My 14-year old daughter has morphed into a rude, impertinent teener!!!

venessapaula, I am so so sorrypt hear that...I know it happens a lot but I thank GOD, I never experiences it..I have one daughter and one son, 42and almost 44...I was a single parent and was blessed that I didn't have to deal with the teenage drama...I think working at the police department during that time might have had something to do with it,,,what ever it was that detered them from spazzing out with me I am thankful... But I do know children can be very unruly and disruptive..My advise is to try to get some communication with your daughter,, I wish you luck and I truly hope it gets better before it gets worst an lord knows it can get a lot worst... What about her peers..I have never had a screaming matach with my children..I didn't do it to my mother and I wasn't ever going to allow my children to disrespect me in that way.. It sound like this behavior has not just happened because if it had you should be able to have a conversation with ber without any explosiveness from her... Good luck it can't be easy...to deal with....Enjoy your weekend...

Well i wouldn't really worry about it since it's just a normal "angsty" phase that every teenager goes through. I've been a teenager once, and i can vividly remember all the immature things i had said and done. I was quite a bit rebellious too. Teenagers want to be left alone in their thoughts since they are dealing with a lot of things growing up, like peer pressure for example. And it is the time when one temporarily becomes less close to their parents and more peer-oriented. So just gently ask her to have some mother-daughter heart to heart talk, that's what my late mom usually does. She always tells me after i arrive from school, "so how was your day?" and i tend to open up to her, like she is also my friend. Of course i only tell her what i want her to know though, so i really don't tell her sensitive things or even my crushes at school! lol.

Adolescence is a turbulent time. Social scientists say that adolescence is the time between being a child and an adult, and when many changes take place both physically and mentally. We've all been through our teenage years, and we could probably learn from them. For example, look from the perspective of your daughter.

It sounds like she is behaving like a typical teenager, I don't have kids of that age but I guess communication is the most important part of dealing with teenagers and to also give them some space but you should still monitor her carefully so that she doesn't do anything wrong. Good luck!

It happens during this age Venessa, don't take her reactions to your heart. I know you are a mother and you worry about your girl. But trust me she will be fine. Just see what kind of friends she is hanging out with because there is chances to go in wrong group at this age. Otherwise the effect of this development differs from person to person. In her case it is extreme, but she will be fine. Talk to her nicely. I wish you well in handling this situation.

Try to understand her as much as you can. We've all been teenagers before so more or less, you know how she thinks. An open communication is always a good thing. Don't try too hard to be a "cool" mom, just be there when she needs you. She'll want to be independent, but sooner or later she'll ask for your help about something. Just monitor her once in a while, if she's really getting out of hand, then I think an intervention is necessary. Hope it all goes well with you and your daughter!

She sounds like a pretty typical teenager. I wouldn't fight her too much. Just try to talk to her and have open communication. Once they cut you off like you are talking about, you have to monitor what they do (to make sure she isn't getting into trouble) but keep the lines of communication open. You may want to change the house rules - like no netbooks in her room. Most importantly, she discipline too, if she isn't doing her chores - punish her.

I dread dealing with that when I become a parent. Looking back when I was 14 though, I know that this was just a phase of basically wanting to be left alone it's not really anything personal. I would maybe just give her some space but if she starts saying really disrespectful things I would confront her on that, let her know how her words are making you feel.

hi I would remember she is your daughter and soon she will learn to control the hormones and be sweet and loving again. also try and get her to just talk to you one on one without either of you have a screaming fit lol. I think boys that age are easier to deal with. so much pressure from peer groups bother s girls more. maybe she has some problems at school too. try to bear with her but still set limits on rudeness now so she will not become a rude adult. its hard I do know that.do not say something mean but still be the parent in control as she might not think she wants boundaries but she really does.good luck and God bless.

Oh! Im not good in parenting hehehe... you havent spoiled her right? Could it be that she has gone out with the wrong friends??? It could be puberty hehehe.. dont panic.. shell come around.

You don't let her get to you and just tell her she has to do what ever you say because you are the mom and she has to listen

hihi,now i feel guilty cos i was also like that towards my mum in d past..it's a stage where all/most teens have to go through- rebellion..guess hormones play a huge part in this drastic change of behaviour..before i attempt to try to help,can i just ask whether any significant events happened prior to her change in behavior?for instance in the weeks leading up to it,did she perhaps have a bf she knew recently or has anything upsetting happened to her in sch?reason for asking is cos external events also do contribute to a person's change in attitude..if ur answer is "No",then perhaps u can try to allude urself to her interests so that u can find some common ground w her..for instance,u could start listening to New Direction music and maybe even hum along with it?when she feels that u are making an attempt to understand her,perhaps she will start to open up to u more.. most importantly,dun try to sound like u are interrogating or ordering her around..teens dun buy that..hope it works out for u..

Should think more carefully care for her

I have an eighteen year old now .. but when he was 14, 15 years old I wanted to kill (not really but you know what I mean)him. But I didn't. Unfortunately this is what us parents have to go through, they are discovering themselves and it is tough on all sides. I would monitor the netbook just to make sure she isn't talking to pervert(they think they know everything at that age and can get very hurt) But the good news is you will have you daughter back when she turns 16 or 17. Just hang in there.. Naomi