are happy with the amount whichever you received