Can we live alone ?
By vasu90k
@vasu90k (70)
Malaysia
July 27, 2012 12:38am CST
Many people have contributed to develop a child as a good member of the family as well as in the society. We always need assistance ,protection and guidance of others. For example we always need the assistance of various people and institutions for our weddings, funerals,other ceremonies and other common work.
We are unable to live without the assistance of those people. All over activities have been made easy through working in cooperation with others.God relationships influence our daily tasks to a great extent indeed.
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19 responses
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
28 Jul 12
For me, I guess for some they can, but up to how long can he/she survive loneliness if we have no one to share the things that she/he had accomplished/attained in life. So I guess it's very hard to live alone. We need others to survive and to be with someone. I guess, it's the same thing with other creatures, they need someone in the same species where they should belong.
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
30 Jul 12
I think God created us to live with someone else, or at least be mated. I lived alone after my divorce and my daughter chose to go with her dad. At first it was hard, but one must learn to live with themselves first before they can successfully live with anyone else.
As for combating loneliness, I have jumped on myLot, Facebook, or picked up the phone. But most often, I just lose myself in a good book and I'll forget about the world for awhile.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
I'm sorry to hear about your daughter who chose to live with her Dad. I knew how it felt to be alone but at least you have your friends to talk to if you need them. And yes, because of modern technology we can share, talk or asked opinions from friends especially in some social sites like mylot, Facebook and others.
Getting busy is also one way to fight boredom.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
27 Jul 12
Many people live alone but they still have happiness life and they make much contribution to this society. Everyone has a different goal in this life. Some people just like to get married, have kids, etc..but some people want to have more time to focus on their work, or just do charity to help the others...
@vasu90k (70)
• Malaysia
27 Jul 12
Hi friend,
It's true that many people live alone and lead a happy life.I meant living alone without any relationships . Although they lead an independant life if they make much contribution towards socity they are keeping good relationships.If they keep good relationships they are not living alone.
People have their own desires whether to get married and have kids or to stay independant and get more time to focus on their work.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
As I know in general we are created to have companion. At the start Adan created alone but as the Lord saw him lonely God created his lady Eve. In that matter there is an indication that we cannot live alone.
In my case I tried to live alone but really we can't. In the community itself once there's something happen our neighbors are oblige to help us.. In order to live happily we need people around us aside from our family... So really we need people..for me I need some special people that makes me happy and always happy..have a happy day..! :)
@vasu90k (70)
• Malaysia
27 Jul 12
Yes i agree with you. from the start God has given us an example that we can't live alone by creating Adam and Eve. If we live alone i can't imagine what will happen. As you have told when we are in danger it's our neighbours who comes to our help.Many people have contributed to develop a child as a good citizen.It shows that noone can live alone.
@missliss08 (766)
• United States
31 Jul 12
I lived all by myself for ten years, fully independent, and I loved it. I love being by myself. I love being self sufficient. I love independence. With all that said, I now love my husband and my children and enjoy their company immensely. So, to answer your question, yes we can live alone, but it all depends on where you are in life. I have no fear for when my children go out on their own. I am content with just me.
@nupur123 (392)
• Hyderabad, India
7 Sep 12
Living all by urself and living alone is two different things . Ur living independly doesn't mean that u have no friends or relatives.
U cannot be alone when they r with u mentally . U know that when u r in need they will come to help u .
But when u r alone that means u have no one near to chat or share.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
27 Jul 12
I see where you are going and for me it does very much apply.
It is no longer a matter of "can I" survive outside what I have but "when can I" survive? I could not survive if I did not have a home to come to - my child hood home bought and paid for, no mortgage no rent and... other circumstances that allow me to stay here.
there are no jobs in this area. Right now there is not really a way to get OUT of this area. So right now if you want think of it like this I am "Stuck" but right now I do not think like that.
Right now this is the option I have but I am not angry with it. I enjoy my time here because of the nature and because I can spend time with God.
Anyway back to your question - I do not know if it is possible to live "on your own" in the world - because, I am FAR from the "in the world" and this is how I like it for right now.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
27 Jul 12
Loneliness can be difficult and a struggle for us. I am sorry that you start to feel that way, I do also. It has been rough for me at times because I do not have a lot of friends but I have a good family, I will be alright. I hope that you will too!
Yes, spending time with God helps a lot, too.
@vasu90k (70)
• Malaysia
27 Jul 12
Hi friend ,
It may be your option that you can live alone. There are some people who experience the same situation like you, but even then they keep good relationships. I can't stay alone even for a few days as i feel very lonely. Don't know whether it's due to the reason that I'm used to it.
If you can enjoy time with the natural beauty you may not feel lonely.By spending our time with God gives us pleasure.
