tell me your opinion on this one..

hi jazel! I know how you feel as I am also a woman and I know how and when I should feel jealous over a woman. If there's something going on between the girl and your hubby,I am sure your hubby wont tell you about the girl,their talk. So you see,your hubby loves you,he wants you to know that he is not doing something fishy,that's why he told you about it and that he is just there as a friend to the girl who has a cancer. I'm sure if there's any feelings your hubby has for the girl,it's just mercy. For as long as your hubby tells you about their talk,I think he is not guilty of having any affair, my friend. You just need to trust him and tell your hubby to tell the girl that you also have the symphathy for her.

i have a funny idea in this discussion. just design a greeting card like "get well soon my sweet SISTER"(not in this way but quite more elaborately) and ask your husband to send this designed greeting card to that lady email. if your husband is ready to send this greeting card means there is nothing in them and just a pure relationship otherwise if your husband is hesitating or not responding to it means may be there are some chances..(just do it and dont take it serious..may be your husband will have lots of work issues rather than this)...

Maybe you should try to be her friend so she would leave your husband alone. You could also tell him the truth, all of it. That you do not want to be jealous, you feel sorry for her but sometimes it is hard. If the truth is out on the table it is harder to ignore. Truth is, she needs to count on someone other than him.

jazel, jealousy is a dangereous emotion..I am so sorry but you are talking about two different places..there are MILES between her and your hubby..and where is he, with you..Be proud that you are the wife and he is with you.. You might not trust her but do you trust your husband...thats whats important and the question...Either you do and will just drop this feeling or you don't and continue to live in misery.. You only have 2 choices..chose one or the other and move on with your life and live happily.. I hope you are not making something out of nothing,,express your feelings to hubby and step into some different shoes... \\Good Luck!!!!

Well I'd say if she is overseas and far away from your husband then there is no harm in them talking. Some people just seem to have a really strong bond and as long as they keep it a friendship then that's OK. But I would be worried too if she was in the same country and very close by. My mum has a friend and everyone, including me seems to think it's something more but really it isn't they are just friends. He can't tell his wife when he catches up with her for coffee (and not just my mum but any female) because she reacts badly. His wife calls my mum "the girlfriend" and also this one time I saw him at the supermarket after not seeing him for years, we used to play tennis together so we got along well. I got excited and ran over and said hi and gave him a hug and I didn't see his wife was with him. Well apparently his wife thought that me saying hi and giving someone I have known for years and have not seen in years a hug was "disturbing" So point to my story is. Some wives just go off the deep end when any single female is friends with their husbands even if there is nothing there. I'm not saying you're like this but it could be a similar situation. As I said if she is in a different country then let them chat online but let him know your feelings as well

i find no harm in talking,strictly if they strict to it.

I can honestly say that I've been in your shoes and didn't like it in the least bit! If your gut tells you something, you need to listen to it! I had my husband end his friendship with his 'friend' out of fear that she had ulterior motives. I STILL believe she had those motives and nothing will ever change my mind in thinking this way. I trusted my husband whole heartingly but things do happen so I made sure that it DID'NT happen with MY husband! If you're uncomfortable with the 'friendship' it's time you say something or you may live to regret it because you kept quiet. I'm sorry this gal has cancer however, I'm sure she has other friends she can 'talk' with and it's time she does so!

I agree, can't she find another person to talk with. I mean, fine she can disclose her situation with your husband- but why the need to keep the update (unless your husband is making some effort as well) Don't mind my doubt- but maybe you should consider your husband's action as well (keep your cool/temper honey) I know I shouldn't add/tease injury to this matter and I am sure you are smart enough to discover the truth...hold on to your feelings and intuition :)

Hi jazel. I understand your feelings. You're not being selfish, it's a natural reaction of a woman who loves her husband. I just had an argument with my bf last night. It's something to do with his girl friends. One of them kept on bugging him about her problems (a problem she has incurred upon herself). And now she's crying and telling him she wanted to die. I just don't get it why she had to run to my bf for help. Bf told me I'm biased. The worst part here is, if a guy friend gets too close to me, he gets jealous himself! So why can't he understand my point? Despite that, I still believe he loves me. Same thing with your hubby. He loves you too. I just don't want to come to a point where I have to force my bf to choose between me or his female friend. I would just keep a watchful eye and see to it that the friend doesn't cross the line.

Hi Dear, This is Preethi Thomas, your thoughts are absolutly true, But when we know about that she is suffering with cancer, then we have to think because people cant share every thing with every body, but they can share only with the friends, my opion is this time she needs a good friend but not a boy friend.And one more thing u can also talk with her very closly then she can also feel that she is having one more close friend. i think if u follow this your family will be good. Bye