What are some good ways to feel content when you are with annoying people?
By betterdays
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
Philippines
August 2, 2012 6:30am CST
It is a fact that we would not always be with people we like and have qualities that we desire as companions. In this type of situation, we sometimes may ask why we have to deal with such types of people. But the fact is that it is just the reality of life, that we are not always to be in the company of people that we desire to deal with or be with. Now the question I want to ask now is, how then do we make it a way that this reality would not be a burden for us and how do we learn to appreciate the reality of being with people whose characters somehow causes some friction with us?
I want to ask this question because we may find different kinds of solutions and ways of thinking that would give us less burden with this reality.
3 responses
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
22 Aug 12
Don't be personally involved with them, otherwise they will suck your positive energy. I deal with these people everyday in my workplace, and I only talk to them if its work-related issues or matter. Other than that, when this person starts telling stories about himself I pretend that I have many things to do that I need to do asap so that he will get out from my office.
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
I do believe negative people can sap positive energy from you, so it's best to keep away from them as much as possible. Yes, we could meet a lot of them in the office so now I feel so glad working in the comfort of my home...being my own boss and away from office politics :)
@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
2 Aug 12
If I have to work with some annoying people, I will only interact with them if its necessary and if I have to discuss something important. I will spend my weekend with them or hang out with them. I will keep my relation in professional way with them. I dont want to include them into my private life.
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
I would bet intimate and deeper relationships with them would be next to impossible. Your advice is very sound for those experiencing this type of situation, and I guess one way or the other at different levels this happens quite commonly to many people. It's probably a matter of adjusting the best way possible to the situation and most importantly, with the right attitude. Fighting with them and complaining a lot is a no no in this type of situation, but real people skills and probably wisdom combined with sympathy would be highly needed to adjust the best way possible.
@sherrybelle (707)
• United States
2 Aug 12
We limit our time with those people. We tell ourselves that, as soon as possible, we will step away from those people and spend time alone or with people we enjoy spending time with.
Sometimes it's about learning to be patient and tolerant.
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
Yes, I guess that would be the best and easiest way to deal with it...to avoid the cause of your annoyance. In some situations this may not be possible, like that person is a brother or a sister where both of you live in the same house, or with an uncle who lives in the same house and is supported by your father and many other similar situations. Anyway, I believe your advice to be patient and tolerant also answers that question. :)
