What did you learn from your past relationships?

I've learned many things from my previous relationships. The biggest one I learned though was from when I had an affair with a married man. I adored him, I loved him. I never asked him to leave his wife though, and once when he was considering it (or at least he said he was) he asked me if he could stay with me if he did? I said no, that was the end of the affair. See, about half way through the affair that went on for over a year, I realized if he would cheat on her with me, then eventually even if I was his girlfriend/wife and not the side dish he would cheat on me.

Honestly, I believe that the biggest lesson that I've learned in my life from the relationships that I had prior to my relationship with my husband is that I am a much stronger person than I really thought that I was. It seemed like I would become quite dependent on the person that I was in a relationship in and I really couldn't begin to imagine what my life would be like without that relationship. However, when the relationship ended, I learned that I was able to do it on my own and that in fact, I was a stronger person than I ever thought that it was possible for me to be.

It made my life better! How? When the guy I thought I loved left I got help in mending my heart And seeing my worth. Before him I didn't think I was worthy of love and when he left I thought that proved it. But instead of killing myself, an option for me back then, I talked to my then best friend. He showed me I wasn't that evil little girl I thought I was and I did deserved to be loved , truly loved. In time my heart mended. It helped when I realized what I thought was love was only desire and need. And once my heart mended, I met my guy. He likes and loves me . So from my ex I learned what real love is.

Wow, people responding here definitely had different bad experiences in their past relationships. Because of my bad experiences in my past relationship, I learned not to depend on anyone, to stand on my own, because I am my own person. I need not to be insecure, to be jealous of other girls, or to depend on other people for my feelings and emotions.

Well, i learned nothing..because whenever i love..it is as my first love..and i still have mistakes or can't avoid some bad situations, simply all past relationships are not repeated, i thought i know all already and can't avoid this and that...but in fact new problems raising and nothing looks like the same...

I learned that one must take responsibility for everything that has happened in one's life and that no one else is to blame. One might be guilty of having said the words or done the act, but it all started in the past. I learned independence and also learned not to rely on others. Whatever disappointments I have endured in life was by my own actions.

My past relationship lasted for 11 years and I can say that it took much of my time being with that person. I am not holding any grudges with her, but Idon't know why I just hate her so much.I know its because she always want fight, she keeps on nagging me. To be honest the reason why we lasted for 11 years because I pity her, she run away from home before and no where to go. So I let her stay in my house.. the relationship on the first 5 years were okay, but when all of a suddenshe became obsessed and so possessive and paranoid about so many things. not even thinking that I am not doing anything wrong. after all her doubts she hit me and pushing me. SoI've learned from that relationship is o be strong and be patient, despite of all the heartaches.

I learned the you can't change people and turn them into what you want them to be or they turn into what you want them to be. If you need to change somebody that means that person wasn't the right person for you and vise versa

I've learned a few things. Firstly, never marry for the wrong reasons as even though the person you marry might be happy, you won't be. I've also learned never to get involved with someone who's already married, no matter how attracted you are to that person, as it almost invariably will end in tears. The last main thing I've learned is to push physical looks/appearance far down the ladder of importance, as if somebody is not instantly good-looking, they can become so if you grow to love them. I feel that to judge someone and refuse to go out with them just because they aren't the most sizzling thing on 2 legs appearance-wise, we can be missing out on a lot, as beauty is only skin-deep.

I believe the challenges in life, including heartbreaks, definitely make me stronger. I have learned several things along the way, and I have paid very close attention to them. There is no easy way in or out of relationships. Connections in life for getting a new job or a new car are great, but there really isn't an "easy button" hook-up for relationships. Relationships take work, and that's the first thing I learned. If either party in the relationship isn't willing to work, then the relationship simply will not work. Relationships take more than one person to function. If you force someone into a relationship or if you are not really that "into" a relationship, then the relationship will not work. If it does work, then it won't be a happy one. Communication, commitment, and honesty are the most important things in a relationship. Communication is most important, and without being able to effectively communicate with your partner, you will experience a life-long downturn of arguments, fusses, and fights. Commitment and honesty go hand-in-hand. If you are a cheater, liar, or thief, then most people don't want you stealing, destroying, or breaking their heart, so those types of people need to stay away and only hook-up with like-minded people. Lastly, never give up. If you love someone, no matter how hard it gets, and no matter how much you think the relationship is over, it can only get better from there. I hope this helps, and I hope others find this useful and helpful.

My past relationship dit not only makes me stronger but I makes me a better person too. I learned how to love, respect and care myself more than to anyone else. I learned to manage my time, obligations, work and family in my past relationship. But the best lesson that I learned trust yourself first before others because you will never cheat and betray yourself like others do. Have a nice day!

I think I have learnt much from my past relationship. The most important is that we shouldn't insist on the relatoship if you really don't love him.