You asked me, then you don't listen

Hahaha...So true,I had that experience once.. My friend were asking me on what o do about their relationship, and being older than her she used to asked mew for advices and yet she won't listen to me, I just noticed tat incident when I already knew her decision from our other friends. Sometimes we only want what's best for them.

I find people do that A LOT to me. I used to be a nurse and often people will ask me health related questions. I will then go on to tell them waht i think it could be, how to treat it etc. 9 times out of 10 they dont listen, only to come back to me a few weeks later and say "i went to the doctores, you were right". THen the next time they ask me something, the dont listen again!!!! So in the end i get fed up and simply just say go and see the doctor lol. THere are only so many times you can bang your head against a wall before you get sick of it!

i see some people like that as well. probably they are expecting a type of answer from you. and if you answered otherwise, they wouldn't want to listen to it. they are not asking because they want to know. but rather they are asking for re-affirmation of the'r already establish opinions.

yeah absolutely right, just like one of my friend always seeking for advice but still don't listen and sometimes she get mad at me. maybe she just need someone to lean on and listen to her problem.

I kind of agree with above posters, but sometimes someone who asks you something does not really look for your advice, we are usually too eager to give someone advice. What I think we should be doing is keep asking back so they could figure it out for their own. Also sometimes people just wait for you to support them, this gets hard when you have different opinion than theirs but you need to tell this out honestly and just at the start of the conversation. What I also do is, just walk away after I have expressed my feelings towards the situation and opposite is still "blabbering" about something like he did not listen me at all! Also I find people and situations like that give me good schooling about how to express my feelings, they will listen to you, BUT its matter of how you can bond with them, and that takes a lot of practice.

They just love the "asking" and not the "listening". Or..they listen but won't believe you anyway. When someone asks my opinion about something and I can sense they don't believe such fact, I would simply say "have some research for yourself and update me". If the asking is about personal matters like family or love life, I share my own same-like experience first before I advise. At the end of a conversation, i would rather say "it's your life, it's your decision, I've done my part" and smile. Most of the time, the fact is : They really don't want our opinions, they just need someone to listen to them and their stories...