let us see the bully boy in his marriage life :)
By missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
Philippines
July 31, 2012 6:49pm CST
i have a close friend and he was a very naughty or gamy during his adolescencehood. i remembered and even laughed harder in an instance that had happened during the month of December. a utility jeepney stopped directly in front of the waiting shed in our town. that time, there was a carabao who newly disposed its waste to the street. my crazy friend, got it inside the cellophane then threw it to the passengers of the jeepney shouting, "merry christmas." some of the waste was thrown to the neck part and some to the shirt and others to the their faces. it was thrown freshly and still hot. the passenger who had a carabao stool in his neck never moved as if he has a stiff neck. so then all of them got down from the jeep and washed the dirty in the faucet. this naughty boy ran fastly to hide himself to the passengers he intentionally committed mistakes to.
and now this boy was being married. you cannot believed how he becomes a good provider to his family. since he did not finished any degree, he committed himself as a carpenter like his father before. you can see him working so hard and he have many clients for repairs, building houses, putting - up tiles on the floor, ceiling, and etc. you cannot expect him to be like that to strive harder for his family. he loves his wife tenderly but before he used to had a fight with anyone of his age. see, we cannot judge a person for we do not know his real heart when it pertains to another aspect of like. now he is fully engaged his self to his daughters and wife, not bullying anymore with friend. before he was a drunkard. when i can see him, i will just amaze how he really changed himself from being gamy to a good father and husband.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
1 Aug 12
Some of the bullies grow up and change, and do become better people due to certain circumstances, but some of them still stay the same.
Two of the guys that I know grew up to be good men, and they love their daughters and wives a lot. They would do anything for them. In fact, I became friends with them and forgave them because I knew that they weren't those boys anymore.
There was one bully that I knew back in high school that I couldn't forgive. I was able to forgive the two men because they had talked to me and given me the time of day, but this one girl (I won't even dare to call her a woman) is still a gossiping bully to this very day. She wanted to be friends with me on FB, and I asked my other friends about her to see if she had changed, but they told me that she hadn't. This girl never gave me the time of day in high school, she never talked to me, and she was always saying things about me behind my back, and I wasn't the only one that she did this to. Some of my friends knew her after high school and this girl lived next to me after high school, and she didn't give me the time of day or talk to me. She still gossiped about people. She hadn't changed. I denied her friend request and told her that I would never friend her because she never treated me like a friend, she never talked to me. I lost my brother, and she didn't even say, "I'm sorry," whereas the two men who once bullied me had told me that they were sorry, and that no one should ever have to go through that.
Some people do change, but some people never do.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
@ rogue - sometimes our impulsiveness and misdeeds were due to our youthfulhood where what we want in life is to have fun and even we can recognize the right from wrong our actions will not go along with our conscience. i am not certain of how many percent in this world who are bully in their younger years and changed for better as they grew matured and the percentage of those who stayed the same and never so decisive to take a new path to consider. oh well, we can say that, good for those who really changed himself. thanks
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
@fuhuangwei - i cannot explain why such things happened. maybe it is really their innate attitude eversince from their childhood. they refused to change or to pull themselves from acting like one.
there would be instances that they had merited their behavior through peer influences. but then as they realized, they gradually changed for the better. thanks for posting in here. :)
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
1 Aug 12
I like the story and I also appreciate your kind observation and the writing it down here. I think people get changed when they find some good reason to do so.
Most probably he has found the love of his life.
When you are emotionally happy then you do all the right things.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
1 Aug 12
I get it, I was in true love and then one day I broke up I am afraid I will ever fall in true love again.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
you are right, not just to feed his family but somehow he wanted an intention to make the love of his life be happy. if you really care, you will not hurt the one you love by doing crappy things and useless one. thanks for the appreciation, well, that is a real situation i saw and that experience is real. :)
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
Well I guess for as long as people lives then there is hope that he would change for the better. Every day we are given the chance to change ourselves and I guess from your story it just shows exactly as it is.
For some people change is just hard to do but it is from the individual's will that he can do that. Maybe this man realized and accepted his mistakes in the past and decided to change for the better. He made a good move indeed and good for him that he manages to kick all his bad habits and took a complete turnaround in his ways.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
right at that. everyone has greater chances when they want to change themselves for the better. he shows being a matured man. he embraced his being a fatherhood and played a great role as a husband to his wife. it is just like a fairytale, changing for the better. all for his family. :)
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
We cannot judge a person indeed.
Everyone can change, not every good people remains good for their whole life.
Same thing with bad guys, we cannot tell they will remain that bad for the rest of their lives.
I am glad your friend become a responsible family man.
That's what a home/family can make to anyone of us especially the children.
Kudos to your friend
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
oh yes, you are right there man :)
nice to see people who changed for better. he may changed because he was being inspired by his wife and children but above all, its his well to do such action for himself. because if he is not willing to do it, nothing ever happened to him. thanks
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
1 Aug 12
I guess what you said is right, you can not judge a person base on his pre - age mistakes. Maybe he was a boy, and he didn't know what he did was wrong. Now, through many days and months, even years of training, and learning, he should know better how to respect other people, and now, he is married, he should know better to take care of his own family. We all grown up someday, aren't we?
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
never ever judge someone because time is still running. he may have all the chances on earth to change himself for the better. like him from being bully and naughty, you cannot believe that he gradually reformed himself for his family. i thought he will be like that forever. i said before that never i will select this kind of guy to be my partner or to have someone like that in my life - gee. thanks for posting in here
@thersdae_me (327)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
I loved reading your story. I have a son who is twelve now and is also very playful. He used to be the top 1 in his class from pre-school to Grade 4 but dropped to top 11 in grade 5 and up to top 5 in grade six. Now, he is in high school, Grade 7 actually, since the ne curriculum was introduced this school year in our country and he is along the first batch.
