The sorrow of loss
By savypat
@savypat (20216)
United States
July 24, 2012 10:25am CST
I have an elderly uncle and he lost his wife of 70 plus years. His family trys to include him in the activities he loves and he trys to enjoy these and present a
calm accepting face.
However, since I am removed from him and somewhat a stranger he confides in me.
I am truly greatful that he trusts me enough to do this. The face he shows to me is full of sorrow, this is very painful for him. I try to help, but mostly all I can do is listen and hope he will have time to heal. I know that many people who have been part of a close couple just grieve themselves to death but I keep working to show him that he is important to his family and there is a role for him if he can accept it. Any ideas that can help him?
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3 responses
@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
28 Jul 12
I am sorry about your aunt passed away.
I agree if your uncle involved in fun activities. But, it would be nice if he has friends who are fun.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
28 Jul 12
Not even a one savypat. I think that having someone to talk to is one of the best things, at this point, for him and you are giving him that. I can not imagine the life changing devastation that he must be experiencing with the loss of someone that had been his other half for so long. I wish I knew something to suggest.
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@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
24 Jul 12
Being there for him is what he needs of you right now. You are giving him someone to talk to. Beyond that, there isn't a lot you can do. He needs time to deal with his grief over the loss of his wife--grief that may be compounded by the sense of his own mortality.
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