Walking around in Public Feeling Constantly like I'm being Judged..

You just have to have confidence when you do something before an audience. Just enjoy it and don't think of what people will say.

I think it this way, do not care about the people. I just want to ask you one thing, it is the people that say to you something when you say they judge you or is it that you THINK that they judge you? Since you have written that you feel it, then I think you have to change the way you look at things. Forget about others around you. If you are famous in your area than feel proud and confident. Many times people stare at you because you got something and they don't. So, feel good about yourself and the way you are. You can't run away from anyone here. You have to face it and change the way you look at things. have a good day.

Well, I have thoughts like that as well... but I have social anxiety disorder so I don't think it's exactly a normal and healthy thing for me to do. Anytime I'm talking to someone I haven't known for eons, I have anxious thoughts about what they're going to think of me, what they're judging me as, and I sort of apply negative interpretations to their thoughts all the time. Forget doing speeches or presentations, I have panic attacks when I try those. One of the first things I was told in therapy was that we are actually not good mind readers. We should not assume what others are thinking of us because that merely turns into a negative thought for ourselves. We're projecting judgement coming from people which is more than likely not there at all. We don't actually know what they're thinking and we really shouldn't even pretend that we're good guessers. How do we cope? We quit "mind-reading". You don't know what they're thinking.

Whenever im having presentation nor in front of a group trying to discuss something i just make sure that its me talking and not trying to copy someone else, coz if its me then if someone judge for that then at least it was me and that i gave all my best to it. Besides no one is perfect so if they think im not good enough then at least i give myself a try. I just ignore them anyway thought hanks the comments and smile to them thinking its just ok but i never think of it a way for me to stop what im doing. People are born to be a judge even me, i sometime judge other people too but i know that we have different approach and thinking.

hihi,actually i feel the same as u.whenever im around anyone,i always wonder what they really think of me,whether they see me as being nice/nasty,etc..i wished i had the ability to mind read,hehe..too bad i couldn't.. :) also similar to ur case,i also avoided people in any way possible.for instance i kept finding excuses to not turn up at gatherings,functions etc..just cos i was so afraid of being judged..actually i think a part of it stems from feelings of insecurities about oneself,probably even so far as to feeling inferior perhaps?or maybe just a problem with being social..or maybe past experiences have left one feeling bitter to the point where they just dun like humans in general any longer..sad but true..sorry but i dunno how to cope with it,but i find that when i do attend functions,and after some time getting "warmed up" by getting a drink or talking/bantering with others,i actually dun feel so self-conscious anymore..i can even joke/laugh around..but when i first step into a room/outdoors with many people around,i just kinda freeze at first..dunno y..it's just me..is that classified s anti-social?i prefer to see it s having an extreme fear of large company..hehe..

Is it a sign of paranoia or agoraphobia? I don't think that we should feel such, we may misinterpret the tiger look on you. You might be surprised me if there is no one is looking at you. Then, you will wonder why?

I used to feel this way and it was similar to how you feel and how you react to it because I couldn't cope with it then. I would also feel bad in social places and I would actually act out sometimes in ways that would hurt even my friends and family because the thoughts that it was giving me. The way that I ended up having to cope with it is that the main people who I felt were giving me this idea in my life were taken out of it. And then I learned a lot about myself this way. I have come a long way from there and I have grown. This is the only way I know how to deal with this so I hope that you can do this. i know sometimes it is not possible to cut people out of your life though. As for strangers, do not even let it bother you because they do not know anything about you.