He seems to be changing so fast, I can't catch up with him. I don't know if it's because he is turning into an adolescent or because his new friends are getting the better of him. But I am really praying that he will soon get over this stage and become a better kid again. It's not just about his ranking in school but more of his changing attitude. He seem to be too touchy when we start lecturing him about staying out with his friends on weekends and forgetting about our instruction to return home for lunch and dinner. He goes out very early in the morning and sometimes return after we've had lunch already. He is very unconscious of the time. He does not want to look after his two younger sisters when I tell him to and is always asking if he may go out with his friends already. During weekdays, he can't do so because he goes to school around six thirty in the morning and goes home around six in the evening- no chance for him to play outside anymore. It's because of this that I try to understand why he's all day out on weekends, except Sunday mornings when we go to church.
I hope after a few years, he'll turn out to be a responsible teen-ager anyway. Then eventually become a good husband and father to his future family like this one kid did...
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
i am so glad that you like the story i posted in here. in this millennium age, kids are so vibrant and very hyperactive for such unknown reasons. other parent would say it is because of the milk they drink and the other one would say, because of the new trends that ever happened newly in the society. do not catch him -haha, you will be tired of doing it, just a guidance and a supervisor to him. he is more active because of the changes of stage he have now; in school, having new interest, new friends, belongingness - at least you can say that he is coping through and not living stagnantly. but when you ask me, i guess some firm decision if your big boy is assertive to the things that you know might not give him a good effect. i guess a thorough explanations are needed so that your words can penetrate inside him and would understand what you meant. yes you are right, that you need a prayer for him for guidance and enlightenment in life so that he will grow progressively, triumphant and responsible man someday.
thanks again... ;)
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
He's already matured and it's good for him. At least, he maybe learned from his mistakes. Eventually, he will realize all his mistakes and pray if he will have his children that they won't grow up like him. Hahaha... So naughty.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
Maybe it's the responsibility that cause a big change in him. It does not always follow that naughty boys will not be a responsible one after they mature. Everyone change and it is just good to know that for him its for the better. It is really different when you became a father or a mother. It brings out certain aspect of responsibility in you. Your main goal is to provide the best for your family particularly with your child.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
but to some, it does. you can pattern their shown behavior from what he was before in his marriage life; his relationship to his wife and children or such. if he have a messy life, we can say that well, what else to prove and say that he is really like that even before. maybe this friend of mine was just so hot and impulsive during his younger days to have fun and so that his friends would call him tough and different. maybe it is not his natural behaviour or really manages himself to change for good. whatever the reasons behind, i am thankful that he is a good father and a husband to his family and that his love ones contribute so much changes in him... thanks goodness... :)
@loveandpeace (470)
• Indonesia
1 Aug 12
It's time that always heal, I really believe it. I hope he'll change for good and his friend and family should always warn him if he start to act like his old days. I believe in family suppport.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
1 Aug 12
Hi friend, good to hear that the bully person changed a lot after his marriage, as you mentioned he is working hard for his family and taking a lot of care about his wife and kids, really he is doing a great thing and deserved for our appreciation
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
1 Aug 12
Seems to me that marriage life and the responsibilities that comes with it knocked some sense to him and made him the man he is now. People can truly change dramatically over the years. He has also found a good woman who might have influenced him; besides, he was still young during those times. Although I'm not saying all young men behave that way at their age, it's just that he's still got a long way to go and whole lot to learn about fun other than flinging crap at everyone.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
well, there are two types of changes in a man's life: 1) from worst to better and 2) for some reasons, they twist from good to bad. ironic but true. it maybe a person cannot hold how to be consistent or sustain from being good all times. a situation may have something to with it. just good for him. oh yeah, his wife is an elementary teacher. maybe he learned a lot from her. you know, the characteristic of a teacher; a motivator, a facilitator, a friend, a confidante - haha. yeah, maybe he had what he wanted in a girl to live a contemplation life like that. :)
@sweeteauty (22)
•
1 Aug 12
I bet its not just fact he got married turned him into ggod father and provider for his family,but his wife and their feeling...Probably that woman knows real good how to manipulate with him(i use word manipulate in good sense),and what she gives to him is more important for him than bullying with friends and drinking.I have never seen somebody who just changed out of a suddden,there is always somebody's good influence
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
before even were friends, i totally against with his bullying and inconsiderate attitude. he always hanged with his friends. maybe he was just being impulsive that time and want to have fun along with his friends. but he was so naughty that you can laughed harder everytime he did a funny thing to the people. this one too was a very worst enemy. because he never backed off to any fight. they are so war freak and that when they can see strangers they would like to attack and would initiate a fight. very very naughty
@Axai2012 (371)
•
1 Aug 12
That is naughty!lol!
People mature and your friend did and turned his life around. Kids are naturally playful but I think your friend went to the extreme. When one is married, everything changes, your attitude towards life and your priorities. He changed for his love for the wife as well, maybe.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
oh yes maybe. playful was that? haha! very playfulful :D - he must set what to prioritize to have a direction in his married life. life is not easy to deal with. you need to eat and even the cheapest or the simplest necessities required equal amount to anybody. his family were lucky to have him like that. past is past, there is nothing can do about it to correct mistakes. the important thing is now and the future to have. so he is lucky too that he managed to changes himself and all. ;)
