Is it wrong to dream of your knight in shining armor even if your married?

I don't think it's wrong to dream, but if you're married, I don't think it's right to hope for another man to come along & he will be right for you. Being married to someone is a commitment & isn't something to take lightly. When you decide to get married, you should be prepared to spend the rest of your life with that person. Personally, I feel that unless the person is being abusive towards you, (verbally, physically, etc.), you shouldn't hope to meet someone else. And you also have to realize, just as you said, no one is perfect. Even your knight in shining armor would have some flaws.

Just like you've said, there is no such thing as a perfect man. It's human nature that we always wanted to have things or relationships that we think would be perfect but we, ourselves are not perfect too. And when we are trap to the choices or decisions we've had, we try to improvise. We try to find ways to compensate our failures or probably our wrong decisions because we don't have the courage to get out of the situation so we tend to just be contented to whatever we have at the moment. And one way to escape those not-so-good-things in our life is to dream. There's nothing wrong with it as long as you'll just keep it in yourself and don't let it affect your relationship with your husband. Go on, dream! It's free anyway.

Hi my dear friend, don't worry, you are not wrong and this is really a normal thing for an adult. Sometimes my wife told me she had dream someone doing something very romantic to her but the hero is not me. But i feel ok because its normal.

im sorry for your situation i think that you should get divorced. if you are not happy you should fight to be alright. its not easy to just go to your husband and ask for divorce but if you are not happy you should. and for sure someday the right guy will come. to stay married will be harder to find the right guy. cause many people respect marriage a lot. fight for your happiness and start a new life. life is too short to spend many years with a man that doesnt make you happy. make a change^^ im sure your family will support you. and one day the knight in shining armor will appear and make you happy be brave

okay I have read all the responses and now it is time I share mine. I as well never had any hope of finding my knight in shining armor because I thought whoever will love me the way I am will be my perfect man. And if he is not perfect, I will deal with it and if possible try to make him a better man. I dream as well for great things but not in the case of finding the perfect man. I have lots of friends who dream of Mr perfect and it is normal for a saying only. It is good to dream and feel good about it but don't start expecting. When you start expecting then the disappointment come. So don't worry just try to be happy. smile now and give your life to Christ as you said earlier in the response. He will bring you the best.

As a man, I dream of my knight in shining armor and that's Jesus Christ. He's the Man everyone should fall in love with for He is the perfect man! To touch on your subject, give thanks to Him for He has given you the man, the husband that loves you so dearly. No matter the differences are, how imperfect your husband is, remember you are not perfect too, thus always center yourself to Him and thank Him for your marriage!

This is a very interesting question. What did you think of the man you married? Was he someone that you needed to marry before you got to know him better? I don't know how long you have been married, but something is telling me some thrills are gone. What is it that you are missing in your marriage? Having fantasies of other men is natural, but the reality is you are married. Maybe if you are honest with yourself about your feelings toward your husband, you may find this knight to be someone you are married to or perhaps you need to rethink your marriage.

From high school, I did not even dream of a knight in shining armour and to be honest I did not fully comprehend the term. I do not understand why people would be looking for someone that perfect when there are imperfections in this world - we aren't even perfect so why would we expect the man we're going to be with to be someone perfect. Perhaps it is right to think in terms of finding someone whom we can still love despite their imperfections or someone who will love us despite our imperfections. You know what they say - happiness sometimes lies in wanting what you already have, not in getting what you don't have. Hope you make the most of your life together with your husband as I am sure the knight in shining armour is unrealistic.

It happens the same to me . We´ll never find the perfect man, because nobody is perfect, but the wish to find our perfect man, makes us revitalize ourselves and our relationships. And dreams are dreams. We´d be wrong if we couldn´t love our husband, and we`d want to run to a vain dream. Don´t you think so?

I guess its not worng but it shows that you arent happy. I never dream of anyone else and I have been married for 2 years and with my husband 5 years next month. To me he is perfect, he is perfect for me and our children. He might not be perfect for everyone but he is to me. I couldnt ask for a better man. I think because you are thinking of 'a knight in shining armor' says to me you arent happy and maybe you should just leave and save your heart!! I hope you work out your feelings!

nita04 I can understand that every woman wants her knight in shining armor and to an extent it is not wrong to dream of him. Realizing you are married and still dreaming of him may not be such a bad thing it only means that times might be difficult or maybe not quite what you expected. I can understand this as I feel the same, I am with someone who I love dearly but wish so badly he would just mature and respect me the way I do him. Maybe in your case this is the issue, that the respect or the feeling of being needed is not there. Whatever the reason may be, just because you dream of finding your "knight in shining armor" doesn't mean that you are unhappy or not in love, it could mean that you just want to be able to find it in your husband and I truly hope that whatever you dream or want you are able to find it.

I don't think there is a perfect man or ideal guy. Because if a woman is seriously looking for that ideal guy, she'll end up alone. I guess what makes you think he is right for you is the chemistry between you and him. I guess it is okay to daydream but what if you found the man you thought is your ideal man, what's next?