80% of what you do is wrong

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Thank you for sharing Carl, that is really nice.

Thanks for your response. You are maybe right that he has said that as an effect of his emotions. He was angry that time because we arguing over something which I think was very wrong. I was just trying to make him see that more problems may arise because of what he did but he didn't like what I've said. Well, it was a simple problem where a neighbor's visitors parked their cars in front of our house and shop. I find it very petty but he got angry with that and did something unexpected. I think that he has personal issues with that neighbor so he reacted that way. You are right that many people tend to say negative things when they are angry. They say that sometimes, words can be like swords. It can really hurt or wound other people and can really leave a mark in our hearts.

I am looking at my husband now and wanted to ask him again for the nth time what he means by that comment but he doesn't want to answer anymore and would say he does not remember saying that. I don't understand why some people say hurtful words and leave marks and then would just say that they can't remember it. I want to think that he was just angry that time so he said those things. I know that he is entitled to his own opinion and though I am hurt for what he said, I really do not want to cause more fights. ll I want from him now is at least explain to me how he come up with such figure. I may not agree to everything he will say, but I am sure I would definitely remember them and would be more careful next time. As for being my husband, this is the first time I have heard such comment and really does not expect to hear that from someone I value so much. Though I wanted to depend myself I chose to keep all those things in me. I think that it won't help at all. I just hope that he won't say those kind of things again. I too have many things to say. Thanks for your response. I greatly appreciate it.

Thanks for commenting. I really like what you have said and it really lifts my spirit. I will believe in my self no matter what. Thanks again.

Thank you for commenting. I do understand what you mean. I should not be affected by what he said because like me, he also makes mistakes. I should analyze first if the person who criticized you are really on the right position to said that or was he not reliable enough so I do not have to believe everything he says. I will surely remember everything you said and will consider them if this kind of thing happens again in the future.

You are right, communication is very significant to every relationship, as well as respect and trust. I honestly think that though I have made mistakes in the past, I don't think I will be able to reach where I am today if I am a total failure. But I will consider what he said because that is his own opinion. Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day ahead.

What you have said are all true. We people are not perfect, we all stumble many times, and we commit mistakes. But like you have said, we cannot really say how much mistakes we have committed in our lives or if this is more than what we have done correctly. Yes, we can use them as lessons and we have to learn from them but I believe that we should not focus on our mistakes. What my husband said has truly hurt me in many ways but I just thought that I should also consider that he has said that because he is angry. He might not really mean it is 80% or closer to that percentage. He maybe referring to a specific decision I made in my life and has generalized it according to it. Thank you for giving your time to response to my post. Have a nice day ahead.

Thanks ryanong. I am trying my best not to think about it. I will also try be best not take this seriously. Thanks for your time.

Yes, it is what you should do. We should be confident ourselves!!!

Thank you for your response Aries. We are arguing over a matter which I think has really caused big problem to us if I did not find out about it. It is just because some visitors of our neighbors parked their cars in front of our house and customers couldn't go to our shop because they are blocking the way. He got mad at it. I am worried because I believe that our neighbors are already drank and the way my husband reacts about it, I think that this may cause trouble. Since he already has issues with that neighbor before whom he thinks shot his pet cat, that is why I think that he is over reacting. He got mad at me for telling him what to do. But like what our friends said here, he may have said that because he is angry and do not really mean it. I actually asked him about it several times and the way I see it, he does not want to talk about it again. He in fact denied saying those comments.

Thank you for sharing :D

I just took my time to think things over before I confronted him because I might say something that I would just regret after. What makes me more disappointed was he actually said he does not said it. I asked him several times and he said he does not remember. He is back in his true self when I arrived last night. It is true that respect greatly contribute in the success of every marriage. Although I think that he forgot to respect me for saying those comments, I would respect and understand him for thinking that he is just in a bad mood that time and he does not actually mean them. I just hope this won't happen again because if that happens, I would no longer believe that he doesn't mean it.

Thanks rizza, what you've said are really helpful. I also thought and felt the same way. I really expect him to be the closest friend I would ever have so I was really disappointed when he said that. But things are better now and I am trying my best to just forget what he said. Thanks for your time. Hope you have a nice day ahead.