A HORRIBLE Day!

There are nice men out there. I know, because I'm single and I experience nice men on a daily basis. Sometimes after 2 people have been married for a while they become so comfortable with each other that they neglect to be on their best behavior. I think it's important to pay attention to the fact that your husband says he doesn't love you anymore. I think it's also important to consider the fact that things might get worse before they get better if you don't make some kind of change. I would recommend that you have an open, honest conversation with him. The fact that he doesn't "side with you" in an argument with his mother is a big red flag. Tell him that the situation you are experiencing is unacceptable and that you want to separate, to see whether or not the two of you, can salvage your marriage.

Marriage can be tough. And when situations get out of hand it makes it even harder. I'm sorry to hear that your husband got so upset that he started calling you names and telling you that he doesn't love you. I'm not sure exactly what was said that made things so bad. But your husband should still treat you with respect. I can understand starting to question the relationship especially when things get really tough. My husband and I have been married only five years and we have had a lot of hard times. I wouldn't expect though to leave a relationship and expect to find another relationship that will be really good. Each relationship has it's on set of problems. You should sit down and talk with your husband and love and respect is something that you should emphasis that you need from him.

Not knowing the whole conversation or what exactly you said to upset everyone, it's really hard to say much about your situation. I do know that misunderstandings happen, words get said in anger which we feel as if we mean them but once emotions settle down, we realize that we did not mean them at all. You mentioned that your husband was drinking...you have to take that into account. Above all, you have to replay the words you said that got everyone upset to begin with and try to put yourself in their position and decide if maybe you could have chosen different words or maybe even none at all?? Sounds like a really bad night. I would say just let it go. If these kind of things happen often and you are not happy in your marriage then you may want to consider divorce. Whatever you do, don't make such choices while you are hurt, angry and upset.

Just from what you have said I would have to say that your husband is emotionally abusive to you, but that's just my opinion. He should not get upset so easy and when he is drinking is when he is rude to you that would tell you that he just says what he doesnt have the guts to say when he is sober, but once again that is my opinion. You should pack up for a bit and move out leave him alone and give him time to realize what he has. As for him acting like it never happened and that every thing is fine that is called the honeymoon phase of abuse. You may want to check into it and then put a stop to it.

Hi bettymarie.. From your responses, it seems that things are fine with you & ur husband now. I am really glad & happy for you. When two people decide to get married, they should be ready to take on everything that comes with it. If there are any problems within the marriage, they both need to handle it sportingly & take steps to improve their behavior & respect towards each other. There is no marriage without any problems. Both the husband & wife need to handle it together.. Take care.. Lotsa congrats on ur pregnancy... Take care & ask your hubby to take really good care of you.. :)

i am very sorry for that incident. dont be discouraged by those kind of situation..see,in life we want to face these kind of bad situations...if there is only good things happenings means there will be no aim in our life to live..we want to face challenges..take ur husband's behaviours as a challenge and try to make him to luv u friend...k...am i right...?

hi, there, I hope that everything fine now, and it should be fine if you say that's its a relation of 10 years of love. I'm wondring why is allways when is there a mother between a couple there are a problems? (don't take my question for bad pls) , because I heard a lots of stories, where they put the mother in the situation, since long time I'm trying to find out why, and still don't get it, maybe because i'm a man, and it's only women business?? maybe i will get it when i get married!! it's really too hard by one side is the wife and by the other side it's the mother? can imagine the reaction of the man when he feel that he is gonna lose one of them. it's quite hard so the best things to do (in my opinion) is to invite his mother if she is not living with you, and make a dinner for them, just to say them that you are sorry, about what happend, think about your love, and think about the kids, you should fight for the 10 years but nicely,, and try to speak with your husband mybe he has some problems at work that's why he get angry when he get drunk. I love kids, but still not married, almost every evening arguing with my mom, she is allways telling me its time to get you a wife!!! are there any women out there that are nice? that can handel a man who loves his mom??? in the end its allways between women, and poor man conclusion, pls think wisely if you realy love him, talk to him and get what's going on, you are the woman i don't have to tell you how to do it. I realy hope that everything will be fine and better then before