I Just Don't Think It's Right...
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
July 24, 2012 3:28pm CST
This couple came over and were hanging out with my husband and I. My husband and the guy got along amazingly well. Me & the girl kind of got along. We didn't have any major problems, she is just a little young yet. Thinks certain things are cool when I clearly do not.
So after they left my husband and I were talking. He said oh yeah did she tell you that she is pregnant? I said no, how far along is she? He said 4 months. (She does not look pregnant at all, she is so thin!).
Anyway, I was angry because while we were outside not only was she smoking cigs but she just got done telling me that she smoked w@@d at her friends house and now and then takes pain pills when she is too stressed out! If I knew she was pregnant, I probably would have said some things to her about what I thought. Lucky for her I didn't find out until after she left!
I know its her business not really mine but it makes me mad that she is hurting that baby! =(
What are your thoughts on pregnant women doing these things?
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Jul 12
I absolutely agree with you. It makes me worry for that child and her fiance. Most likely, I can almost bet on it that he will be a full time single dad without her in the picture. He is the total opposite of her. He talks about his faith and how he is trying so hard to change her and get her off of all that stuff. Who knows if he will be successful...
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@AmbiePam (92518)
• United States
24 Jul 12
That's pretty bad. I have to say, it would bother me. But she's got to know it's not good for the baby. I mean we all know smoking is bad for us, so even a dimwit would be able to ascertain it's harmful to a baby as well. I heard a country song once where the singer was talking about how back in his day the mothers smoked and drank while they were pregnant, and the kids turn out just fine. My response to that would be sure, sometimes you turn out fine. But a lot of times you don't. I would hope women wouldn't want to take the chance.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
24 Jul 12
The smoking thing is their personal choice. Studies on pregnancy and smoking have not produced any 100% results other than possible low birth rate. I have known a few women who were advised to not quit cold turkey while pregnant since the fetus was already used to the nicotine.
However, I would 100% say something about the weed and the pain killers. If she is young, she may not even be seeing a Dr or be educated on what those things could do to the baby.
As far as her being thin, you can't judge people on that. I barely looked pregnant at all. When I was about to have my daughter I was smaller than a lot of women at 6 months.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
25 Jul 12
I am anti baby so my thoughts go dark on this subject. When I see a pregnant woman drinking and smoking w@@d I think she Doesn't really want the baby but can't get an abortion. I know if someone told me I was pregnant and then that I couldn't get an abortion, I would Start smoking and drinking! So that is my first thought.
but most times it is just a case of ignorance. she doesn't understand what she takes in , the baby takes in. she said she is young and into different things. So she may just think " I'm going to do what I want before I get too big" It is sad.
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@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
25 Jul 12
Don't get me started!
The roomie's niece in law was smoking like a smokestack when she was pregnant with her children, but I wasn't around for the first one, and when I said something she said "the doctor says that quitting now would be worse for the baby than smoking".
I STILL think she was deluding herself - at least I know she's never going to get pregnant again, she had her tubes tied...
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
25 Jul 12
Unfortunately, I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 4 months along so I did smoke because I had my period and no signs! At 4 months my period finally stopped and thats when I found out! =( I was smoking half a pack per day. My doctor did tell me the same thing actually. She said to cut back but don't quit cold turkey because the withdrawals will hurt the baby. So I smoked 2 cigs a day.
I felt horrible about it but I didn't know. =( If I did I would have quit immediately!
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@celticeagle (166792)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jul 12
I would seek her out or wait until she came over again and tell her exactly what I thought. This woman/girl needs to know. Does she not have a family that would help her out? I wonder if she doesn't care, is ignorant or what. Doesn't her boyfriend care? He is obviously the one that told your husband.
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@GardenGerty (160642)
• United States
25 Jul 12
I agree, it is not right. It sounds as if you two do not really have a lot in common. She is running lots of risks with her pregnancy and with that baby's life.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
25 Jul 12
It is really sad for that poor baby. =( No, we have nothing in common at all. I like her boyfriend and so does my husband so that makes it difficult! She is young and immature. I am mature, have children and have not been into "partying" for almost 10 years now. Totally different!
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Jul 12
A good mother would take care of the baby from the start...including stopping smoking, drinking etc. If they realized the damage that it did.....well.....maybe they would stop. The situation is sorry for the new baby. Kinda makes you worry about how she will take care of it after it's born!
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Jul 12
Yes, a mother should not do things to hurt their baby. I feel so bad for the baby. It is going to be addicted to so many things. Who knows if it will have major problems or even make it. =( So sad...I don't think she will be the one caring for the child to be honest. I think the father of the baby is going to get full custody after the baby is born. I don't see them lasting together so he will get the baby most definitely!
@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
25 Jul 12
I agree with you. I don't think it is right either. Someone told me recently that my sister had actually smoked w@@d while she was pregnant with my youngest niece. My sister is pregnant again and under lots of stress and I can imagine she will smoke w@@d during this pregnancy as well. Some people don't understand what they are doing to their children. I think it is a shame. I do plan on speaking to my sister about this because it is so wrong.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
21 Aug 12
I think this is really unfair!
I think it's unfair to the child within that her mother's ignorance on health could somehow affect the baby. Every child deserves the right to be healthy!
The world is troubled enough for a child to come into this world with a health disadvantage.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Aug 12
I totally agree with you bounce. It is unfair to the baby. The world is hard enough without having a disability or disadvantage. It is so wrong for her to be doing this to her child.
