Do you know someone who thinks you can perform miracles?
By cotruelove
@cotruelove (1016)
Denver, Colorado
July 23, 2012 10:10pm CST
My hubby is very good at fixing things, but he can't make dead electronic things like small DVD players work when they are broken. So many of the new electronic things are designed to be thrown away not repaired. However, my neighbor's wife always thinks he can perform miracles. Well, tonight her hubby came over looking for my hubby to fix the small throw away DVD player my hubby gave them years ago. It originally was a refurbished player, but since our neighbor is short on money all the time, we got it for them for Christmas and it didn't cost us a lot of money quite a few years ago. Unfortunately, we are also short on money and cannot always solve their problems. Yet, my neighbor's wife thinks we can. I really like them as neighbors, but I wish they would quit thinking my husband can solve all their problems for them. He has given them one of my old computers when their's broke; he has fixed as many things as he can for them, but just can't do it all and not now that he has health issues of his own. Hope they get over thinking he/we can perform miracles. Have you ever known a person who expects you to perform miracles? Tell us about it!
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10 responses
@anex08 (868)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
uhm.. in the first place, it is really a good thing when people run to you for fixes and problem issues which means that you were the only one they can turn in to when consequences strikes. But then when our personal interest and problems bore us, we really can't think of helping others because we are also busy fixing our own trouble. An as individual me must also be mindful on what are others are going through before asking help because it might be that they are undergoing certain fight greater that ours. I adore your husband and you for giving a helping hand to other people and I also understand why you feel a bit tired of their expectation because in your situation, you're family needs own fixing too. You need to give them a little talk somehow to help them understand.. Other than that, I love your attitude..:-)
@cotruelove (1016)
• Denver, Colorado
24 Jul 12
If we were the only people they could turn to I would understand totally. But we aren't. We are the convenient ones because we live next door. They already know the situation with my husband and they know he hasn't been out in the car or anywhere in months. He has been in the hospital 3 times. Even stranger, their request for him to fix the player was made by waking us up when we had already not answered the phone. I think the problem is the wife and she is demanding. It is one thing for us to give to someone our time and money, it is another to have someone demand we do it and to make her husband come over to the house when we already didn't answer the phone. Normally, if my husband were well, and he felt he could help, he would. But I watched his face tonight and I have the feeling he won't be helping them anymore even if he could. He felt they were rude and inconsiderate. He definitely didn't give them the DVD with any expectations, but they obviously have some for him. I just hope it doesn't cause a huge problem with the neighborly friendship.
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@clrumfelt (5490)
• United States
24 Jul 12
My husband works on peoples appliances for a living. A lot of people we know also call him for jobs on the side. He of course charges them for his time and parts and stuff, but not nearly as much as his boss would charge if it was one of the calls on his job. Some of the appliances he encounters will require as much or more money to fix them than to buy a new appliance, and he always tells them when that is the case.
Your husband could always tell the neighbors they could buy a new dvd for the parts it would cost to fix it. He should by no means pay for parts to fix it himself. They should save up for a few months so they can buy a new one, and not expect you to just give them stuff all the time. Some people will take advantage of generosity and evidently these people don't get that, but there comes a time when you just have to say no.
@GardenGerty (160908)
• United States
25 Jul 12
I often expect it of myself. I like to fix things, but not electronics. They sound very needy of attention, and I know lots of people like that. My sister in particular. I have been through the hand me down computers, then this week we actually went and bought a refurbished one. Not cheap, but less than half the price of a new model of an inferior machine. Sometimes they just need to learn to take of themself. . . your neighbors, that is.
@GardenGerty (160908)
• United States
25 Jul 12
Second step. . . make sure it is plugged in. . . third, did you turn the power on? I had nephews that worked in a tech call center for TV issues. I am sorry they are having a hard time, but they need to know it is not your problem all the time. I am thankful they at least fessed up to the fact that the player is still working.
@cotruelove (1016)
• Denver, Colorado
25 Jul 12
The neighbor came by today and told us the problem was the disk. They tried it on the computer and there was no data on it. DAH! Whenever someone has a problem with a player, they should check the disk first if they can. And to come over and be so impatient when they had another means to watch the movie tells me they panicked. And the other means to play the movie on their television is a PlayStation.
Before he left he told us how running the computer was doubling his electric usage. John patiently explained to him that his computer is more likely equal to running a light bulb and he showed him on a gauge that measures it. We carefully explained to him that since he is running window air conditioning units, they are probably the big problem. The last two months have been the hottest June and July on record for our area, So, as you can tell these people don't understand the cost of electric either or what causes it to be expensive in the summer.
Needless to say, tonight we have spent a lot of time shaking our heads over our neighbor and his wife.
