How to settle argument with family members?

Talk to her casually not about the issue that you argued about but with your daily casual life..like asking her to pass the food or a comment on a show you are watching, anything that you could have a short or urgent conversation with her that does not correlate with the topic you argued about. Given a chance, smile and nod to greet her. No matter how short it is, still it would give a positive ambiance for both of you. You will not only be seen as a patient person but broadminded too. Soon as you realized, you are both talking and would be ready to patch up the differences. God bless!

Where there is love there are misunderstandings and when they are your family members, arguments do happen but that does not mean permanent separation from them. They are your very own and in order to settle the argument, you need to take the initiative and give a big tight hug. This would definitely resolve the arguments. What say?

A pleasant day Daisy_22, Your post was very timely. As me and my brother had an argument. Same as you are, it was just a petite argument that turn into a big one. And just like you are, I also want my brother to learn the lessons but it looks like his pride eat him up. As a result, everytime our shoulder bumps, we tend to have a clash which resulted to a big conflict now. Perhaps, we are almost on the same boat but I am not saying that your sister will have her ego, however, it will be best if each ego will be set aside. In my situation here, my brother was beaten up by his ego, so we end up having this big conflict.

I'm one of the so-called "pleasers"- people who try to please everybody. Of course it is true that you can't please everybody. But me, I try to do so. I get angry too, and also get involved in arguments like any other normal person. But the big difference in me is that I don't hold grudges long enough to ruin a relationship, especially a good one. I always try to make up with them when I feel everything is tumbling down and the other party is not showing any sign of truce. This doesn't mean though that I always admit it's my mistake why we had problems. I just tell them honestly that I do not want our good relationship to go to waste, thus I am taking the first step to kiss and make up. In your case, this is your sister you're talking about. Don't you think that's enough reason why you should treasure a good relationship?Patching things up will not hurt you, it will only do good for both you and your sister. There's no need to ask who is right or wrong, what's important is how you start communicating with her again. A day can become a week, a month, or even a year, without noticing time when one is angry. But what do you get from that, heartaches! You might not know when she needs someone to talk to but can't call you because she's afraid you won't welcome her. Life is short, enjoy it with your love ones. =)

After an argument, it is best to give each other space, because if you did try to talk it out immediately after the argument,either of you may start saying things that would permanently hurt the other. The next problem would be, both of you would wait for the other to make a move to settle your argument, after you are not that angry anymore. You would not want to talk to her first, because you are trying to teach her a lesson and she would not want to talk to you first, because in heart, she believes she's right. I know it is very difficult to swallow your pride just to prove that you are right, but with both of you refusing to settle anything, everything would go around like a vicious circle,without any of you guys attempting to resolve your conflicts. I think you should make the first move. Making the first move won't necessarily make you the weaker one,the loser. It would make you nobler and humbler. And try to talk to her about that misunderstanding. It's those little misunderstandings that get blown out of proportions that you would laugh at later, and wonder why you even fought over that.

When it comes to family, i would never do or say anything negative that would have a long term effect, coz i've never not talked to any of my family member and i hope i will never have to. After all family is family. The only reasons for small misunderstanding to turn into big quarrels is disagreement and lack of willingness to compromise and apologize. I feel, its not very difficult to avoid such situations. Communication and the way you do it, is the key. I hope i've answered your question sufficiently. All the best.

Many of such arguments are all rooted to miscommunication and to solve such problems, you should really put an effort in initiating a good conversation with the parties involved in the argument.

If I am the one at fault, I will not hesitate to apologize and make things up with her. But if she's the one at fault, I will not let our argument drag on and remain not talking. I will ask her to talk to me, like maybe somewhere just the two of us for privacy and so we can both say what's on our minds. I will tell her exactly how I feel and how whatever it is that she has done affected me. I will also tell her that I am not mad at her as a person, but I am mad with her actions. I will give her a chance to explain why she did what she did. If still she can't admit and own up to her mistakes long enough for her to learn a lesson, maybe we can part civilly; it is not a good thing for sisters to remain estranged for a long time.