appearance vs. behavior
By missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
Philippines
July 27, 2012 6:40am CST
if you are to choose, what would you prefer, having a very handsome or pretty partner with all the pleasing personality and really got the looks but has an attitude problem or this not so pretty or handsome person but with good behavior and all.
for me i am not so adamant about the looks because what is looks when both of you always quarrel and do not live a happy life because of misunderstandings. i seek a harmonious life with my partner and a happy one.
3 responses
@altasmucker (13)
• United States
30 Jul 12
Honestly, looks aren't everything. Don't get me wrong, handsome men are fun to look at, however, if the personality doesn't match the looks, that just makes the person ugly. I think it's always what's inside that counts. Cause if they know how to treat a woman, it makes them handsome inside and out. When they are just pretty to look at, but you can't get along, there's really no point cause you're never going to be happy.
@nyssa102 (748)
• United States
27 Jul 12
personality. Because all the men I've admired all 'look different' All have different heights, looks, and have made different life choices. I had a crush once on a man who was over 300 pounds and dressed very badly. I love and adore the artistic kind of personality, with all it's twists, simplicity, drive and curiosity about life. I am very happy around free spirited and creative men, that is just the way it is. When I'm with a man who is none of those things, I start to feel claustrophobic, and I want to escape. I will tell you the truth. When I was young, I as dating, for a short time, a man who had 'prospects' as they say and a well to do family. Life for him was a series of steps, creativity was not allowed. However, when I was with him I just wanted to escape, just get away. I'd go to the ladies room and just sigh, and wait for the date to end. Then, I dated an artsy type guy, who liked games, etc. The man did not have a pot to piddle in, as they say, but I was happy and felt free. I need that feeling of expanse. and it's not a thing you can create or buy. Whenever I have a crush on someone, it's not their looks, it's that feeling of 'expanse' that first attracts me. The 'I can breathe' feeling. I like that. I can live with that quite comfortably.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
28 Jul 12
oh what an experience. like me, when i am dating someone, i used to observed his actions. i don't know why i like a silent guy and that when he talks, he is sensible enough for me. i hate boastful guys and so. characteristics are best thing to see in having a man. afterall when we are in our grave, much for sure, that our body will got rotten and what made us to be in heaven is to have nice deeds and characteristics. thanks
@yansky23 (404)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
I think, I won't choose both of them. I don't need someone who is extremely attractive and beautiful girl, but atleast she must have some fair charm or presentability that will attract me. And ofcourse, it is essential for me to find someone who is kind and understanding. So I guess, I need to find balance of attributes to someone.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
i qualified to your perspective yansky (lols). oh, kidding aside, you sure to select you partner if their is spark you felt in her/ him. to say, that there are average looking person whose partner is really nice looking. because you are right about the charm that would attract you. for me, i want him unique. i cannot even explain it. i can feel that if i can see the person. so that's it! thanks
