Relationship advice: What should I do?

Yes Barbiesacol88, That's a little crazy! The only way this relationship can grow, is for the two of you to work thru your issues. Even if you are willing to wait until he gets job, what happens when he stressed about something else in his life? You'll spend you whole relationship apart waiting for him to resolve is issues. If he want to be in a relationship then he has to be there through the good and the bad. He can't just disappear when he's stressed. He needs to grow up and learn to deal with life and stop trying to hide from it. That's just my opinion.

I think the situation stinks entirely. It is hard when a guy cannot find work or is hurt and cannot work. My husband is hurt and out of work right now. Some days are better than others. He has a very hard time with not being able to work. He said he feels like less of a man, he feels like a bad husband and a bad father. It is very difficult for him. Are there days he gets angry and fights with me because of it? Yes he does. Is it right or fair to me? Absolutely not. But I understand where it's coming from and it is not really directed at me although it feels that way sometimes. I think your boyfriend is trying to communicate with you that he is having a harder time with this than maybe you realized. He might not outright tell you how he feels like my husband did but that is how it sounds like he is feeling. I hope he gets a job soon so that your relationship can be normal again. I would give him space and time until he feels better about himself again...

It can be very hard when we're going through hard times, because we can end up taking it out on those who we least want to, and this seems to be the problem with your boyfriend at the moment. Unfortunately, finding work is something that could take him a long time, so I don't think that not speaking to him for this amount of time is something that would be helpful. Instead, you need to ask him to tell you how he feels about your relationship, and why he's trying to block you out from his life. My partner is trying to find a job at the moment as well, and he is talking to me about it and I am helping him with his application forms and things like that, so it really is worth talking to him because you might be able to help him through it.

Man is the head of the family. They work and support for the family so when they loss their jobs, they view that as a failure. They might think that they are useless and might cause depression. This maybe the reason why your boyfriend acted that way. He maybe suffering because he feels that he is of no use because he has no job. He thinks that you maybe deserve someone better than him. You can talk to him about it. There is no other way but to talk to him properly. Tell him that you understand his situation and that you are ready to support him. Always be careful of what you are saying because they usually take all those even jokes seriously. One thing I am sure now is that he needs you beside him.

hi barbie, If he thinks he really needed space and you can give it then give what he is asking for you, maybe he can handle the problem alone and doesn't need your presence for awhile just make sure he is not making excuses just to end up this relationship. happy mylotting

Hi Barbie, it is better to wait until your boyfriend gets job or until he will talk with you because he is in frustration and worrying a lot about his life so please stay away from him. but showing all frustrations on you is also part of tension.

I guess the real isue is ego, Ego of your boyfriend,maybe he feels degraded that he still doesn't have a job. its more frustrating to men than in women because they feel they don't have worth. I think you need to give him space, the only thing that you'll be worried about it is that if he's gonna come back after that space. I guess you just need to understand him no matter what. And if the time comes that he won't come back, move on (though its so hard), because that is what life gives you.. I hope you can resolve it soon..

I think it's rare for men to admit their mistakes and problems and as a girlfriend - you cannot always do things for him and he's asking you this time what he really wants. Perhaps it's good for you to distance yourself for now. Give him time and air to find his way. Just be patient. Remember that absence makes the heart grow fonder. It would be better that he misses you instead of being angry at you. Have a great Mylot experience ahead!

hi barbiesaco I think perhaps he is using that as an excuse to bow out of the whole thing.so yes p ull back and stay away and if he gets a job and really loves you he will come back.otherwise I think you do not need his abuse and while cooling it, just look for a new love. a man who will love you and not take his frustrations out on y ou ,. You do not deserve to be someones anger board to be abused vocally..

Give him space and some time to sort things out, but expect for the worse and hope for the best. It could be true that he's just under some major stress and self-degradation but blaming you for it is wrong of him. Or, he could be also making excuses. We'll never know what his real reason is until he comes clean.

Hi barbiesacol88 Sounds little unfair..lol :) but..think of it... Perhaps he really needs time and space to think...If he's a real man he will surely come back to you after he finds a job...Understand his situation also, maybe he has a better plan.

If you want me to be ho9nest, i would say it sounds like he is trying to let you down gently. I wouldnt ever put up with a relationship where i was treated like that. He isnt treating you fairly at all. Not easy to do but i would cut my ties with him and try and move on