Love is Really Fascinating Sometimes!
By ronadelle
@ronadelle (1547)
Philippines
July 27, 2012 11:59am CST
I and my husband had a petty disagreement today. Well, it was because we both have our own personal reasons on throwing tantrums. He went ahead of me to come here to Manila as he had to pick Malaysian friends from the airport. Since I still have my class and exams I told him that I will just take the bus afterwards. So as usual, the traffic took me almost 6 hours to reach Manila to meet him. I saw a missed call on my phone when I got in the LRT. Then I called him back. He was asking me to hurry because he has no keys to the church office to where we'll stay for the night. He was like irritated when I said that I neither do have the key with me. I kept my cool but I was actually irritated too because of hunger from that long travel.
So when I arrived, i went directly to the maintenance guy who keeps the spare key. I was quiet and did not kiss him either. I was like, hey! Didn't you think of this and that you have to wait for me to do it for? Hehe, but that was only on my mind. When I finally opened the door, he immediately said sorry.
Hubby: Sorry Honey for that call. I thought that the key was with you. Maybe i was just tired from driving and entertaining the guests.
Me: (thinking) Sorry too for the cold shoulder. I was just thinking that you may think of other solution rather than wait for me to do it. See? You must have not waited outside for long.
H: I forgive you. (gave me a kiss) So, do you forgive me too?
Me: (with grinning smile on my face) I'm still thinking about it.
Then we both laugh out loud about the drama that has been going on. Lol!
So what about you? How do you settle oetty fights with your lover?
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6 responses
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
28 Jul 12
It's so good of your husband to say sorry, after he realizes his mistake. My husband don't ever say "sorry" even if it's his mistake. He would though, hug me and make a joke out of it.
I still prefer to hear the word "sorry" though.
Lucky you my friend.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
I really hope that someday he will learn how to say sorry too, indeed.
@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
My hubby was like that too. He doesnt say sorry before but in the long run, i think he learnt it from me as i always tell him, words matter a lot too. I hope you hubby will be able to say sorry also. Magic words!
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
28 Jul 12
I'm glad that your husband apologized. It is amazing to me as well how my husband has to wait for me to do things. It's like he needs me to do everything for him. Like he can't even put clothes in the dryer without needing my help. We usually settle arguments by telling each other to say sorry "first".
@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
Oh, i am not alone! I find it amazing really when my hubby would just wait for me to do things he can do too. Simple things, right? I really wonder why this happens to guys once they married. I think it is because they have found someone to depend on too. What do u think?
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
18 Aug 12
I agree with you. I think it is because they are start to rely on us for everything. Then they start to take us and the things we do for granted. But give them a day or two left alone with the house, kids,etc and they would start to appreciate all that we do. I wish though that they would just think about things ahead of time and just say that they appreciate what we do. It's never that easy though .
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
28 Jul 12
Thats a funny story now that you look back I am sure. Me and my hubs dont fight much at all. We have had like 5 big arguments in 12 years. Which at the beginning was an adgustment for me since my ex and I fought ALL the time. He doesnt like to argue so in the beginning when I would be angry and fight with him, he would just not respond. Boy would that make me mad! I felt he was ignoring me. But he just wanted to set that up early that we would not just have arguments. But when one of us is being snippy the other one will do say something with humor to tone it down. And there have been times that when he was being grumpy that I have just gone up to him and kissed him in mid sentance. That always stopped them right away.! But the few big ones we have taken some time away on a walk (usually I go for the walk) and then we return and talk things out and just hold onto one another and tell one another we love each other and that we are sorry. Because we dont like making one another sad or upset.
@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
I like that when you said you go for a walk. Thats a good anger management. It led you to settle things in a positive way! Keep it up!
@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
27 Jul 12
We complete the argument is to do activities together. Without the word "sorry" or "honey". We have spoken from the heart. Next, we made ??up again.
@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
Now that's what I'm talking about! Lol.. Nice answer my friend!
@oindy54 (3445)
• India
27 Jul 12
Hi friend,
It felt so nice to read about your experience today!Both of you seem to be very much in love with each other and that is the most important thing in a relationship in my opinion.
Love can truly be fascinating at times, I agree with you fully. I have been in a long relationship and have experienced this several times. We do have petty quarrels and sometimes we are arguing about our views on a film or a person or a book, and we both are grumpy. Then suddenly we both will melt and smile at each other. I don't know how to explain it but it is just magical and all our anger or irritation melts away at that one moment and it seems as if nothing had happened. We have had the ups and downs in our relationship as most couples do but even when we have had serious arguments, it has not lasted very long because we have been unable to stay without talking to each other more than a few hours.
@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
Oh, you must be so sweet and cute together. It's really magical, right? I can only enjoy every bit of these moments as it really feels good to love and be loved.
@debbygirl (213)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
When me and my love had fight, he would always be the first to say sorry..:)
even if it's my fault sometimes hehe...
I don't know, i don't say sorry but rather do something that would show i feel sorry to him.
My hubby is sweeter to me than i to him. :) I'm not showy that's it. :)
@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
Wow! You are such a queen! Imagine, your hubby always is the one to say sorry first. Just a suggestion though, apologizing and saying sorry means a lot. So learn saying sorry back. You will see the big difference and your hubby will appreciate you saying it. Sorry is one of the magic words that makes someone feel he/she is valued so much.