When is it time to go their own ways?
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
July 24, 2012 8:26am CST
This girl I use to work with messages me on facebook, now we arnt close and I think she just wanted someone talk to and I was only one online. Her and this guy (who I use to work with as well) started dating probably a year or two years ago now. Threy are one of those couple you think how on earth did they start dating, or how have thye made it this far. The last couple months none stop fighting, I mean on Facebook alone its all over, they break up then back together and so on. Neither of them are working, and living at his parents house. Last night they got into their little arguements, they were posting it all over Facebook then not even 2 hours later they are back together. Supposeable this guy was talking to another girl, and Im assuming she got jealous, but I think there is more. She kept saying he doesnt spend enough time with her, he will go smoke drugs and spent hours with his friends ignoring her. She seems rather unhappy, I told you shouldnt have to fight for a relationship, or for a man. If you rbought these up to him and he doesnt want to fix them then I would tell him see yea. No point in sitting around trying to be happy, and make him happy its not going to help especially since they are fighting majority of the time, clearly its not a happy relationship.
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9 responses
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
24 Jul 12
It is definetly time now, she will only waste more of her precious time wishing he would change. I have been in relationships like this and have seen it happen with others. They don't last for long. One of my closest online male friends had a relationship with his current GF being jealous all the time (or maybe that is what he wanted me to beleive anyways), he is quite a great deal older than her though and she seems to have a younger mentality of that of a 20 yr old (supposedly she is in her early 30's). It is hard to watch these relationships still go on and on, they will one day come to the breaking point though.
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@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
24 Jul 12
I agree, I started daating a guy and right away he was accussing me of cheating, all this other stuff. I mean the funny thing was we werent dating that long we hadnt had s*x either (thats how new the relationship was). I gave hiim one chance and I told him how I felt of his behaviour. Didnt change so I showed him the door, I dont put up with jealous fools.
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@GardenGerty (160696)
• United States
24 Jul 12
It sounds like a bad scene to start with, but she may feel she cannot leave as she would not have a place to stay. People do not realize how freeing it is to have a job. You can then make decisions for yourself and go where you want to go, etc. She needs a job and out of there.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
26 Jul 12
It is so easy to say that a relationship should be brought to an end because of the conflict that a couples goes through that we are able to see as an outsider. My best friend and her boyfriend have been doing this breaking up getting back together thing for at least the last year. Well, the last time that they got into it was the worst and he ended up spitting on her and also bruising her up pretty badly. I thought for sure that it was over between them at that point, but she is actually still talking to him.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
24 Jul 12
Sounds rather sophomoric to mr. Who does all that on Facebook but kids? Certainly not grownups.
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@BarBaraPrz (47341)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
24 Jul 12
Some people are so insecure in themselves that they believe any relationship is better than no relationship so they stick with the loser they know instead of exploring a relationship with themselves.
Since this isn't a close friend, I'd suggest you view it as a soap opera and not worry about it.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 12
On and off relationship like that won't last long. It's clearly shows that they are not happy with each other. It seems that they are not serious in their relationship. How they want to be happy if they keep arguing with each other. they should stop it and make their own way.
@seiya87 (16)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
Base on what I have read in your post I think it's time that the girl makes a decision. It is clear that she is unhappy with the relationship. However, doing this is not that easy, when you decided to trust someone and give them your heart you can't easily that it back and even when the situation gets really tough we still tend to stick around hoping that someday everything will be alright.
I do agree with what you said that there is no point in trying to be happy with the guy who doesn't do anything even when you already took the courage to speak up and point out the problem.
