Another Child.? yes or no.?
By Charm12
@Charm12 (17)
Philippines
August 5, 2012 10:02am CST
Im only 18.. i have a baby,, he is turning two MONTHS old this august 15.. and my husband is working in Qatar but he plans to have a vacation this september.. and he want's ANOTHER baby again which of course i didn't agree.. but do you think i should.?
thanks..
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11 responses
@Charm12 (17)
• Philippines
6 Aug 12
believe me guys.. i already told him those things but he really insisted that he want's another baby.. :( I even told him that i need to finish my studies first but he really insisted that i should be pregnant when he gets back to qatar after his 15 days vacation here...
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
9 Aug 12
I would say no not right now. You are the one that is home taking care of the kids and having them close together is harder. I'm not sure how long you have been married, but I found that having one child soon after being married put a strain on our relationship. I think two would just have made it worse. You are young and have plenty of time to have more kids. I would take your time and enjoy the one you have.
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 12
Your decision is correct and wise Charm12. Glad to know that you and your family will be having a happy coming September vacation Two persons take care of a baby during vacation is very much easy than going on vacation with two litter sweeties. If you agree with your husband's suggestion means that you would have another baby which is a year or so older than the elder most probably. Not saying that going on vacation, it's not easy to take care of a a year old infant and a small baby at the same time.
Physically a new mom needs sometime to get recovered completely, moreover it's still a week to go before your baby to two months old. Therefore it's unhealthy to get preg that fast. You would be exhausted to raise and to educate and to take care of the housework during the beginning stage of the two close age little sweeties for certain period. After two or three years later would be an ideal time to have another baby I suppose.
Have a nice day and happy posting
@chrystalia (1208)
• Tucson, Arizona
6 Aug 12
I had 2 children 14 months apart in age-- when I was 25 and my then military husband was at home. It was horrible. My younger boy never got the attention he deserved because mom was just too tired, and the older was hyperactive. Now they have both turned out wonderful-- finally-- but I wish with all my heart I hadn't given into the Ex (yes-- he divorced me) and had them so close together. If I were you, I'd WAIT. If your husband loves you, he'll understand. If he doesn't understand, then you two have some work to do!
@weixiao2012 (54)
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6 Aug 12
why does your husband want to have another baby? i think you had better talk with him and make clear about the reason. and do you like to have another one? you should have an idea of your own. and then balance the advantage and disadvantage to make a final decison.
@ashya_32 (32)
• Philippines
6 Aug 12
if you have a capacity for bigger family why not, the more the merrier. but Your baby right now was just 2 months old good thing you disagree with your husband,its not advisable for you to get pregnant again, your wound not yet heal and you are not fully recover. talk to your husband i hope he will understand your situation
@trantukhoa113 (149)
• Vietnam
5 Aug 12
Of course No, you shouldn't!
Do you feel tired because your baby now? Have a baby is already hard.
If your husband want more baby, he should stay at home with you then to help you!
Let's think clearly about that.
Goodluck!
@francis920176 (84)
• Philippines
5 Aug 12
if you can afford to get a baby sitter then why not otherwise i suggest you wait a bit. suggested age increment is 3 years by most of the family planning campaign.
@Axai2012 (371)
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5 Aug 12
I think you are doing the right decision to not agree at the moment. It will be difficult handling a baby who is hardly a year old while pregnant. And worse if you are living on your own. You are young, there are still more years ahead of you. Enjoy the milestones of your first baby.