Forgiveness in Relationships
By Chime221
@Chime221 (35)
Togo
July 26, 2012 12:11am CST
I've been wondering why it is easier for a woman to forgive and even forget the infidelity of her husband but very hard for the man to forgive her wife?
2 responses
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
26 Jul 12
that's true! not only the husband but also even the society. it's very discriminating and very unfair. It's seems like man commiting mistakes is acceptable. But once a woman does it, it is objectionable, offensive and horrible. It's really unfair. I'm not saying that woman who is unfaithful to his husband should also be "acceptable" but if in case such happens, people should also like understand the reason behind. Woman should not be judged and be dumped like she's the most unclean human being on earth. It is the same mistake that they have committed anyway.
But maybe because the society understands that it is man's "nature" (such an ancient excuse. lol) that they are polygamous. and women tends to really be more understanding and forgiving than men...
@Chime221 (35)
• Togo
27 Jul 12
@Aejay, when i posted this same question on facebook, i got this same answer as yours, about the believe that man is polygamous in nature, but i quickly objected to that because i know that men are not half as polygamous and or unfaithful as women.
I, on the other hand, see it as wickedness on the part of men, i also see it as the general make up of men in which they believe and assert that they are the head of the family and that they are superior to women and all that crab.
Although i was once guilty of this very crime, i regret ever letting it put a scar in my relationship and deadened my trust for my girlfriend.
What i find interesting is not that men do not forgive, but that women forgives. Does it mean, they dont truely love the man?
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
it just came in my mind... another reason why most of the men finds it hard to forgive their unfaithful partners would be that maybe men tend to save their ego and pride... Men have that more than women... ;)
@pebblez8989 (321)
• United States
26 Jul 12
that's what i'm trying to figure out myself. my aunt always forgive my uncle for cheating on her and he always kept on cheating on her.i don't know how many years but it was most of there whole marriage that he did that. they been together for 9 years she finally cheats on him and broke his heart and now they are divorced because my uncle said he can't be with a cheater and that he is very disappointed and hurt at my aunt for doing that. its crazy
@Chime221 (35)
• Togo
27 Jul 12
It's really bad my dear. I've tried to figure it out since. I spoke from experience.
When i cheated on my girlfriend and she caught me, she forgave me and still pledge her love for me, but when cheated on me, i was so angry. Although i did not end the relationship, but i've not really forgiven her and i've not moved on since then. Our relationship has been without trust since then.
It beats my imagination, and i believe it's a kind and past of a systematic subjugation on women.