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@nijolechu (1842)
• Canada
24 Jul 12
I don't really know anyone that can perform miracles. It would be nice to be able to fix some things and it would save me a ton of money from just buying new things and being able to fix and refurbish stuff. It sounds like your husband is being taken advantage of by your neighbors. Maybe it is time to tell them that your husband isn't able to fix things anymore because of his health.
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@cotruelove (1016)
• Denver, Colorado
24 Jul 12
They have seen exactly how bad his health has been since last December and the things he has not been able to do for me, the house or anyone. No one is going to explain it to them, we just are not going to do it. Thanks for your response.
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@hekunharris (50)
• Chengdu, China
24 Jul 12
My wife couldn't cook for herself. You know, goverment suggest only one child in China from 1980s. She was spoiled by her parents.
I am on a business trip for tow days...
When I back to home, I found my wife was still alive. She told me she sleep 14 hours a day to prevent calorie consuming.
God bless U!!!
I have to say, Honey, you have performed miracles.
Why didn't U order take-out? Lost your mind in dream?
@cotruelove (1016)
• Denver, Colorado
24 Jul 12
All of us can be raised not learning something necessary for us to know as an adult. Fortunately, in America, is you have the desire to learn, you can learn anything you want easily. I have a daughter like your wife, who refuses to cook. She can read a recipe book and follow directions but she is just too lazy to do it and lacks any interest in doing it. Unfortunately, as she gets older she may have to learn or starve. Perhaps your wife needs someone to teach her how to cook? Thanks for your response. Hope your wife learns that you cannot do for her all the time and she has to do some things for herself.
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@Gautam1002 (730)
• India
24 Jul 12
Oh that must be really frustrating and tiring job for your husband. I understand your hubby's position and your concern for him. What I could follow through your article, I feel that your neighbours are very much into an impression that your husband can just help them out with everything. Sometimes people do think the same way, when someone has been so nice to them that they have removed the formality barrier from their front. I do not have had such an extreme case as of yours' but I do come across something like this at times.
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@cotruelove (1016)
• Denver, Colorado
24 Jul 12
Thanks for your response. I think many people assume a lot when you are nice to them.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
19 Aug 12
Personally there have been many people in my life who are always expecting things to always be so so, and everything always working Good for them. These type of people usually end up in time never wanting to do anything for themselves, and get upset if you can not be there for them.
In my lifetime, I have only known one person who is Perfect and can perform miracles anytime you ask if he believes it is Best for you, and that is Jesus. Even if it is not always fast, it is always in his time.
@cotruelove (1016)
• Denver, Colorado
27 Aug 12
I've never personally seen Jesus, but I've felt the presence of what I believe to be him. I do believe in free will and I know I have kept things from happening many times.
These friends are just too dependent on other people to solve their problems. For now, I think they realize and were somewhat embarrassed by their actions of that evening. Perhaps, they will not expect so much from my hubby in the future. But only time will tell. Thanks for your response.
@cotruelove (1016)
• Denver, Colorado
27 Aug 12
It does sound like you understand. Thanks for the response!
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
26 Jul 12
I'd have a talk with the wife & explain that my hubby is sick & not really up to working on their DVD at this time. Surely she will understand. If you don't think that will work, have them leave the DVD at your house, keep it for a few days & then return it to them telling them he couldn't get it to work. My Dad was a lot like your neighbor. He felt I could fix anything if I just tried. So, I'd take the cover off while he watched & I'd look around the inside. I'd touch a couple of parts & then tell him everything looked OK. Then I'd put the cover back on & tell him he needed a new one!!!
@cotruelove (1016)
• Denver, Colorado
27 Aug 12
Sometimes I think that is the way to handle the problem. The wife is the impatient one who demanded her husband bring the problem to us. Usually, he waits to see if our lights are on, which they were not, rather than wake us up. He has an irregular work schedule so many times he is getting off work at midnight and we are still up. He didn't even bring the DVD player over that night, but they both thought my hubby was going to go to their house and work on it, right then. Too bad, wasn't going to happen. Thanks for your response.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
27 Jul 12
I don't know anyone who a so called miracle worker. I do have a similar situation with someone at work who thinks I know everything about computers! I really don't but everytime she has a question on computers she;ll ask me! She did it again today and I told her to ask the cook who is a computer wiz! Oh course she doesn't and goes around asking everyone else but the person she needs to talk to! Ugh! She sure doesn't like to listen!
@cotruelove (1016)
• Denver, Colorado
27 Aug 12
I totally understand. I've had people like that in my life before and like you I've told them who to contact but they just won't. Don't know why some people persist and thinking the way they do, but nothing seems to change their minds. I've not met any miracle workers either.