should you stay with a jealous girlfriend/boyfriend?

Philippines
July 27, 2012 6:47am CST
actually my boyfriend is always jealous of other guys especially those guys who courted me before and still remain my friends until now. He doesn't want me to talk to them often and even gets mad when they text me. But I think I would still stay as long as it's ultimately NOT a choking relationship.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
It is normal to get jealous but not too much. Well, tell your bf to not to worry too much about your past suitors, and tell him to trust you.
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
Same thing with my husband. But he should do that to you coz you are a different girl. He should trust you no matter what.
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
He actually has a bit of a problem in terms of trust because his past girlfriend cheated on him with another guy. I'm trying to be patient but sometimes it's just so ridiculous.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
@barbie: sorry for my comment.. I meant : He SHOULDN'T do that to you coz you are a different girl." @3honor: Because of his 2 ex wives. It is stressful to be with someone who doesn't trust you much because of the past experience.
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
Hello friend! I think being jealous is just normal. However, if it's already unreasonable then i guess it's already a problem that needs to be solved ahead. In your case, just continue to show to your boyfriend that you are worth to be trusted and there's no reason for him to feel jealous to anybody. I know you boyfriend loves you so much but i hope he will not hurt you with his jealousy. I wish you both a lasting relationship. :)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
Hi there! Yes, my boyfriend tells me that he trusts me but he just can't help it when he sees a text from one of my ex-suitors. He tells me he's still working out on it. thank you so much!
27 Jul 12
I actually think that it's kinda cute when a guy gets jealous. This is one way to see that he loves you and that he cares. My ex boyfriend never got jealous, i even tried to by talking with other boys and stuff, but he never got jealous. And that made me think that he didn't care. So in a way, you should be happy that he is jealous. :)
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
31 Jul 12
I understand your situation because I also have a jealous partner. My husband is also jealous and he doesn't like when I talk to my male friends. I have one male friend that I have known for many, many years. We were friends before my husband and I met and we have never been anything but friends. My husband thinks that my friend is interested in me and that he wants to become my boyfriend, that isn't true at all, but it is hard for my husband to believe that. I think that your boyfriend is insecure and he doesn't want you to receive text messages from your friends because he is afraid that they are still interested in you. It might be hard to convince him that he has nothing to worry about, because the problem is his insecurity.
@Mashnn (4501)
27 Jul 12
I think your boyfriend is acting just like what anyone else would act. I do think you would be happy if your boyfriend is one receiving text messages from his exgirlfriend.
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
well, I do understand his jealousy but sometimes it's ridiculous.
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
29 Jul 12
There is a reason why he would get jealous. That is because he loves you and he wishes that you loves him as much as he does. That is very common and reasonable. If you love him a lot and you see that some extremely beautiful girls always by his side, I am sure that you would have felt the same. Try to understand this and perhaps you can still befriend with those courted you before, but remember to be conscious of your current relationship and maintain the friendly distance. My girlfriend did jealous with me sometimes when she saw the girls who liked me contacts me. I understand how she felt and I maintain the only friend distance with them as I know that I am in a relationship which I should be committed.
• Bangladesh
27 Jul 12
So you are enjoying provoking madness of your friend? No. Your likings should be similar to your friends likings and vice versa.
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
I'm not actually provoking him to be mad. I'm not also asking everyone to text me, they just do because most of my ex-suitors are also my friends. do you think I should tell my friends not to text me anymore?
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
28 Jul 12
Jealousy is a normal human emotion . I dont think anyone would feel comfortable with their spouse ex still hanging around . If you rather lose your current boyfriend to remain friend with you ex, if that's what you want , its best to leave sooner tan later .
@simonelee (2715)
• China
27 Jul 12
It's okay to have a jealous partner as long as he won't get physical and emotionally attack you. Sometimes we get flattered if we sense that they are overly jealous, right? And sometimes we do it intentionally to feel how special we are. Yes, it's okay as long as it's healthy for both of you.
• United States
27 Jul 12
I think that it depends upon the extent to which he takes his jealousy and the reasons for him being jealous. There are some people that are raised to think in a particular manner. I was in a relationship with a person that was taught that you should not have any contact with an ex, even if you have children with him or her. I think this is ridiculous, especially if you have children with the person. It took some time for him to understand how and why I thought the way I did, but eventually he came to understand what I was saying, and after that he was not jealous. Everybody is not the same, though, and your situation might be vastly different than mine.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
28 Jul 12
It can be difficult to stay with someone who is jealous. We love this person and want to be with them but jealous can be a vicious obstacle to overcome. It is in the best interests of everyone involved to find a way past the jealousy. figure out why it exists and find a way to make it fade away. Relationshiops can be destroyed so quickly when jealousy is allowed to raise its ugly head. Leaving someone in jealous is not the answer. Finding a way to remain together could prove to be the turning poing of the relarionship/
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
27 Jul 12
Well, you have to understand that he loves you, and that his attachment to you, probably is disturbed that other boys are courting. From a certain point of view, I can also understand. I also say that anyway your boyfriend seems to me that nurtures a very strong jealousy towards you. after all, you could very well talk with other boys, where would the problem be? However, having said that, we are all different, from every point of view!
@Alesma (167)
• Czech Republic
27 Jul 12
First, you should assess to what extext his jealousy bothers you. Every realationship, in my opinion, requires certain level of "healthy" jealousy. That being said, your relationship can either be strengthened or impaired. To me, the worst type of jealousy is the one based on irrational ideas, which can undoubtedly ruin your relationship.
• China
27 Jul 12
In relatinships once something wrong you should find where the problem is.Maybe both of you have done something wrong.A jealous girlfriend or boyfriend means she/he cares about you too much.In your case you should talk to your boyfriend and solve this problem.Every people should have their own space in relationships.So communication maybe a good solution.