battered housewife

hi, I cant stand such situation, slapping ,abusing , a complete no for me, under any circumstances, every one have their self respect, and we should not let them to do anything , what they want.

Oh sweetie, just leave. Now. No one deserves to be battered, physically or emotionally, by anyone. I know it's hard, trust me. I can't tell you how it must seem like an impossibility, but you will be better on your own. Oh sure, financially it may be difficult, but finances can be reestablished. Things can be replaced. Our time on this earth is finite, why let someone beat you down? Your inner beauty and soul deserve to be nourished. Not beat down by someone who has their own issues to deal with. Don't become a punching bag. Don't let his words cut you down to his size. Friends can help. Women's shelters can help. Become an independent woman again. You made a commitment when you moved in together, sure, but now his true colors are coming to surface, and you deserve more, deserve a better life than what has transpired. Learn from this, grow from it, and move on to become a happy woman. Leave him in his own muck.

I was a battered wife and house wife for 3-4 years. No matter want I did it was wrong. my house was spotless and he wasnt pleased. hed always find something he didnt like. Im glad those days are over. i kicked him to the next street.

Hi, tipay, I haven't experienced like that. I think it will be better for you to have a job. If you are independent in economy, it will be easy for you to be independent in mind. If I were you, I won't bear it, even once. Hope you feel better now.

he has done this two times. domestic violence should not be a habit. it is better to leave for a time and let each other calm down. if it is not for love, you may not come together.

If the situation is getting worst and I started to feel unhappy with the kind of relationship we have, then it's for me to move on, leave him, and let him do things the way he wanted it to be. The fact that he hurt me not just physically but also emotionally shows that he has devalued our relationship. He has no respect of me. For me, it's really a big deal. I can't hold on for someone who hurt me even if I really love him. Who knows we could be both happy having separate ways and who knows I might find someone who deserves me better than him.

in my opinion, hurting physically is a no-no to a relationship. If your partner hits you, maybe it is a sign that he is not a good partner for you. Just like what you said, you are just living and not yet married. Better leave him off rather than taking all those hitting issues until you get married. On the other hand, you might think some reason why is he doing it to you. Do you have some lapses in runnign the relationship why he used to get drunk with his buddies? If yes, maybe you may talk to each other. Try to have conversation when he is not drunk or in a normal mind.

hi tipay, My father always telling us if ever our partner to be lay hands on us in any cost it is better for him to return us to them because he never sent us to school, provide everything just to be physically or emotionally abuse by someone. I can't get the reason why some battered wife or girl friend can't let go of a man who acts like a demon to them if ever it will happen to me without any thought I am going to leave him for good. If he did it once he can do it again and again. It's 2012 where almost women in the society prove more than anything can men do. happy mylotting

I will leave this man. If a man beats up his own wife, it means that he does not love her. This is also a violation of human rights. I would automatically file for a divorce if that already happened twice. I will not believe him even if he promises that he won't do it again. Based on research, men promise that they will never beat up their wives again once they have said sorry but most of them do repeat the beating up process all over again. I believe it is just right to leave that abusive guy. No one deserves that type of treatment in a relationship. Happy mylotting.

If I was that housewife,I will slap back to him and broke up with him as soon as possible.As a man,I think that the man who will batter his wife is totally suck,and I think woman think this in the some way with me. But I why you really need to write such rude scenario?If I think in the way of scenario,I will consider that the housewife will cry and go back to her mother house,then a few days later the husband will go her mother's house and beg her back to home.

If I'm the girl, knowing that I am not tied down to the jerk through marriage, hah! I'll pack my bags and call it quits. It's over, my parents did not raise me, send me to school, took care of me and love me only to be laid hands on by someone who wouldn't even provide for me well despite my attempts to help our situation. If he cares for his drinking buddies more than me, then why don't he just join them forever and let me be. I assume that we also don't have kids yet, which is all the better. A person like that who can't even face his responsibilities doesn't have what it takes to be a good father, much less a husband. So while I'm still free to flee, I will. I may love him, but I love myself too.

That's a sad story of you.. It makes me feel bad hearing stories like that because in collage i have met a lot of women victim of their husbands iron hand. The battered wife. For me leave it behind. But be very sure that you are strong enough to do that because,some women easily change their mind when their husband beg for them not to leave. And after leaving him, you pray and ask for guidance, then start again. A women don't deserve such treatment same with the men. Of course it's not good if the girl is doing this to a boy. From a movie i learned this nice quote "Women are like flowers, if you treat her right she'll bloom, but if you don't she'll wilt" be brave ladies... and be loved! :) enjoy mylot!

battered housewife, for me if you have work then why you can get out of it. if you don't have any child. or even you have a child you need to give respect for your self, and why you can file a compaliant about your patner. and most of all you are not married to that person. so you can leave it any time. you know that some men are not true to there words. they will tell you he will not do it again but he will do it again. now a days there is no martir women now. if there is no solution to you problem then why are you still staying in that place. are you not tired it always happened to you. if other women can leave there husband den to it for your self. and have a work so you can live you self. thank you

A wife..live in or married must be treated well like how a man should value his own life and self. Better leave and give yourself and your partner some time. Never allow violence in a relation ship.Like a line in a song says " learning to love yourself..is the greatest love of all." How can you value others, if you cannot value your own self. and next time....avoid living-in and add God to your relationship.

If he has done it twice then for sure he will do it again. Once is enough and I'm sure the girl already confronted him about it and this man already promised not to do it,but then second time happened. I know it's a tough decision especially if you really love the man. I have a friend who was a battered wife,he gave his husband too many chances but still ended up separated as her hubby became worst,he already got used to punching her wife. But I am not saying that what happened to her will also happen to the girl you said. I'm just pointing out a scenario here for the girl to think twice if she will let him give a chance or not. To sum it up,In my opinion,I think it's better if both of them will have some time for each other first,cool off a bit and think things out.

Hi tipay! Well, thanks God I've never experience that thing in my entire life. If that thing happened to me, I will never let it. I will disappear automatically. No buts no ifs. Just goodbye. I love myself more than anybody else. So I will not let anybody hurt me physically or emotionally.

Speaking from personal experience - leave. ASAP. They all say they're sorry, it will never happen again, I love you. Don't believe it. It doesn't get better, it gets worse. It has happened to many women. What you're speaking of is only the beginning. Those are warning signs. Without intensive therapy a person like that will not change. They also will say anything to get you back. And they can be extremely charming, attentive and loving. Everything you thought you ever wanted. Then, when you least expect it, you're getting hit again. Then the cycle repeats - I'm sorry, it will never..... and the next time you're not only getting hit, you're being knocked down, kicked. pulled by your hair, punched, and slapped numerous times. This is not an exaggeration. It happens. The woman in this situation needs to leave immediately. I have learned volumes in regard to spousal abuse through my own experience. It caused me to talk to other victims, law enforcement and read extensively on the subject. There are many reasons for this type of behavior. But the bottom line is the woman must remove herself from the situation and NOT go back. They DO NOT change.

I hate to break this to you but most often than not the cycle of abuse is continuous unless you break free from it by asking help. It takes a lot of courage to do so. There are obvious signs that you are in an abusive relationship. If I were in your situation, I will leave until you are able to do so.