Would you allow your partner to have friends to other people?

Variety is the spice of life, and you cannot bake a cake using only flour. I is unreasonable to expect people to live life as an island; people need the interaction of other people. The quickest way to end a relationship is to cut your partner off from other relationships. Love will not grow where there is no sunshine, and sunshine is never felt in a dungeon. Let your love go, it will return to you if it is ment to be. Do not let your fears drive your partner away.

Obviously EVERYONE has the right to make friends and be friends with other people. Allow?! I don't like your choice of word there. Partners, whether longterm couple or married do not own each other. There is nothing more sad in this world than a person with NO friends, or someone with only ONE friend, perhaps their boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse. I believe it is MORE selfish to expect that your boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse will be your EVERYTHING and your ONLY friend. Most people I know are fairly social, because I am fairly social, and I love to meet people and spend time with a variety of people for various reasons. I have some mommy friends because I am a mommy and I belong to a group of other moms. I have lots of running friends because I run competitively so I train and hang out with these people daily. I have some friends I have had for YEARS, since I was a little girl, so some friends that I still stay in contact with semi-regularly whom I have known now for almost 33 years. They are of BOTH genders and ALL of us have our own spouses and/or children. Anyway, all I have to say to people who want to 'not allow' their partner to have friends is - you really suck and you are nuts. I would NEVER EVER choose to even have any sort of relationship with a person who had that type of attitude. I have friends who either have controlling spouses or THEY are the controlling spouse, and I can manage to be friends with them to a point.... but if they ever say anything to me I get pretty irritated.

I agree. My sister`s boyfriend was in this situation. My sis does not let him to go out and enjoy life and i feel bad with it. I do not tell her though like it1s none of my business but this will in fact challenge the relationship if you let your partner be part of the world despite the fact that you are now his. You can see how much he loves you if he knows limits and he`s time. People should know that changing he`s partner is not gonna work because in some ways, he will still go back to who he is and that might change and affect your relationship into more serious problem.

as long as your partner does not look for other relationship and you know that your partner is not that kind of person. i don't feel any reason why you have to worry about he has friends. but he has personality that may get involved with other people, then i would get worried.

People who do not allow their husbands, partners to have friends, is like saying that they can not go to work and talk to people.I feel that a relationship is based on trust, so why can you not allow him to have friends, do you not trust him, are you that so insecure, or would you just be jealous that he has friends and that you do not have any. We all need other people to talk to and to have a laugh with and if people were to only chat to relations, then life would be rather boring. I would never expect a partner not to have friends or to give them all up for me or anyone else.

I understand with your thoughts, i think that's a normal that your partner have some friends with other people, He could make some friend but not too much should have lemitations because if much that lead also temptations. I would rather to have family friends when you both going outside is by partner and partner! Good luck.

I can see nothing wrong in allowing your partner to be friends with other people. As long as you know them too and they are good influence then it will be fine. Once in awhile, you also need to do things in your own like hanging out with your separate friends. But again, there's always limitation with this. You must remember that when you enter a married life, everything will be changed. You are not just yourself because you will become two or three or four.

Friends and friends. RELATIONSHIP or not, you just can't demand from your partner to leave all his friends and devote all his time to you. Love and relationship is based on trust and if you don't trust him or her with friends, then relationship isnt good from the start and its bound to break somewhere because of that same suffocating feeling you mentioned. We al need time alone and away from our lovers too, hanging out with friends from time to time is nothing wrong. Besides if you are with one person all the time you tend to get bored of them, you get frustrated and angry, thats just how we are. We need socializing and not only with our partners. And if you were referring to allowing your partner friends either because of fear they may cheat or something, because lets not be blind, it does happen often, all I can say is if that person really loves you he or she wont hang in such groups and places where unwanted attraction may arise, also with people they know they like them, period. If you follow that I think and you know what you want and how much a person means to you its not hard to do that little 'sacrificing'

That seems a bit mean. I don't mind my husband having friends and he doesn't care if I have friends or not. People need friends even people that have partners a relationship doesn't mean keeping that person all to yourself that does make that person very selfish and also the kind of person that is easily to get jealous.

I don't think it is good to prohibit our partner to make friends with other people. Everybody needs other friends in order to make life meaningful. Other friends can give us better ideas which we can use in order to have a better life. Well, those who prohibit their partner to have other friends maybe had a previous experience of dishonesty and are afraid that the same thing might happened again. But I don't think that is the solution.