i hate her for using my things

Talk to her dear, told her that your not selfish but there are things that we own personally and not all things are allowed to share. I have the same problem when I'm still living with the relatives of my ex they don't know how to respect things that not belong to them. It seems the things you have is also for them. This make ms angry too, I'm very organized and most of the time I don't like to borrow things from other that's why I bought things for my self. But when they already have it there is no chance that it will be back for me.

Maybe you spoiled her that's why. Sometimes you have to be firm when asking a favor. maybe she thinks it's just okay because you are her aunt-that's why. Post a big REMINDER for rules and regulation

Sounds like she's becoming a little too comfortable with the living situation and taking advantage of the situation altogether. She may not even realize she's being disrespectful, I would kindly approach her about it. With the buttered prawns you can approach her in a way as if to say you had plans for those and now you have to make alternative arrangements, this might give her a hint. Good luck.

How come that nice of yours is living with you? Why don't she live with her own family? I think she should start to move to her own home if she does not change her bad behavior. I myself would be so pissed off she is living with me. I'd surely tell straight to her face to keep her hands off from my belongings.

one solution to that i guess, is tell her straight to her face that she needs to see the boundaries, the limitations...

I think, you need to talk to her regarding her attitude. You need to make her know about it and make her understand that that attitude is not right and something you don't like. You should open her eyes for her mistakes by confronting her in a mild manner....

Have you tried talking to her about it? Maybe she just isn't aware that you're not pleased with her using your stuff. She's younger than you, I assume, and by the way things are, I have this impression that she lacks a bit of maturity and sensitivity :) So I guess it's really up to you to let her know how you feel about her borrowing your things.

Hi bhaby catch: I think this is a regular problem in almost every house. We find some family members that just don't respect your own things. They just take them without asking for your permission. It's simply bad but at the same time we could discuss and probably create a bad environment or simply take the actions. When my uncle is in my house for example I know I have to let my room locked. He might feel angry the first time when he tried to enter my room but now he knows that I won't accept his bad attitude. I won't discuss to him because he is all grown up and he has decided to be that disrespectful and I can't change the fact that he is part of my family but I can take care of my things. ALVARO

Getting some of my stuffs without any permission can also pissed me off my friend especially if I reserve a favorite food of mine that I expect to eat later,lol! Sometimes we need to be strict even if we love them,it's for the good of the relationship within our home. At home,they know what I like and don't so so far we're not getting any problems anymore,hehe!

It is good to be possesive about things but sometimes this possesiveness takes the form of a dangerous consequences. We have to be cautious and aware of the things as well as of the people around us because people might be unknowingly hurt by our over possesiveness.

Hi friend, sad to hear about this, why your niece is doing this kind of things? Does she know that you hate her activities, convey it to her in a kind way. Hope she will give up her activities after realizing this..

Respect begets respect. That goes for possessions, most importantly personal stuff. I respect other people's personal belongings, so in the same manner, I would also like them to respect mine. I can forego and forget an instance or two when they tried to use my possession without my knowledge. I can let one incident slip past, but she will hear from me, very calmly, that next time, it wouldn't hurt if she will tell the owner or ask her permission for its use. If it happens again, she will hear from me again, expressing my disappointment and that I am banning her from any of my stuff until she re-gains my trust again. Then I will keep my possessions under lock and key. This might seem too strict but I do not just get the money off the streets, I work hard to earn it so I can buy the things that I want for myself.

it's so terrible. but if you hate it, you can tell her that you hate her for using your things and let her not to use your things without your permission. you can talk the problem with her patiently and maybe you will get a way to solve it. it is not a big problem just you should get better communication, if your niece knows you hate someone using your things, maybe she won't do it again. so take a talk with her and tell her what you want.

Hi bhabycatch! Really sad to read your situation. We come across many people in life! Some ask permission to the owner of the article before touching it. So don't ask permission before using it. Some are beyond this category. They don't ask permission to use others things and have fear of breaking it by improper use. As you said, who ever it might be. Before using others things they need to ask permission. That is the descent way of using others thing. But very few follow this! Also you your nice is eating up all the dish that being prepared for you? Don't she get enough food at your home or she is just digesting what ever she get? What is the weight of your niece! I guess it should be 120+ kg!!! Just for fun Bhaby! I have a sister at home. We both use our things (not all) without getting permission. If it is going to be personal. We need to wait! If we fail to do that, our day will go miserable by have a huge fight between us! So, I'm always cautious when using my sister's belonging which make me to do the same with the others too. So what kind of guidelines you are going to create? So that your niece will not use your thing from now on? Just make a friendly relationship with here and make her to understand that you don't like people using your things without your permission. That will be the best way to make her understand you and also a friend of you.

Just treat her the same as she treats you. It's what she understands. She takes something of yours so you take something of hers. She breaks something or loses it, you do the same. If she complains, tell her you will stop taking her stuff when she stops taking hers.

hi bhabycatch I understand completely because even if she is a relative that gives your niece no right to use your things.Being 'related or not, if something does not belong to you and you wish to use it, in my opinion, you must ask the owner for\ permission. Eating your food also has no excuse as it did not belong to her. You are right if she is w orking she can jolly well buy her own umbrella. I know we all may get a little careless with close family, but really one should treat close family with the same respect as you do your friends.That's really pushing the envelope in searching for your prawns and eating them. truly I love prawns too and would be pissed off if someone ate my prawns too.I had a great Sunday as my son came to visit with me last night. try to have a better day now hugs from hatley

I will feel mad too if I am in your place bhaby. Why it's so hard for her to at least ask your permission before she take anything which not belong to her. I am not sure if she likes people do the same thing to her. Why she lie your things so much, sis??I wonder that.(^^)