Do you talk about your work at home?
By AngelaMarie
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
Philippines
August 6, 2012 10:57pm CST
My husband and I both working before but now that were planning to get pregnant, my husband asked me to rest for awhile and focus on pregnancy plan. Even though were both working before I noticed we seldom talk about our work at home maybe because its very stressful and we don't want to ruin our bonding moments. But of course there are times that I open up to him about my work because he also a nurse like me and he is the only one can help me regarding patient care.
15 responses
@nnanduri (23)
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7 Aug 12
Hi,My husband is so sweet.He has more patience.He will listen all my words.As we both working on different fields, daily night we will spare some time to each other and we will discuss and share.He will give me good suggestions and i too.I hope sharing to each other will make the bond more stronger without any gaps.
@thersdae_me (327)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
My husband is so much like yours girl.:) Considering that I am really quite talkative and always has a lot to say about my day at the office, he has enough patience to listen to everything I have to say, everyday that is! And he doesn't show signs of getting tired doing so. He also talks about his work and how his day at the office was, but not as detailed as I do. And almost always, I will have something to consult him with and he will give me very good advice. He is Aquarius and I am a Capricorn, type A personality. While I am very impatient, demanding and bossy, he, on the other hand, is very understanding, humble, and born with so much patience inside.
It helps a lot when I talk to him at home about work. It enables me to release all the pressure I feel when I'm at the office and renews my stregth to go back to work the following day. He also gives me his opinion on the things happening at our office while we talk, before going to bed, so I get to see how my office mates feel and look at me. If he is not around and something bad happens to me at the office, I'd definitely call him soon as I reached home just so I can share it with him and he can make me feel better.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
nnanduri and thersdae good to know that both of your husbands has more patience and listen to all your words. My husband and I we seldom talk about work because its very stressful and bloody but there are times I talked some problems in my work and gives me lots of ideas and suggestion on how to solve it. Also we better to talk to others things than about hospital. Anyway, thank you for sharing your thoughts.
@Jshean20 (14348)
• Canada
7 Aug 12
I try to avoid talking about work at home, it's very stressful and I don't see any benefit in discussing it at home. If I liked my job, it would be great to talk about, but this isn't the case. Sometimes I do bring my job home with me in the sense that my mood is negatively impacted, I try my best to stop this from happening but sometimes it doesn't work out so well.
@TeamCholent (2832)
• United States
7 Aug 12
I often talk about work when I get home but we have a rule that we discuss work for only 30 minutes each day at a max. The rest we talk about our family and just life in general. I think it is good to discuss work for a little bit as it allows your spouse to understand where you work and what you are going through on a regular basis.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
Only 30 minutes each day at a max, interesting. Anyway I like the your idea and thank you.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
A previous boss of mine once told me not to bring home paper works ever. He is indeed hardworking and dedicated but he is against extending your office at home. And I think that it is just right because most of our time during day are spent in our jobs. It is just right to spend the night with our families and have some bonding moments with them. I hope that you will conceived the soonest. Keep us posted. Thanks.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
I have the same experienced too, my boss before did not allowed us to work after office hours or bring papers at work because he want us to be relax and rest for the next working days and to spent lots of time with our family. I am hoping too that I will conceived very soon. Thank you very much my dear friend.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
I can see that you have a good communication relationship with your wife and its very nice, good or bad point of views are still fine since its part of our lives.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
I do talk about work at home, i share work problems with my husband as he can understand what i am going through as he is also working in an office.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
Nice to know that your husband is very understanding, sometimes working in the same field with your husband has a big help because they can understand how you feel because they experienced it too.
@nijolechu (1842)
• Canada
7 Aug 12
Yes, most of the time I would like to talk about stuff that happened at work with my partner. Because we like to discuss what is going on with what is going on with our lives. But there are times when I have a tough day at work and don't feel like talking about it. It is nice to have someone to console with and maybe talk about stuff with.
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
My wife and I are working in the same company in the same area. We seldom talked about the office works because we are already together for the whole day and what is happening inside our workplace, we both new that.
Regarding your plan of getting pregnant, your husband is right, you need to take rest to prepare your self.Good luck and I hope you will have an angel soon.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
Thank you asdomencil, I really need to rest in order to get pregnant because my work its very stressful and far from home.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
I want to meet and talk to your mother cat then I will wait her response.
@simplealvi (148)
• Pakistan
7 Aug 12
Because you both are nurse then it's quite easy for you to talk about work at home but for me (and for most people) I cannot coz no one understands my work. I do talk to my brother as he has a Mobile shop because I use to be in a marketing company so i give him tips about quality sells, and i would never wana talk about work at home coz it is very stress full.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
Hi simplealvi, good to know that you can help your brother business by giving him a good tips about business. Thank you for sharing.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
When I also used to work, which was before I got pregnant with our second child, and just like you, we decided for me to stay at home instead of working -- we talk about work a lot. Of course, we also agree to spare some time to do away with work-topics, so we can relive ourselves from the stressful thoughts. We would talk about both the positive and negative things at work. He is my mentor and confidante when it comes to managing a team and being a professional, so I always look forward to hearing his advices, tips and suggestions. He would also share his stories with me, and hope to hear my reassuring words to give him inspiration to keep moving on.
Now that I'm just at home, I no longer have any work-related stories to tell, and he's the one who shares his woes and wees with me. When I get too fed up with work stuff, I'd inject stories about our kids and the house, so we'd have a lighter topic to discuss that makes more sense to both of us.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
Wow, you have a good mentor and he is your husband your so lucky.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
Your such a good wife for letting your husband know for what you have at work.Yes the advantages wth the same fields are helping, understanding and teaching each other on how to care our patient very well.
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
We are not use to talk about business matters at home. We have come up with one rule that things taken at home must be at home. If it is in business it should be dealt in the business site. So that our time will not be a quality time with the family.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
I agree with you. Like you we have the same rules too work is work and home is home,also we dont want to get stress when we relaxing and resting at home. Thank you for sharing.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
7 Aug 12
My husband and I talk about anything under the sun, and that includes everything about our work: the good, the bad, and the ugly. And I am very thankful that he's always on my side whether it's my fault or not. Of course when I am at fault he tells me what he thinks I should do to correct it but of course whatever decision I arrive at he will be there to support me.
But sometimes, when it seems that one of us is already having a bad time at work, we try not to agitate it by adding another bad news from our own work. It's like whoever spoke of furst how bad the day has been at work, the other will just keep silent even if the same goes for the him/her.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
I can see that you have a good relationship with your husband and I am very happy for you because he always there to support you in every decision you make. Talking everything under the sun is a nice way to understand each other ideas and thoughts and also it help the relationship to become more stronger. thank you for sharing my dear friend.
