how do you make a relationship stronger?
By cyfer_agape
@cyfer_agape (95)
Philippines
July 28, 2012 12:16am CST
let's admit it that the longer the relationship, most of it gets boring and the excitement to see each other every second, every minute is getting lesser that it used to be when you were just a new couple starting to get to know each other. but of course we don't want that to happen in our relationship. so any ideas that could possibly keep the flame burning as years pass by?
5 responses
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
28 Jul 12
I guess one of the best foundstion of relationship is friendship. My wife is used to be my best friend in college. We've been together for 9 years now. 4 years of being married.
giving respect each other is another best way to keep the love alive. When he is angry, don't get angry too (or vice versa). Don't put money as one of the reason of misunderstanding.
You are correct that as time goes, missing every minute is starting to fade. It is normal to evry relationship. Don't get too tight or strict with him.
When you had misunderstnading, try to resolve it before the day ends.
I hope this helps.
@cyfer_agape (95)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
yes..we're really the closest friends in our group and the first months of our relationship was really great and we were so open to each other that we became so comfortable with each other like brothers and sisters. but as years come and as they say, the more you become comfortable, the more you get to know who he/she really is..one of the trait that i hate him the most is when every time we have fight, i am the one who will "always" say sorry only to finish the fight cause if i wait for him to realize his mistake and be sorry, i think it will take days before that happens.and actually i never really heard him saying sorry to me every time i get mad to him..he'll just keep quite until i get relieved then act as if nothing happened.
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
It is really hard for most men to say sorry even they are the one that coommits mistakes because they feel that their egos are being stepped on when they ask sorry for their partner/
I honestly admit that I seldom say sorry when I made mistakes but I will do everything to settle any misunderstanding before the day ends.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
3 Aug 12
Hi friend, trust and understanding is important in a relationship, if we have both of them with real love and affection we will keep the relationship for a long time without any issues. It will create a great bond between the couples
@cyfer_agape (95)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
hello. trust is always there but understanding? i don't think so. i don't know if im being childish or he really is the one who needs to change.
@whoslovetanyway (58)
• Philippines
28 Jul 12
Well there are things that could still keep that flame burning, a couple could still enjoy each other's company by trying new things together in such way they could still discover more of themselves. It may be an out of town trip or may be still those simple ways like making scrapbook together, or slipping letters that reminds how they love each other. It really depends how creative, thoughtful and resourceful an individual is. Sometimes fights could add a bit of spice in a relationship. ;)
@cyfer_agape (95)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
fights, that's what we always have...well, i am trying to find ways to keep the flame..sometimes i'll be the one to give him ideas that we should go out sometime and i would tell him sometimes how i really love to receive flowers,i love this and that to really give him a hint but he'd only say that we have been in this relationship for long and we don't need those things anymore.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
I've been married for 7 years but I think I never get bored with my relationship with my husband maybe because were really happy to each other and we feel that were still a new couple p to now. For me the good ideas to keep the relationship still hot like a flame burning as years pass by through understanding, accepting each other and no secrets at all. Always have time to each other and listen each other comments and opinion first before making decisions to prevent any misunderstanding and unnecessary arguments.
@cyfer_agape (95)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
wow! what a sweet life you have. i just hope he'd also cooperate in making this relationship alive.
@diezmara22 (818)
• Indonesia
28 Jul 12
It is a relationship, is like that, and it is a law of nature, where the longer-related will be more boring, but it's all a test. When we get past that, we can pass a single stage is better to look at the relationship better. Hopefully what's on the run as long as it can be maintained and never known the word bored.
@cyfer_agape (95)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
yah i hope so. but i think if im the only one doing those efforts to keep the flame, i think i couldn't make it.
