Do you ever think this?

Not the people I associate with in real life. I avoid rude people offline at ALL costs. Why would I want to be upset or put in a bad mood?? I wouldn't. Thats great that you had a good friend to keep you going. People like that can definitely brighten our lives! Yes there are only a few of them, thank goodness.

hi celticEagle and Loving My babies I let this one user get under my skin and gave back as good as I got and know what, I felt stupid as we both had our responses deleted for flaming and rightly so. I knew better as it just made me feel awful. I do not like drama either. I come here to enjoy my friends and let go stress not to get upset. lol

I come here to get AWAY from my stress! Lol. I do not need more of it here. Next time I really think I will just ignore the person because it has been going on for too long now...

Yeah there are a couple that I think to myself really? Did you have to respond because I know your just going to be rude! I am more on the easy going side so I don't like adding fuel to the fire kind of thing. There has been a few times that I will not respond back to them if I feel that they have been too rude. I don't have to waste my time on that...Or I kill them with kindness. Lol.

I agree with you Ms.Hatley, I used the report button to if someone who don't know how to respect.

hi lynboobsy yes I think its imperative that we all respect each other and not say or do something that is hurtful. I try to use the golden rule. treat others as you want to be treated. Sometimes someone will make a dig and I just do not reply but hit the report button and let mylot admins decide. lol my mom used to say " the least said the soonest mended."

Lynboobsy, your so right! There is no reason to be mean or disrespectful. We can have a difference of opinion and still act civil! It is silly to put others down for no good reason! I am just going to completely ignore these few people like they are not even there because nobody deserves to be treated badly.

hi LMB just thinking when someone is snippy its a lot to me like being in high school and having a bunch of snippy girls make fun of you. its so hurtful and I just always hope those people do not bother to respond to me at all.

Yes Hatley! It does feel like High School all over again when this happens. And I HATED High School!! Lol.

Yes they do bring a discussion down. Lol, I do make some but I like when the nice responders come to respond. Sometimes I wish the others would just not respond at all, how hard would that be? If you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all. I think I learned that in Kindergarten, maybe before that! Lol. There are people I LOVE talking to on MyLot and that is why I am still here and don't let the other ones take me away from where I love to be! =)

jaiho your mentor was so right.I have only met a very few and learned not to stopp to their level too.

I wonder why some people act that way, as if they know you in person (lols) But as I was always thought by my grandpa, never go down to their level. And my mentor always tells me those kind of people are "bitter" and their hearts are full of bitterness that no matter how we will explain them thing- they will never understand unless they will change, remove all the hatred inside their hearts.

That is exactly what I am talking about! I go by if you have nothing nice to say dont say anything at all. Thats what I live by. There is no reason for rudeness here! Difference of opinion sure but being down right rude...No. I think that person moved on to me!!! Lol. Just kidding. I am so super grateful for the positive and uplifting people here. I am also glad for the people who have been in my shoes before, they have helped sooo much!

Yes but there is no excuse for being rude in my opinion. Just my thoughts of course. All I was saying is I wish the rude responders would just pass my discussions by instead of feeling the need to be rude...

Bravo! Well said AgentG. MyLot is not a perfect world but it IS an interesting one. If everyone was super, sickly sweet all the time (as some are and the worst ones brag about how wonderful they are - constantly) it would be a very boring place. We all come from different cultures and different walks of life, we are all different people who think our own thoughts. Some people here just tell the truth and that's considered rude or offensive by some. If you don't like what someone says, if they hit a nerve, if they make you upset, just ignore them and move on. If someone has made a downright nasty comment, don't react or respond else you let them know they got the better of you, or upset you. Just ignore them. Some people respond sarcastically or abrasively..ever thought that maybe your post annoyed them??? None of us is a mind reader, I think it's just wrong to claim you know what someone is thinking or doing when they post something.

hi Loving MyBabies I don't think there is ever any excuse for being rude. If someone insults me in a response I just do not reply but if its really mean I just hit the report button.

Yes there are certain people that will say something negative or in my opinion rude every time they respond. That is different than not meaning to in my opinion. If they are doing it EVERY time they respond, there comes a time where it is no longer an accident! Don't you think? Or do you think it is excusable every single time they do it?

If a person seems subtly negative all the time and they are from a different culture I think that either they have not understood, or they are not as skilled as they seem in English. If they are from the US, I wonder about their upbringing. Some people are taught that it is improper to be too positive. If they are finding me through my friend list and I dislike how they respond I make certain to disconnect.

I have hoped for both because of what you said, they are NEGATIVE or rude in every single time they respond!! Is there reason to be that way? I don't think so, no. I appreciate the uplifting, nicer comments or even the ones that disagree with me but do so in a polite way. There is nothing wrong with a different opinion, but there is something VERY wrong with being disrespectful...

The ones from a different country if they seem to be rude I don't pay it any mind because I know they probably meant it in a different way. No big deal. Too bad these are Americans I am referring to. Lol. They know what they are doing...I did delete one of them off my friends list so that is not how they are finding my discussions, wish it were that easy! Lol.

