the world is f ull of lonely people

you are right. my mom has been alone for 3 years since my dad passed away and while i try to call her every day, i have a busy life with kids and a job. it is nice when people call her or stop in for a bit. she is also pretty good at calling people that are shut in. she regularly calls a lady who lost her husband early this year which is nice.

One of the worst things is when you're divorced and all your friends desert you. I have 2 friends that we shared left over from my marriage. They are great people so they're still friends with both of us, God bless 'em! The rest of them I'm probably better off without. I know how you felt about being lonely among 90 people. Just because there are a lot of people around doesn't mean you're not lonely! It's tragic how a change in status can mean the loss of friends and social activities.

I am also scared of changes and sometimes I find it scary to meet new People because these Days you just do not know who they are and what they are People do not know being lonely is not always just when you are alone, it is also you can be surrounded by 1000s of People and still be lonely because they are not your loved ones

We don't need to live in the middle of the woods to feel lonely, and we can feel lonely in the middle of a crowd. The notion of family is less strong today than before, and I believe that a large part of the 90 other people living with you would also prefer to be near their family... I never forget a friend, but I can stay several months without giving/asking some news to some of them. I stop my response : I feel guilty, sorry.

Yes, the world has lonely people in it. I’m not sure if busy people are better off just busy, they just do not think as much about it. It is not much fun feeling lonely. The one good thing about lonely is you feel this desire to reach out to people and some that are needy too, respond well to your hand. I think that goes for everyone and is not age dependent. Although children usually have less to say, I do remember as a child feeling sad and lonely but it did not take much to make me happy again. – blue doll

Yes, indeed, I have a lot of people close to me that are lonely. Usually, I give them a hug or a pat. These are the times that we need someone who could pull us up. Consoling words, just to be with that someone. Even silence can make a difference as long as we are there. Our presence would mean so much. Thanks Hatley.

I know we need to think of others more often. Another class of people who feel left out are people who live in isolated areas or cannot do things because they have children, no money and no sitter. Right after my third grand child was born there was a woman's group thing my daughter was invited to. Her hubby could stay at home with the kids, but they still would not be able to afford it, but someone gave her a gift card to go. That was sweet. I see when I am doing product demonstrations that tons of people are just dying for a friendly word.

They do say miracles happen. In a perfect world maybe.

You're right, Hatley. It bothers me in particular to see lonely older people, like those who have been widowed as you say. I know what loneliness is. When you're sick, it's easy for people to forget about you. And my mom, who was my best friend, is a no longer a presence. She has dementia, and you can't even have a conversation with her. That makes me feel the loneliness. She just turned 53 and I've lost everything about her that was so special.

I truly believe, Ms. Hatley, that loneliness can lead to a sad depression! On this small Island, I do maintenance work at the only Senior's home, and I spend a lot more time just chatting, and having a laugh, than I actually work. I have been part of the support system for many years, and am well known...but for me, it is such a delight to see the sparkle in the eyes, the gratefulness when I can just do a little something! I think about 3 years ago I wrote about getting (locally) little Christmas trees for each unit, and the joy it brought! I do understand. HUGZ

When I first left work I did meet with my ex co-worker and we would have lunch together occasionally. But eight years down the road I hardly ever hear from her. I know she has her health problems and her husband does too. And my BFF has been in Oklahoma now for years. So I have no friends around at all.

Being lonley is a terrible thing.When I worked at an oph they used to love it when someone new came in the residents loved to talk.Just someone to take an interest in them.Ask how they are and listen to them for while they used to love to hear about your life.Others just did not want to know they were bitter and thought they were being patronised and could be extremely rude.Where we live it is a lovely community we look out for the old people and keep an eye on them.They do say you can be lonely in a room full of people.It should be treated like an illness as it does get people down.It must be a relief for your son knowing you are safe in a nice environment.My mother in law is 90 she is not very mobile and insists on living in her own home.We have tried to tell her she might like to go to a home.We would still come and see her and she would have company.My husband works long hours and we live a long way away from her and he worries all the time as we all do.The phone will go to say she has had another fall.She is lucky as her son and daughter live nearby and they have to pop in to make sure she is eating.She has carers go in twice a day she will not let them do much for her.It is a nightmare with all the worry.Thank goodness you did go into a home.At least your son can sleep at night which is more than we do sometimes when she is ill.We don't want to dump her we love her we just want her safe and cared for.

Hi Hatley.I will say that you are right that there are a lot of people out there that do feel that they are on their own, lonely, either due to them living away from people that they know, family or just due to not seeing old friends.I feel a lone in a sense that I can not get to see the people that I would like to see, as either they have moved, work or just lost contact details.I am like you and can not get out to see people and sometimes I feel very alone even with all my family around me, if that makes sense.I do feel that it would be better if I could go out with them, perhaps then I would see my other friends as well who I use to see and o out with.I hope you are keeping well and it is a shame that you do not live closer, as we may have got to meet up for a coffee.

Hi Hatley! Oh yes, I can think of quite a few lonely people. In the skating world, I met and knew a lot of single folk . . . it was comforting to be a part of such a tight group, but when everyone went home, they were "alone". So many people wishing for love . . . and I should feel fortunate because I've never been alone in my adult life. I had a friend who was nearly 80 something . . . we shared the same birth month . . . and at the time we would go out to lunch every year during our birth month. He lost his wife over 20 years ago at the time, and they never had children. He was very particular about who he was friends with - so I felt "honored" we could be friends. Since I had family, I haven't had time to visit him or anything these past few years . . . oh gosh, I hope he is still "around". You remind me I do need to go see him, I really do.

Personally I do not know how to get a hold of one person I used to work with who is now retired. I know her Health was bad when she worked with us, and last I heard she never answers her phone even when someone tries to call. So sometimes when people retire they are lonely, or just want to be left alone. But if there are people who would let me in, I would take time to get to know them, and do something with them if they wanted just to know I care.

Hello Hatley. You are right. Some people are even more lonely having other people around them. World is changed now. Everyone lives in his small shell, trying to survive and make the best decisions for himself. Actually where we lived before, we didn't know anyone in the building. We were only saying something like cold "hello", just to mention that we have seen this face many times, but with the thought that we even don't know the name of the face.

Most of the people are alone in the world even they have friends or parents of couples. Some children feels alone because their parents get divorced. Some parents feels loneliness because their son leave them some persons feels lonely because their friends hurts them. In this world everybody feel lonely due to any reason. Wow! Dadi ma you crossed 50000 congrats.

Your thread reminds me of my Mum who is 91.My Dad passed away in 2010,since then she feels very lonely, much more She is a little hard of hearing due to taking diuretic all the time after having heart failure,so she cann't talk with others well. I don't know how to let her pick up apart from letting her hear Bible recording-she is a convinced christian and often keeping her company.

Dear aunty your fanta is came back so dont feel lonely Now fanta is came but only for one day. Now our festivals are started Rakhi is coming then Kajal tii is coming so I am busy in that. Whenever you feel lonely you read my old discussions and comments I trust you will laugh after reading my old discussion like bathing two women in single bathroom, reading newspaper in toilet etc.

I try to keep in touch with all of the people who I have encountered in my life. Just like you said, invite for a cup of coffee or just have lunch together to catch up with one another.