what do you call a person who run away in times of problem?
By missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
Philippines
August 3, 2012 4:11am CST
i have known this man and he is one of my bestfriends. i noticed this guy that when he encountered or in the midst of the problem, he will be gone away from the place of conflict and of people he used to have a problem with. plenty of times i observed like this. he will not listen to me when i already tackle his problems. he will not say anything. when everything is fine, he will go back in there more if he is having another conflict. like as it were, he never used to say a word as if nothing happened. i hate him for that. in my mind i call him coward.
well, everybody does not have the same opinion, for you, what can you say about this besfriend of mine?
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9 responses
@turzo6 (16)
• Egypt
3 Aug 12
i think he is more of a better safe than sorry type of guy
and not a no risk no gain guy.............
he's i think someone who wants to keep his own things personal by not saying anything.
but sometimes escaping is not an option better face it
which i dont think he will ever understand.
ya we can call him coward for not facing and dealing with his own problems.
but there are some people who never gets it and i think he is one of them.
so its hopeless expecting something he's not and accept him for what he is if he's your "best friend"
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
of course, maybe he is doing his own way on solving his problem. what is the disadvantage about this one is that he will leave you puzzled and hanging. then it is hard to convince him to tell him what happened, then what all over again. sort of thing like that. well, it is his own way of solving his own problem. my consolation to him is that i will never leave as possible as i can.
thanks for joining here ;)
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
Those people need help from their friends or relatives to figure out what direction they will tackle. Good thing, he has a friend like you willing to help. I think, give him more time to get used to facing problems. Baby steps it is. Thanks and goodluck
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
it is because he is not a bad person to have as a friend. we've been along for how many years now, and we have some bitter-sweet memories. he is a thoughtful kind of guy and helpful too. when you need him the most, he will just appear quickly like a mushroom and ever ready to lend a hand. he is that type of guy. well, to say everyone has weaknesses. i do not know if i am right of calling him such word in times of his trouble. i can even say, that i am lucky to have him as my friend.
thanks for joining into my discussion ;)
@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
3 Aug 12
Maybe he didn't want to get involved with the problem. You should know the background of his life. People with traumatic, it becomes very insecure and out of trouble. CMIIW
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
he is okay. i do not know the real score within him, why made such scheme to be silent and to fled himself from the conflict he involved with for the meantime. to say, when i saw him sad and not saying a word, you will pity him but of course, i did not show to him i feel like that and so tapped his back and assuring him things will be fine in time and wounds would heal in its time apparently. thanks for posting such thoughts in here. ;)
@Fulltank (2882)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
Or oftentimes drink a lot everyday with the notion that the problem will go away the next morning. If the person would be a man, coward is not the proper name for it. I would call him a man with "no balls". That would be a more insulting word for a person who runs from problems. Maybe you can start calling him like that and see if it will wake him up.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
haha! so much for that term, that will surely touch ones ego. i do not know how would he be so affected with it, if he maybe awakens or would not care at all. i'll try that word to him when we meet soon. but that is funny, it made me even laugh. gee, whatever, as long as it gives him to change for the better. because he cannot just make it by running everytime in his deepest hour, so to say. time will come that he will get trapped and he must face the problem, whether he likes it or not. thanks for the thought being shared :)
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
I think we could not be a real friend for doing that. Maybe he is afraid of getting involve in your problem but for me even just the presence of a friend during problems is really important even though they are just there to listen. True friends should not leave there friends in times if troubles and problem even just to listen and console.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
yes, your right at that. it is not necessary to carry his burden if cannot afford so, a moral support and a prayer will a be a great length to enhance his spirit from miseries and problems. i cannot dare myself to stay away from him for he is nice man just getting weak in times of trouble. he is full of humiliation that is why his opponent would not be angry anymore to him because he will say against anything. poor thing 
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
no, he did not even allow me to carry his burden. he do things alone and silently like what i am telling here, going there gone for awhile. it is his way when having a problem. what i did is that, i gave him moral support and i pray for him to be well in time as soon as possible. thanks ")
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
Yes, maybe he is a coward or he is just avoiding to make the problem more complex. He must be controlling his temper, too so that's why he usually runs away if there is a conflict. He might be thinking, the problem will be solved in time...
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
what i like this man is that he is very humble. that is why even he is involved into a deep problem, he will not argue and even admit his mistakes. so if you are the one he who offended, do you have the real spirit to get angry or at least to forgive him the least because he would say nothing. the nerve of this man. he is annoying but pitiful as well.
thanks for the conversation you rendered in here :)
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
3 Aug 12
Hi,
Your right, your bestfriend is a coward, irresponsible and maybe insensitive unless he's hiding some deep reasons why he runs everytime, since he doesn't want to talk about it.
Have a good day :)
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
ouch, a very hurtful fact - for being coward. well, we cannot do anything unless he will decide to face the problem. maybe it is his own way to pacify the problem. i guess, even he is not doing anything and keeping his distance from the problem would somehow help him facing and solving it in his own style and penetration. i hope he will be just fine.
thanks for sharing your thoughts in here :)
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
3 Aug 12
In my mind,a true friends will never go away when his/her friends in need,if he/she go away,he/she not only is a coward but also not a really friend.If it is me,I will never take those people as my best friend even a common friend,may dear missjahn,if your best friend still do the same thing to you I think you should get away from him or just take it as a common friend.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
i knew him so long. although sometimes it bothered me for somehow we have connection with one another but i cannot leave him like that. if i will leave him in times of his deepest moment, what others can say about me? or at least my conscience would not permit so. i love my friend and i care for him. that is why i am so concern about him. it is okay with me, i can handle the situation as far as it concerning with him. thanks for putting your ideas herewith, appreciated that much.
