My Officemate's Annoying Broken Heart

Thanks for the discussion. Having been an office manager, I've had to deal with these types of situations. I usually had to call the person in and explain to them office etiquette. Personal business does not belong in the office. Your co-worker needs to deal with his emotions but not in the office. Sometimes I've had to send the person home for several days until they can hold of their emotions. It has been my experience, when a person gets too emotional in an office situation, they loose productivity. I know I've had to stop people from doing it and in several cases it has interfered with their work and caused them to be fired. Usually, before they were fired, they were advised several times to get relationship counseling, but of course, they didn't. Co-workers can be the worse counseling and usually are too anxious to spread gossip about the person to all around them. It disrupts an office and causes problems between workers. Personally, I have had to tell people I do not want to hear it when they start these types of character assassination after a relationship. It usually makes the person who broke off the relationship appear correct in their decision and makes the person doing it appear to be undesirable. I encourage friends in these types of situations to move on and let go. Unfortunately, only some do and the others seem to distance themselves from me which as far as I'm concerned, is fine. But I do not allow them to continue to discuss their relationship with me unless they are trying to change the things they did wrong in order to improve themselves for the next relationship. I've had to advise several personal friends to seek counseling because they don't seem to be able to let go and move on.

thanks to you.. I now know a new phrase-kiss and tell. I didn't know. well it's so bad.. he should be ashamed.

I agree that he shouldn't have stooped down to her level at all but sometimes when you're put in a situation where you're so angry/ hurt you do or say things that you normally wouldn't. He's probably just trying to say things outloud as a way of making himself feel better. I would say if he's actually talking about these things at work, this is very unprofessional. If he needs to vent it should be to a friend or if it's a coworker it should be talked about outside of the workplace.

hi casey, I hate a guy who is kiss and tell I think even the ex was wrong still he shouldn't kiss and tell because the girl still need to be respected. I don't want to judge both of them but sometimes before you ended a relationship there will always be a big reason why you need to end it. I feel pity for the co worker cause he can't act enough to be a man to accept that they are not longer together it hurts really but he should start moving on instead of spreading this intimate moments they shared before. happy mylotting

Hi friend, the heart broken person is also not a good fellow, he is interested in making another relationship, may be he is using the heart broken as his tool and get sympathy with it to get a new girl friend, be careful with this kind of person and keep distance from him. May be he is a play boy. Be care ful

I know how you feel. At first we can't help but be sympathetic as all of us have our hearts broken as well. Once or twice crying at work is kinda creepy but still ok especially if you are the offended party. More than that is wayyyy too awkward already. Starting to talk crap about the ex is low. We understand his need to feel good, but no amount of kissing and telling will ever make things right again between them. He is actually damaging his own reputation doing this rather than his ex.

It can be a little annoying when somebody brings their personal problems to work with them, but you must understand just how hard things can be when you've broken up with somebody. If they had been a huge part of your life up until that point then it can be incredibly difficult to be able to let things go and move on, even if that might be exactly what you would like to do. You should try being there for them and talking to them about their problems, as you might find that they are able to get on with their work a lot easier if they have somebody to talk to about the things that have been worrying them.

I kinda understand him but I don’t like the way he treated the matter. I mean, he should have been relieved that the girlfriend isn’t exactly the type you want to have a commitment with. I guess he really wanted to get back at her so he did what he did. But he should learn to get over it. I think you did the right thing for being a good listener to his problem but like I said, he never to go back to reality. There’s nothing wrong with revenge or getting payback but life goes on and that girlfriend isn’t the only girl in the world. I guess he is just trying to let him ager out. Give it a time and maybe he will forget the whole thing. You also need to forgive him because apparently, he went into an over - emotional mode when he was dumped by the girlfriend. I don’t think he means to insult you I the process.