I Love You But I Don't Trust You.

I've been in a relationship where I loved the person so much, but I did not had a trust on him. It was because of those instances when I found out he was doing something not acceptable. It was some sort of cheating which he never ever admitted. I loved him so much, so I never had the courage to let go of him even it made me feel like I'm struggling in our relationship due to lack of trust. It's really hard to be with someone whom you can no longer trust. I guess you can never make a relationship lasts if trust is missing, no matter how much love you have for him. Thank you for this discussion, it just made me realized something. ;-)

I believe that love, trust and respect goes hand in hand. There's no way you can just love a person and not trust him at the same time. That's not love.

I feel that way about my sister.

I have loved someone and not trusted them. I think that it is easier than you may think. I have an ex whom while we were together, I found out he cheated on me. After that moment, I found it hard to trust him, but I still loved him. I can't really explain why I felt that way, but I did. I have been around some male friends and their wives and their wives trusted them wholeheartedly, but in reality they shouldn't have. I think trust is sometimes tricky. I think many times I wanted to trust my ex because I did love him so much and I think the same can be said for the wives that I spoke about above. They trust their husbands because they love them so much and are absolutely blind to what is really going on around them. I honestly believe that most of them would still love their husbands even if they found out the truth and that they really couldn't trust them.

I actually have said that to the boyfriend i am with now. I have a hard time trusting him because last August i was up North and went to two weddings and hershy park with him and while he went on a ride he gave me his cell phone and it went off so i read the text and it was from a girl that was his best friends ex girlfriend and he was talking nasty to her and it bugged me so much and then again in October i caught him talking to her again and i just couldnt believe it and now i have a hard time trusting him and hes always on the phone and then at night he sometimes sleeps with his phone and is always checking it so of course i think i have a hard time trusting him, but then again you do love him. He says he talks to other girls when he argue and we argue alot.

I've always trusted hubby for sure even before I knew I loved him. So I don't know if I can love before I can trust. I don't think its impossible but I think for myself I think I would have to trust someone before I felt or even realizes that I love them.

Hey Sarah.. I agree with you... Love & Trust should always go hand-in-hand.. Without trust there can be no love.. Without trust whatever there is, it is not love.. It is just a relationship in which both partners hang in there, distrusting each other for the sake of it... They're mad for each other, and at times mad at each other... There's no love!

There are areas where I trust my partner, and areas where I don't. I trust that he will not deliberately set out to hurt me for instance, but I don't trust that he'd be able to locate the laundry basket or the spare washing up liquid. I guess that's not entirely what you're getting at though! I imagine that you are talking about trust relating to being faithful. I would not choose to be with someone who I did not trust in that department. That does not necessarily mean that someone would have to be faithful (though that's what I'd be hoping for), but that they kept to whatever agreement we had made between ourselves. If I chose not to be with someone because they misplaced my trust it would still be possible for me to love them. Over time that would fade, but I don't think you stop loving someone just because they are not right for you. That's why love is said to hurt!

Oh no...if I don't trust them..I know there is no hope for peace or happiness with them. I'm outta there when the trust is gone.

I have always have said that when there is no trust, there is no relationship. When there is trust then love flows freely. When there is no trust although love is still there, there are walls and love will only flow within the walls. I believe that it is best to walk if you don't trust. If I didn't trust my husband, I wouldn't be in a relationship with him. I would leave him.

Hi, I have actually said this to my partner several times of late, that I love him but I do not trust him. This is because an incident happened last year after which I could not trust him any longer. I have been through a lot of pain but try as I might I could not stop loving him nor could I pull myself out of the relationship. Well he certainly seems sorry for what he did and I do love him immensely but I cannot trust him fully anymore. I think once a person loses trust, it cannot be rebuilt or is extremely hard to rebuild. These are strictly my opinions and everybody may not agree. Thank you asking this question. I could express my true feelings here.

Hi sarah. I love, trust and respect should always go together. And trust is very hard to earn if it is broken. I guess you should set limits like if the person keeps on betraying you and knows that he will easily be forgiven he will not learn his lesson at all. If you truly love the person you should also try to be firm with your decision so that he will not become abusive. It's better to start early than wait for so long and at the end you both lost your love for each other. And I guess you should talk about it and open up all your insights about the problems you are facing.

Well, you basically know my story. I once did trust the evil ex. But that was a long time ago. You know that she was the one that cheated. My mistake was trying to work on the marriage. I did it because I did love her and wanted things to work out. We did to go to counseling and all. And things did seem better. but it was right after the kids were born when things changed forever. So the answer to this question is no, I would never love someone who I do not trust. I have been there, done that and got burned. I did what any normal person would do in a marriage of a long time. Work on it. But I guess I had blinders on. Never again.

if you love him, then you should trust him. how could you love someone you can not trust?? don't you feel uncomfort?? that's in my view...

The only time I don't trust him are in areas where I know he's just not that adept (managing money, for example!). But then I suck at cooking, so if he were to say he wouldn't trust me to cook a decent meal, he'd be absolutely right. The solution? He cooks, I manage the money. But do I trust him s a whole? Not to cheat, not to lie, not to steal, to love me when he says he loves me, to mean what he says? Of course I do!!!! If you have that kind of trust, you'fe in a great relationship. However, it's normal not to trust your partner in certain areas. I also know that my guy does't take care of his health the way he should, and sometimes gets into trouble with his diabedes (I tell him not to go out, he goes out, and then passes out on the sidewalk along the way). I can honestly say I don't trust him or his judgement when his speech is slurred because that means his blood sugar is screwed up, and he can't think straight! Know what I mean?

I never came to that part yet. But I do understand that both love and trust must be there for a relationship to work perfectly. But I know it is hard to really maintain that harmony inside especially when trust was destroyed by an incident. But it is hard to say you love that person but not trust anymore. I feel that when trust is violated love disappears with it as well.

Yes, I do have such experience that I love him but I don't turst him. But I think time will make everything better. And now I feel much better.

Well, I loved a person whom I found so hard to trust again. Nope, the right term is, I CHOSE to love someone whom I know is not worth the trust at all... but I woke up, and realize it's not right. so here I am, free and happy ...

Love and trust should go together actually but most of the time we tend not to trust someone for some reason. I believe you can stil love a person even of your afraid to trust him anymore. When my bf whose now my husband cheated on me before, i was so mad and disappointed. He tried to win my heart and he succeed because i love him. That's the reason why it is said, "love does not keeps records of wrong" When you love person no matter how many times he'll fail you, you will always forgive him because you love him. But if it is not love, one mistake and it is over.

When a girl said i love you but i didnt trust you to a boy. I can exactly feel how sad and depressed the girl was. Its inevitable that the couples will break up once they lose trust with each other.In a word ,i hold the opinion that no trust,no love.