he came to my work
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
August 6, 2012 8:39am CST
A guy I went to high school with who has a girlfriend and young child. He would text me, or send things on facebook how he wants to go on a date with me. I simple ignore him, or say no because he's with this girl and lives with her. Typical excuse he would say his gf and him arnt working out and they are splitting (yet they are still together). I was at work and he comes walking in with his daughter in the stroller. I just treated him like any other customer, and if he said anything or hinted I would just ignore him and change the subject. I've told him I wouldn't date him, he is very immature and irresponsible not someone I want. He doesn't drive, doesn't have good credit or paying items, he spends money left and right without thinking (he would buy himself stuff before his daughter), and I think he has anger issues. He posts things on Facebook and back in school he would attack people so not someone I would want to be around. Also he gets animals and something isn't right out the door. In the last 3 months he's had 6 cats either his gf told him to get rid of it, or it supposeable attacked to kid (yet he gave me one to bring to the Humane Society and it was very loving and what they said I never saw). I think I handled this right but I can see him showing up every weekend to see me he did at my last job.
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13 responses
@TeamCholent (2832)
• United States
6 Aug 12
Keep reminding him that you are not interested in hooking up at all. No reason for you to date someone like that when you got a lot of positives going for you so keep focused.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Aug 12
You are right to not want to have anything to do with this boy because he doesn't sound like the kind of person that you would want to be with. First of all, if he is not able to be devoted to his girlfriend and his daughter, there is not reason to believe that this would change if he was to date you. I think that what it really is is that he is too immature to maintain an exclusive relationship and you are the kind of person that he would like to have for a little bit of side action.
@Jshean20 (14348)
• Canada
7 Aug 12
He sounds like the kind of person that I wouldn't want anything to do with at all. Why do you think he has the sligtest idea that you might even want to date him, he seems very obsessive with the fact that he showed up numerous times at your current job as well as previous jobs. How does he even know where to find you when you've switched jobs?
@roberten (3128)
• United States
7 Aug 12
This guy is the total opposite of you, I see why he is presuing you. He is probably not getting along with his girlfriend but is looking for someone else to take care of him before leaving the security of his girlfriend. He is probably looking for a mother figure to keep him. This guy sounds like a loser, you'd be smart to stay clear of him.
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
6 Aug 12
Seems to me you have kind of a stalcker in a way. Coming to your work and your last job is quit weird and if i had someone coming to my job and was trying to talk to me i would have someone else help him because i wouldnt want to be bothered with the confrontation of having to deal with someone like that. Its kind of immature like you stated because if you dont get it on facebook that you dont want nothing to do with him then obviously hes trying to push it and take it to another level by coming to your work and thats immature and something no one wants to deal with in life.
Growing up is part of life and some people just dont have it and never grow up after high school and thats it.
The animal part bugs me, its life and if your kids want animals then you should be part of a animal family and all get along together and help bring a animal in this world with a great family. I love my dog and have loved all my dogs except one that was a biter but other than that i love my dog i have now and hes like my baby/son to me.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
6 Aug 12
I know after awhile I'd get fed up and flat tell the guy to high tail it out of there and get a hint, never talk to me again. You did the right thing, and hopefully sooner or later he'll shove off.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
6 Aug 12
If you have him blocked on Facebook, he can't send you things.
When someone is posing such an issue, you need to cut off all avenues they have to you that you can possibly cut off. There is no reason to allow this guy to be in your life beyond him being a customer at the place where you work.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
6 Aug 12
He is definitely stalking you, and you should get a police to warn him or something. Or get something like restraint order, and get him leave you in distant. Some people like that just creepy, and you shouldn't talk to him at all. When he gone crazy, he might attack people, or do something crazy that makes you humiliated too. I hope that you would consider those advice.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
6 Aug 12
You are totally doing the good thing by ignoring him. But if he continues to hint on that you and him could be dating, you should tell him a bit more harshly about why you don't want to date him, if he doesn't understand. He might be that type of a chauvinistic idiot who thinks he could get everyone, and you only don't jump n him because you have moral rules for yourself and you like him. These kinds of people get so offended after you tell them ALL the things that make them a jerk and not worth for you to date that they would leave. Or if not, tell him you're going to file a report for harassment.
@ScarlettKitty (13)
• United States
6 Aug 12
Tell him very clearly, straight up, you are not, nor will you ever be, interested. Tell him if he wants to continue shopping here, that's fine, but you want nothing to do with him at any level, and that includes a customer/salesperson relationship. I would suggest first explaining this to your manager as well. If he objects, explain that he cannot hurt you in anyway, your manager is behind you, and you are in a public place, with plenty of support. If he asks what's wrong with him, explain, try not to get him angry, but get your point through, then never talk to him again.