If they are just being stupid, give them a - and move one. But... if they are mean And rude , report them. My Lot isn't for bullies!

Yeah sometimes I think my husband doesn't listen fully so its more like talking to the wall! So I come here to talk and get my problems heard and get some advice. The last thing I need or want is rude people commenting though! I mostly get really nice people responding. Mainly it's just a couple I could do without... There is no reason for them to be rude to me. They don't know me or any of my situations!!

most of my new friends are non-friends who respond too - and I like their answers so I don't care if non-friends respond, but I wish the dumb ones would not bother! (and the Lamb can stalk me to his heart's content!)

I totally agree with you. Even the Lamb part!

Yes my friends I am always happy to see on my discussions! It is the non friends part that bugs me. I wish they would skip my discussions all together. Yeah I wonder where they see mine too!

The option to block people is one of a few things that bother me about Mylot and sometimes the reply is so subtle, it doesn't look like a derogatory remark. That is why I will NEVER bring my sister here, she is great about making comments where I know she is being mean, but it doesn't look like it to an outsider.

I look forward to all of my FRIENDS replies too! =) It is the few others that I have the problem with. Most of the people here I cannot wait to see what they had to say. The other few...well, I cringe too!! Lol. There is especially 2 people I can think of that just know how to bring my mood down. I am trying now to ignore it, let it go and not let them do that to me...They are not worth my energy...

I am absolutely NOT talking about difference of opinion here. Thats not what I said at all. I am talking about some who purposelly hurt someone elses feelings for one reason or another. They go out of their way to put somebody down for NO good reason! That is what I was referring to. The majority are great people here but not all are... just saying.

I understand. They can view their opinion in a proper manner. but like you said, those people are probably abrasive in their real lives. But if I see anything like that on my discussions I mainly ignore them. I am not her to fight with people.

Yeah, some people do not know how to express their opinions in a respectful manner and that is where the problem comes in... I choose to ignore them too now. Rude people were the reason I left this site a couple years ago but now I ignore them so they don't get to me so bad...

Some people just cross the line of being rude and that is who I dread coming to my discussions. Anyone can agree or disagree with me if it is done in a tasteful, respectful manner. There is no need to be rude here. It is supposed to be a discussion site, not meant for wars! Lol. I welcome most anyone to comment on my discussions except for the few people who always have a way of making a rude comment. To me that is uncalled for and that is probably the way they act in real life too.

I completely agree with you. We should be able to have normal discussions without being rude to one another. But sometimes it seems like no matter where we go there are people who choose to be that way. Or that they feel they "have to be heard" . But the majority of people hear on mylot are really nice. We just have to not even look at the responses from those who just try to be rude. It's really not worth our precious time. We've got better things to do.

Yes, you know exactly how I am feeling! You said it better than I did! Wait, who's discussion is this anyway? I'm just kidding. =) You explained it awesome. There is no reason to be rude here. We should be able to have normal discussions and difference of opinions without being so rude. No there are only a couple that do this to me. I just know they are going to be rude before I even read their response!

I think about it only for that fact that I have had a few people that keep commenting and are not very nice when they do! Then there are those people that I LOVE when they respond because they give really good advice, they are uplifting, or they are just so sweet. =) I do look forward to your comments ladygator! Your one of the nice ones here!

Oh my goodness! That is terrible. I wish the ones that have been rude to me would leave or at least not bother to respond to me anymore!! I have had it with them. They make me feel less than them. No one should make us feel that way, you know? We are all people and no one is better than another. I had this one person that always hogged up the parenting discussions here and told all of the other mothers basically that they were bad parents that didn't know what we were talking about if we disagreed with her at all. I am soooo glad she is not here anymore! Lol. That is one of my favorite topics here so it was annoying.

Yes the certain people that at least understand or try too instead of putting me down. There is no reason to be rude here. There is a big difference between having a different opinion and being straight up rude about it! Thank God there are only a few people like that here that try to bring people down to make themselves feel better. I am trying now to just ignore the rude responses. That way it does not bring me down at all. Yeah I appreciate all of my responses, except the rude ones!

That's exactly what I am talking about. The ones where you know they are going to be helpful and give good advice. =) And the ones that are rude I ignore them too!

Well thats good. I don't mind people who are nice responding to my discussions. There are a few people however that intend to be rude and they do it on a regular basis... I have better things to do than to waste my time on rude people!

Oh I'm sorry. I let it happen here 2 years ago when I let small things bother me more than I do now. No one will take me away from here again though. They can try all they want. I have learned it is better to ignore these kinds of people. There is no point in letting them hurt me because they don't really know me... Your right it is everywhere you go unfortunately, but most people here are so nice! I am so grateful for my friends here. =) I hope you come to love MyLot as much as I do! And don't let anyone bring you down, they are NOT worth it trust me... Welcome to MyLot!

Thank you =) It's nice to be welcomed =)