Ex-Relationship, Present Relationship and studies...
By Gautam1002
@Gautam1002 (730)
India
July 23, 2012 11:02pm CST
I will be having my academic session commencing from 1st of next month. Till then I am free, I was free..I miss my first girlfriend. I did cheat on her. I murdered her virtually. I got her feelings smashed. I am very much guilty of this. I try to contact her, but she is not interested, primarily because of her at present boyfriend and rightly so.
I am also committed and do not feel like to keep hiding this fact from my at present girlfriend. I am totally confused on how to attain a peaceful mind. I am fluctuating between the two. Sometimes feeling both as right sometimes the converse is true.
In all this I think I will hamper my upcoming studies. I do not want this certainly considering how much effort my mother has put in to get me admitted into a college of such high reputation.
I would appreciate advises from you. May be studies is the thing I should stick myself to leaving the abstract life on God to decide. I should be a good professional and help myself get along this...
5 responses
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
24 Jul 12
Gautam
You are only 19. In this age due to infatuation people develop love at first sight for various reasons.
My suggestion will be you concentrate on studies and not on love. I am a visiting faculty for engineering colleges -- i have known cases where love has spoilt the educational standard of boys and girls.
Study well-- get a degree or two -- get good job or business. afterwards you will get a chance to find a partner.
You are good in remembering the struggle put in by your mother for giving good education and you must respond by studying well.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
24 Jul 12
good. i am happy you have responded positively. spend time on college studies and also for placement. you can go through websites like www.indiabix.com, www.geekinterview.com to improve his aptitude skills. also www.careersvalley.com
@Gautam1002 (730)
• India
24 Jul 12
I am very thankful to you for making me remind of my mother's contribution. This always has been and will be the prior most reason to drag me to studies. I am not that bad, and a sincere effort from my side will definitely get me results. It is just sometimes that those thoughts get bigger space in my head than the right ones. I will try to abide by my words and keep everything as my second priority except studies.
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
24 Jul 12
Forget the past and specially your girl friend. The way she has behaved with you shows she is not interested in you.
My suggestion to you is that concentrate on your studies make your career and I am sure you will get better girlfriend who may be your life partner
@Gautam1002 (730)
• India
24 Jul 12
I feel like your words are correct. Though I cannot keep myself aloof from the relationship matter, I will keep it aside as and when it competes with my career and studies. I too feel that I should leave it for God to decide, and since I cannot ask God to complete my notes or study in my place, I will hope that if i am doing justice to my duty, he will take care of my happiness.
@sherrybelle (707)
• United States
24 Jul 12
Forget about the ex-girlfriend because that relationship is over. She has moved on and she's no longer interested in you.
Do your best to better yourself where your education is concerned. If you focus on self improvement and become financially established in a career you can rest assured that you'll always have a special woman in your life.
@Gautam1002 (730)
• India
24 Jul 12
I am trying to keep my focus right up there on my career and professional life. But you know you must be experienced enough, sometimes these abstract things make you so concern that you fail to make others realize what is so important about that. Only the one facing it knows it.
My first girlfriend to the extent I know will never forget me. It is only that her boundaries are defined and she had got her heart broken by me. I am not finding it an easy task to forget her.
@desiree91 (515)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 12
The past and the present, you have to pick either one. But if you can't decide, perhaps dropping both altogether and concentrate on your studies might be a better option. You can still stay as friends with your present one, and if you figured life is mundane without her then perhaps she's the for you. As for the ex-girlfriend, make sure she knows how sorry you are..
@Gautam1002 (730)
• India
24 Jul 12
I hope so, she will someday realize how sorry I am. I also feel it will be right think for me to keep on doing good in my studies. These matter would get a better turn in future and I should try and keep myself happy. It will help me be very much active towards my prior most task and that being my studies. Thank You
