I don't know what to do with a friend...
By sol521
@sol521 (61)
Philippines
August 6, 2012 3:26am CST
I have this friend. He really thinks that his life is being screwed up. I think so too. He doesn't have any family around him. He has only one half-brother but never treats him as one. He has a mother but she's a bit crazy. His mother took away his money (savings) and bought a new house. Because of the fact that she's his only family in this world, he helped her moved in to the new house she just bought. Right after that his mother accused him of stealing her jewelry and told him that she has to report it to the police. I couldn't believe what kind of mother could do something like that to her own son. Right now, my friend is struggling so hard and he's really suffering some sort of emotional torture. I really wanted to help him but I can't. What should I do?
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6 responses
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
6 Aug 12
hi sol,
Your friend really needs a friend try to console him in every way if he has the capability to go somewhere and start a new life then forget about what happened then he must but after all the wounds heal I suggest he go back to her mother and forget all the hatred.
happy mylotting
@sol521 (61)
• Philippines
6 Aug 12
It would be very hard for him to forget all the wounds. It seems like he can't forget anymore what his mother did to him. These things didn't happened to him just once but it happened repeatedly throughout his life. Since he was a kid, he is thirsty for a love of a family. He's been trying to forgive his mom and forget all the things she did to him for the reason that she's the only family he's got but she's exploiting her own son.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
6 Aug 12
I am sad to know this he really needs a friend right now maybe he will not understand why all this things happened to him but later on he will
I believe even how mean a mother is she still a mother and he still owe his life to her
thanks for the BR 
@02karen (172)
• United States
7 Aug 12
sol521 - Well I'm really sorry for your friend. Yes many people go through those kind of places. First of all, if he had a savings account and his mom robbed him. He needs to have proof in order to get back his money. The mom can do whatever she wants in order for him to back away and stop accusing her. He needs to take action and stop wasting time. I have no clue how old is he and start depending on his own knowing there's nobody else besides a good friend with good advice. Find a job, live in an apartment on his own. He can beat her mom to the police if he has those papers. She will lose and stop telling him that he has nobody and etc. If he starts getting up to his feet he sure can but FIND THOSE PAPERS. PROOF!! Do it before it's too late because it can go worse. She started with jewelry. She's not a mother because she's probably taking medication and accusing of others. His mother is in control knowing that he's useless but he's NOT!! He's not alone...start doing something about it. Look for proof. Ask questions and get those papers... NOW!!
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
6 Aug 12
Tell him to try going to another city or country. Perhaps he'll do better without the need for family and relatives. Perhaps his life would be better with lesser stress.
There are things we cannot do eventhough we want to help. You could be someone who's "real" this time around, perhaps he'll see "family" in you. But help him spread his wings and forget his past.
Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
6 Aug 12
Just stay by his side if you can. He really needs somebody to talk to. You can attest to the police if his mom will really report him. I think he is unlucky to have a mother like that. She already stole her son's money and bought a new house for herself and then suddenly she was accusing him in stealing her jewelry. She's so selfish. If you can lend him a hand, do so. Your friend badly needs you now.
@uolyram (266)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
Your friend needs someone to lean on and tell his problems. In this way he can have a person to talk to on what he felt. He can also get some advices from a friend if he shares to them what bothers him. May be you can also advice him to move on and not to be depressed by what his mother did. Try to let him find a partner to be with and make a family of his own.
@cestcest (15)
• China
7 Aug 12
First, you are very nice person. I think you really want to help him out. However, sometimes,especially things related to one's emotional feeling. It need the one himself to conquer it.I hope he will recover soon.As a friend, you can chat with him and give him some feeling that you are worry and care about him to let him know you are right by his side even if you can not help much but you are trying to do this is enough.
