When to make a Decision?
By Ley
@dsw313 (320)
Philippines
August 3, 2012 11:39pm CST
I use to have a stable job and I am earning a living, until I decided to resign because I feel emptiness and not being happy anymore in my office environment. From being a bookkeeper I tried being a call center agent, then I had an accident that made me staying home, until I had part time online jobs. I use to took care every little/big expenses regarding the food, tuition fees and others before. And my husband take care of the debts we have.
I can feel right now that he's struggling to budget it all, and I only have a little earnings. He doesn't want me to look for a job in the city, he keep on saying that the kids will be left behind, but we cannot afford the school and other household expenses. He wants us to be together even life is hard, and I truly understand that. But I think we all have to make sacrifices for our kids.
Now, I am having a hard time making a decision whether to leave my kids under the supervision of my sister and a nanny and visit them every 2 weeks. or to stay with them even though sometimes I don't have any penny in my pocket.
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9 responses
@Byamee (84)
• India
4 Aug 12
Its very touching that you want to do so much for your kids, but you should try keeping in mind your past experience and find a job that suits you. Worry about the pay later, if you love what you do, you will be successful and more options will follow. They might bring you closer to home. For the time being you might think of leaving home. But try making it a weekly visit, at the same time try looking for jobs near home to support your family. The kids will find it hard to understand now but they will in time. So go ahead and do whats best for the family.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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4 Aug 12
If I was in your shoes, then I would go to all the shops in the area that you live in, plus other places and hand them my cv and say if there are any jobs, or jobs that come up here is my cv can you please keep me in mind.I would be happy if all the bills are being paid and as long as you are managing with the money that you have, I would stay with your children, as you only get the chance once to see them grow up, also to be honest think how your children would feel, as I am sure they would rather have you than money.
Good luck in what ever you chose to do, I know it will be hard to decide what you should do.
@dsw313 (320)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
Yes, I also realized that, that they will be a kid once, all my life I'm always with them, I never experienced being far, I am always hand-on. We are in a rural area so job opportunities are too low, I already passed my cv/resume but as of now there's no vacancy, but I'm in the line. So, I guess I have to make other options before planning to leave. thank you
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
21 Aug 12
Hello dsw and welcome to myLot. The most important job you can do is to take care of your kids. It is more important for you to be there with them than for them to have things. Sue you can go off and get a job in the bigger city but that is an easy way out. To stay and take care of your kids yourself is hard but will worth it in the long run. Find a cheaper school for your kids and figure out every thing that you spend money on that is not necessary. Besides what is the woth of family if your are not together?
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
4 Aug 12
After reading your discussion, I understood your situation is extremely hard to make. If I am in your shoe, I probably would go out to the city, and seek a stable job temporarily to keep my partner off his hardship for while, then no matter what, I can get my kids to a better school for their future sake. That was just my personal perspective, it can not be use a a ruler for measurement. So, do what is best for your family is the priority. And you are right, making sacrifice sometimes is the hardest, but is a must too.
@dsw313 (320)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
Thanks for understanding. :) It's really hard for me to choose either to leave nor to stay with no assurance. Whenever I am planning to leave my husband and I are having a discussion and at the end pleading me to stay. I know we all have to make our sacrifices to the sake of the kids, I'm planning to have other options, if it will not work, then maybe I have to leave. :(
@dreamie_belle (94)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
Hi dsw313, I can feel the hardship that you're in right now. It's not an easy decision to make. However, providing a better future for your kids is, I think, should be the utmost priority. You may sacrifice being away from them temporarily and save for the future while also searching for other ways to earn without going very distant from them. Also, it helps to seek divine guidance from GOD. You may ask for a sign for which should be the right thing for you to do. Prayer is effectively powerful and it doesn't do any harm to give a faithful try.:)
@dsw313 (320)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
Thank you so much, I am really having a second thought whether to stay or find work from other place, it breaks my heart so much, but I feel like I have to sacrifice no matter how hard for them not to suffer their education and needs. Really need to make a decision immediately, but I don't know what's right for now. :(
@Axai2012 (371)
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4 Aug 12
First of all, you have to weigh the consequences, is the job worth it. What if you don't like the job like the job you left. If possible look for a job that is worth it that will make you happy and not feel guilty of leaving your children. It is a lot of sacrifice and we need to think of our children's future as well. It is the practical thing to do.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
4 Aug 12
Sometimes we will have to face a lots of problems and of course, the major expenses like school fees, and such fixed expenses cannot be ignored or can't be minimised also. However, as it is life, there may be time for ups and downs. I can really understand your situation because I had gone through more tough times than what you are experiencing now and somehow managed to overcome the situations. Keep hope and you will find a better and suitable job for you to help your h/b in his over burden. However, try to minimise the unwanted expenses and make strict budget with what you are earning now and mean time try for a suitable job which you can manage with your health conditions.
Best of luck.
@tetris15 (539)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
For the sake of your children, go get the job that would alleviate your financial situation. If you chose to be with them but every time you will think that you could do more and not stay there, it would only aggravate what you might feel of being a little less helpful of the situation. If it turns to that, you might find yourself contributing to the problem and not being the solution to it. Just think of it as something temporary that you need to do. You're not leaving your children at all, you'll get to visit them every two weeks. Not unlike those who work abroad that they only get to see their children on the monitors of their computer.
