Why can't make real friends after 30 age?
By Cale2012
@Cale2012 (114)
August 1, 2012 12:35am CST
Today, I got one sentence from website "when you grow up 30 age, you will find make friends it become difficult" I think this is real phenomenon. When you are a child or young, you will get many close friends and classmates. But when you are out of school become a employee or society person, you find many person front of you mask themself, they are unconcerned and don't care any relationship established. They can forget you as soon as possible. you just be a passager cross their life road. So you feel lonely and helpless. You can easy find a good influence around you, many person always be busy and overlook you.
How to improve this or accept this considtion go on our life?
They will leave you and don't say anything to you! you know!maybe this is life.
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13 responses
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
I think it's the other way.
During our childhood days we meet new friends and make a lot of friends.
but as we get older, we found REAL FRIENDS...not many but few.
And those few are real and true friends in need and in deed :)
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
Good day Cale2012,
With reference to your main post, it is really difficult to make friends when you have reached the age of 30 and beyond. According to some, this usually happens when people tend to act on his own. That, when he/she begin to exercise his/her own rights and decision. Hence, he/she also develops the ability to know and grasp other people's intention why they want to make friends. Unlike when we are still a child, wherein, what just we really want is a simple playmates and not thinking at all why he/she wants to befriend us.
@paulli3 (312)
• China
2 Aug 12
after 30 age, everyone has thire own families and own social circle. they are used to staying in their own social circle they have their own friends and they feel the stress of life so they will more care about how to earn money or make his life better, so they have little time to make new friends. maybe that is why can't make real friends after 30
@tetris15 (539)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
It could happen to some but in my case, it didn't and I'm greatful that I get to find true friends even when I'm 30. It's not too late to make friends and share your friendship to them. I know this is a cliche, but tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are. I believe our friends are our extension of ourselves but not in a way the role of our partner is to us. What I mean is friends are there who can criticize us but still loves us dearly. They can be mean at times but still we tolerate their craziness. We love them like a sister or a brother and at times, they are the ones who will stand beside us when things get rough.
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
1 Aug 12
hi cale,
i does have some friends in my school days,but in my college days , i could not make more friends, because i am not intelligent person and not attractive,so i could not attract neither boy nor girl in my college days,but after that i have 3 to 4 close friends,still i maintaining friendship with them, i say that there is no age and gender criteria for friendship,according to our nature, they will be close to us,have a nice day
@axlrate7 (1398)
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
Yes that is true, everything you've said is all facts. But one thing is always in my mind and that is to go on, live and everything will be fine. I'm a pessimistic kind of person but I tell you, I don't want to be like this forever. Even though there are lot of people of what you are describing, and they actually hurt me in a deepest way, I will still go on and yes I think I'm gonna complain but the thing is I'm not gonna live myself by that. I believe that no matter is my age, I can make friends, not a shallow, but friends that will gonna sing along with me whatever the circumstances. GOD made us to build, and that's what I'm doing today... GOd bless you! :)
@Gautam1002 (730)
• India
10 Aug 12
I cannot comment very surely on this matter since I haven't experienced the age mentioned here. And I feel experience would only give us the best possible answer. But then I also see a point in your discussion. In our youth we tend to share things with our friends which we feel hesitant to share with our parents. After a certain age or rather marriage we find a friend in our partner and prefer that. Apart from that we unknowingly make a barrier between our professional and personal life which I think serves as the most important reason for not making friends after that age.
@weixiao2012 (54)
•
1 Aug 12
yes, it really is . When i graduated from school to enter my work i feel the same phononemon gradually. i think especilly when you have conflict interest with others making friend will be more difficulty. so we could construct friendship with persons who have the same hoobies as ourself or who would like to do things with us.
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
1 Aug 12
This is a real phenomenon,after we step into the society and face the reality,everyone will have a defensive system,I think it is not our fault just because this society is so material,so it is no easy to make a real friendship after you graduate from school,so pls cherish your friends you made at campus.
But from another point of view,we also can not lose the confidence to make friends when you after 30 age,it is still available though it is not easy,we still can see many good example,right?So if you can open your heart and treat other how usually be treated,then you will get some good friends sooner or later.
@rizzaspeaks (391)
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
Keeping the right people who will accept you unconditionally is hard, but not impossible.
Some people set standards. If you don't fit, you are rejected. But, is it your lost? Certainly not. We don't live on this planet to please those kind of people, we are not here to do what they expect us to do.
If we keep on fulfilling their expectations, then it is not our lives we are living but theirs.
Accept your whole self, that's all that matters anyway.
