Why Is It Hard to Accept?

Yes. Been there a month ago and it hurt me so bad. I know i gave my best, all the efforts just to make it possible and makes everyone happy. I blame my self and everyone whom i think sabotage my work. I thought i failed but after weeks of depression, analyzing and meditation and etc. i come to realize i didn't fail. It was not successful but still i learned a lesson, saw the flaws that will help me to do better next time.

Hey, you are not the only one on this. I had gone through many failures on my own, and I felt that I am extremely stupid, and not be able to do anything at all. I felt that in compete with other people, I am inexperienced, without common sense, and low - IQ individuals. I just hate myself to be like that. I am also trying my best to do everything on my life. Sometimes, it just won't work out that way.

good day yuekim123, honestly speaking, acceptance for some reason is one the gesture that is really hard to exercise. like in a competition or on a contest, the loser or the person who didn't won in the contest was somehow teased from the wrong step that he/she did. instead of just saying, you are still our winner, hence, people tend to say, what happened, why you didn't won. and because of this that person who lost his/her winnings feel the disappointment very deeply. henceforth, he/she cannot get any good support after loosing in the competition. and this might bring him/her a negative effect somehow. same thing, you still feel the hurt since people around don't also know how to appreciate the effort done.

Maybe there are other things that were planned for you. Do not treat that experience as a failure but treat it as a learning experience wherein you can draw out the best in you to be used in future events.

In almost all situation where the situation really hurts or is not benefecial on your part, then acceptance is really difficult. It is already a given fact that we are tend to be egocentric so accepting things which is against our plan or our expectation is really disappointing and is very difficult to accept and that is also the reason why we have a denial stage in our life.

I know how that feels. Me and my husband just gave our very best, everything we've got, time, effort, money, feelings. But we still failed with our IVF procedure. It has been months ago, and we have moved on but whenever I get back to thinking about it, I still feel the pain of failing something that we just gave our very all. This too shall pass; I hope you recover sooner.

We all have lot of dreams and desires and working hard to achieve them. Some of us achieve our dreams with our hard work and luck, some other tried our maximum to achieve it, but we don't have the ability to reach it due to our luck. Since luck is also an important factor which determines our life. Not all the talented persons have the ability to shine in their life, the person who had luck and got a chance to express his talent as well as expressed it in a good manner and succeeded with it will shine in life. Some people will get continuous failure in all their attempt due to their luck, but we don't give up our try. We must try our maximum with our efforts, surely we will get luck one day and achieve our dream with it. We must get motivation from our failures, don't get depressed with failure and give up your try. Our efforts, hard work, determination with luck will help us to achieve our success one day. If we give up our try, we don't have the ability to get success. Some times it is really hard to accept our failure, if we lost it in a little margin, but we must be sportive and learn lesson from this failure. This kind of failures are our experience which lead us to do our work in a good way. Cheer up and get motivation from your failures to achieve your goal. Nothing is impossible to a willing heart.

I never had a failure, I've failed to get into a school that I wanted, but it's all go to make me frustrated face. Indeed, there was sadness and I felt it, but sadly it may not be protracted because of no use. You have to get up, because life continues to spin and you do not know what will happen tomorrow, so enjoy life.