@vasu90k (70)
• Malaysia
27 Jul 12
Hi friend,
I agree with you. We can't live alone. We always need the assistance of others in our daily tasks. Working in cooperation with others makes our duties easy.It helps to build good relationships.
If we keep good relationships the world will be a better place to live in.
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
29 Jul 12
I lived on my own for years. Yes, I had friends that I lived near, but to be honest, I actually began resenting having to always go to their homes, of having to always follow their rules. I go to bed early and wake up late-even on New Year's Eve! So I'm the first asleep and the first to wake.
I enjoy being around people but there are times that I crave being alone. I like to read books, sometimes more than one at once. Obviously that leads to a cluttered home. I've grown accustomed to not being able to count on anyone for assistance, especially since my parents are gone. I rarely ask for assistance because it's easier to struggle on my own than to be disappointed again and again.
I don't agree with your statement that we require assistance and guidance for ceremonies-I'm engaged and although I'd have loved to get married at Niagara Falls, my fiance said he wanted to get married in Vegas. So I chose the how and where. I've even went alone to try on my wedding dress-no one helped me. And with God, we're never alone. Granted, having others in your life can make it easier, but then you become dependent on their being there all the time.
@albto_568 (1268)
• Costa Rica
27 Jul 12
We are social animals, although so many people don´t like to think about us as animals, we are, we are made to live in society, and living in society means relay on others for some escential parts of our existence, and to be under someone else´s domain sometimes. Being alone, is no natural for man, it leads to depression and other illness conditions.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
Yes we can live alone. I used to live that way and it's fun. You can do whatever you want in life. Being independent is great and I love it so much. How I wish I could turn back times. I really regret for not maintaining my independence. Everything turns into mess.
@vasu90k (70)
• Malaysia
27 Jul 12
hi Jenith ,
Yes, it may be your wish that you can live alone. May be it gives you fun.Being independant is advantageous at certain times indeed, but not always.
We can't get everything done alone without the help of others.Also to develop us as good members of the society our family members have contributed a lot i hope. Having good friends i hope help you solve many of the problems in life.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
27 Jul 12
When I was a young adult, I somehow let that notion seep
into my thoughts..But I will never forget my great aunt
telling me "we can't live in this life alone".. I was at
that point not agreeing with her..But believe me I truly
do know what she means...It took some matureing to under-
stand..But now I got it and I truly do agree with you...
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
In life, we need to help and need assistance from each other. You can't ever do the things on your own because you aren't perfect. Don't think too much about your pride and not accept help from others. You can do it with the help of others.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
27 Jul 12
Certainly no. We need each other in order to live in this world. Just staying alone for a certain time can make us very lonely. How much more if we are alone for the rest of our life? That is what life is all about.
@vasu90k (70)
• Malaysia
27 Jul 12
Hi Aries,
It's true ,we can't lead a successful life without the help of others.Even for a short period we feel very lonely if we stay alone.
Assistance of other people is very essential in life. No one can lead a happy life without the protection and guidance of others. What a great deal our family members have contributed towards us in developing us as good citizens.We can't forget them.
@hustspring (95)
• China
27 Jul 12
Of course no.You can't really live alone,that's impossible.We live in this world where we are connecting to each other.If we live alone I can't imagine what will happen.Just because we live with different people,our life can be so colourful.As you mentioned,assistance,protection and guidance from others can help us live better.If there are just you alone in this world maybe you can't survive.
@vasu90k (70)
• Malaysia
27 Jul 12
Hi friend,
Yes i agree with you.It's impossible to live alone.How can we survive without the help of others.
The world will be a better place to live in when all over activities have been made easy through working together. I too can't imagine how we can live alone. Being alone i feel very lonely.
@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
27 Jul 12
No, 'cause:
Humans are social creatures.
Humans are subject to social norms.
Humans expect judgment from others.
Humans need to interact with others
Human potential will develop when living with others.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
Hi there Vasu90k,
With regard to your topic, as far as I believed, nobody can really lived alone. As the old saying says, "No man is an island". Meaning, nobody can live alone too long. Although at first, he/she can be alone but, he/she will look for a fellow after a day or two. It is not he/she will feel the sadness or loneliness but it is a human nature. Looking for a somebody whom we can talk to. Looking for someone whom we can be comfortable with.
@cinderella8809 (64)
• China
27 Jul 12
of course no!I think we can not live alone.I had a good friend 2 years ago.She disappeared for half a year.I didn't know the reason until she came back.She hide herself as she lost her job and live alone without contact anyone,but during the days she felt sad,hopeless and helpless and also could not sleep well.She told me that it was terrible.Yeah,we need care from our friend,and family.In the public,it is important to have team spirit.As you know,many hands make work light.We need the partners to achieve our work.
Thanks
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
27 Jul 12
Hi friend, it is really hard to live alone without any relations, we need our friends and relatives for most of our activities. As you mentioned we always need others while functions and celebrations.