what do this kissing, hugging, and saying I love you means?
By joicerey
@joicerey (46)
Philippines
July 25, 2012 11:05pm CST
I met a guy a few months ago . He just moved to this town for his job with no relatives. We see each other every week to watch movies,have a dinner and some night outs. he always told me that his intention is only for friendship and it doesn't bother me at all cause thats what I wanted too.At first my feelings for him was just for friend and if someone asked us about our relationship we told them that were just friends. its almost 6 months and we started kissing and hugging each other. then I realized I'm inlove with him.as time goes he told me that He love me so I also told him that I love him too. after that we act like a couple and saying I love you and kissing alot. one night he invited me to go out with his colleagues and one of them asked me if his already my boyfriend,I'm confuse about our standing if were just friends or more. I don't want to assume so I just told the guy to ask him. he didn't answer. after that night he asked me if what do I see the way he treat me, Im really not good on this type of situation,I don't want to assume so I told him that he treat me like he's inlove with me even though the truth is his not, and make me fall for him with a question mark tone, he stares at me and told me not to expect anything cause all he wanted is friendship. It hurts alot I almost cry in front of him. then after that he started to change and slowly lost our communication and never heard anything bout him anymore.Its almost 5 months with no communication with him and Im still can't move on... always thinking what are those kisses , hugs and I love you all about? whose wrong or right?
3 responses
@jobfindonline (1744)
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26 Jul 12
sorry to hear that, it must be very painful for you as a woman. so sad too many men do that way in a girl but have no real intention to enter any commitment. You just said that it's been 5 months now, he really caused so much pain in your heart. Dear please move on, tell yourself that you don't deserved a guy like that. He is not even a worthy of your single second.. If both of you are just friends why there were kissing, hugs, I love you words and the like that only people in a relationship do? Come one, any people could tell that the two of you were more than just friends. Both of you have mistakes. You allow him to treat you like that without clarifying your feelings about him and what he felt on you before you made those kissing and hugs. But since it's already over, I suggest you move on now.
@pebblez8989 (321)
• United States
26 Jul 12
i remember i was in this situation with a guy he always told me that he wanted to be friends only but he always gave me this feeling that he wanted to be more then friends with me i swear i thought he was falling in love with me because he would always hang out with me. he would always tell me he loves me and kiss me. i think i scared him off when i told him if he falling in love with me. but he just told me in my face that he is not and that he only see me as a friend with benefits. i told him i'm not looking for that. and after that he just never tried to talk to me again i was shock because all he wanted was to use me. its hard to move on sometimes.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
26 Jul 12
Of course your description tells the guys showed interest in you and made you fall in love with you. Maybe he just wanted to take advantage of you. But thank goodness you are alright. He first told you that he wants friendship only but we as human beings, when a girl and boy meet regularly and spent time together, there is lot of chances the a feeling of love will develop. It will surely happen. So don't think about it because it is not worth your time and energy. He doesn't know your worth and maybe he is doing this to many girls. So just try to focus on things that diverts your mind from thinking about him, you will be over it soon. Have a goo day
