when your parents are the ones stopping you from reaching your goals

Philippines
August 3, 2012 8:47am CST
This semester, I joined the theater arts group in my university. I have always wanted to experience acting in a theater ever since I was young. When I was a kid, I've been acting in school plays but never had the real theater experience. So this opportunity came and it was really a big blessing that I have passed two auditions just to get in. The auditions were no joke. I really prepared for it so I was really glad to know I've passed. Being a part of this organization, we are required to undergo dance lessons, voice lessons, workshops and seminars about acting which are really exciting because I will learn so many things and I know I will grow here as a person and as an actress. And as a trainee, I get scholarship too. The only sacrifice is that the classes and workshops usually finish around 9 or 10 in the evening which pisses my mom off every time I get home very late. That is the problem. I only wanted to do what I've always wanted to do, AND it will benefit her too because of the scholarship grant. Now she wants me to quit because I get home late every night but that's just the only sacrifice and I believe that before you get something or before you become something, sacrifices and hardships are inevitable. Why doesn't she support me instead?
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@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
6 Aug 12
You can let somebody go with you during the practice if that would make your mom calm. Perhaps a brother or a cousin. Parents will always worry if their children are not yet home in the evening.
• Philippines
6 Aug 12
I thought about that too. Sometimes I talk to my brother and we come home together but my mom still gets angry and she still wants me to quit.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
4 Aug 12
It can be enough of a struggle to achieve your dreamaz and your goals with no certain obstables to vlock your way. when you r parents become that obstacle it can become quite discouraging. You expect your parents to supprt your dreams and and find ways to deter them. You are told to show your parents honor and respect but that is difficult when you feel that they are dishonoring you instead. Still you must follow your own heart and do what make you feel the best about yourself.
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
Exactly. The first time I told my mother about it, I was so proud of myself and I'm expecting she will support me but instead she's always complaining about it ever since I told her about it.
@Byamee (84)
• India
3 Aug 12
you should show them that they are overlooking your needs and demands. You want to complete your course and you also need your scholarship. As for the coming late part you should let them know that you are completely capable of handling yourself and others. tell them about the streets you take and all other details to calm their restless souls. It is true that crime has risen in the past few decades but that does not mean that we stop following our dreams. Take a hold and dont give up. They will understand once they feel your resolve
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
I think that's one of the problems too. I don't feel safe either commuting alone at night. That's why I suggested that I'll just rent a dorm but she still rejected it.