Do you come from a broken family? How does it affect you?

Hello. Man where do I begin. LOL. My grandpa cheated on my grandma. And for my mom,aunts and uncles, they spent their days being scolded by my grandma because well she took it out on them. My grandpa and grandma are still together but I can only imagine her pain. And my mom, well she has 9 siblings and all of them have been divorced including her. My father cheated on my mom and he has remarried another. And it is so sad to watch him degrade himself with that woman, how can you give up caviar for rubbish. My mom is has been , well she always has, taken it out on us even when I was young. She claims that it is talking about it and she has no where else to go. I can have symphathy and try to understand where she is coming from. It's just she does not give me the benefit of the doubt. I got home late once and she told me to move out. Incredible. She will not believe the reason "being stuck in a traffic" even though I was, because my father used that reason all the time on her whilst he was cheating. Horrible person he is. Anyway, I need to end this cycle. Either I do not get married or I do not have kids. Even now, I am young yes , but I have never been faithful even if I am in a committed relationship. I just dont bother.

My parents got married in the early 1960s and my sister was born towards the end of the 1960s. I was born in the early 1970s. They got divorced in the early 1980s. I was aged 10 to 11 in my last year of primary school when they got divorced from each other. My sister got married towards the end of the 1990s. She and her husband have four children. They are still happily married I am glad to say. By comparison I got married in the early 1990s. I got divorced six years later. I didn't bother getting married a second time to someone else. I tried out a living together relationship but it didn't work out. I don't think I could get married again and remain happily married until the day that I die. I do think I was affected by my parents divorcing.

I am sorry to read what you have written.It is quite traumatic for a child to witness bickering at home or abusive parents.My parents stayed together for more than fifty years of marriage but whether theirs was a happy union between couples is questionable.They stayed together ; that is all.Children had family feelings and were happy.Their private equation did not affect us much except in the way of a slightly biased approach.

It was early high school when I learned my parents where having a separation, as divorce is not legal here in our country. I don't remember exactly how I felt at that time, I was usually passive, but I do know there was sadness and anger. I guess the obvious effect of it in me is my being independent. Since then, I have tried so hard to be independent from my parents. I wanted to earn for myself and try as much as possible not to ask any amount for support from them, but it did not turn out good for me, because it affected my studies and other important things in my life. Now, I am trying to make up for all the lost time. It will never be the same though.

sorry to hear that.,its very traumatic for a child and it will affect their lives as soon they become older. its not easy of them to see that their parents are separated. just always pray to god perhaps god will give another love.

I am sorry to hear your story. Surely for little kids that broken family does do harm to their psychology. Good luck, god will give you another love.

It is not easy to come from a broken family. I know. I have also experienced that and I am quite skeptical about relationships.