The person you love the most

Thank you friend. Although we cannot quantify love like you've said, was giving priority to someone or choosing someone over the other a proof that you love him or her over the other?

Thank you for that that is really helpful. I think I will be needing to sit down for a while and think things over because I have been giving my husband priority over everything since day one. And always thought that it is the right thing to do because loving your husband is like loving your own self and it could really help build the foundation of your marriage. Thanks again.

I don't think it is. People have many different reasons for giving priority to one person over the other- For example, they might feel that they had been neglecting the other person for some time, and so given that person priority. Or they might have thought that the other person was lonely, and needed the attention more. That sort of thing. (That's not to say I don't get jealous anyway sometimes, haha, but I do try to understand.)

Thanks sofia, you are somehow right that those we love are the ones who usually makes us cry. Maybe because we love them so much that is when they hurt us, we are so much affected by it. I am sorry to hear about what happened to your daughter, and to you and your husband. I hope that God will guide you and lead you to the right person. Take care always.

Thank you for being honest. Although you love your children more than your husband, I am sure that you aren't forgetting or neglecting your responsibilities as a wife and closest confidant to your husband. Thanks for spending time to comment on my post. Have a nice day ahead.

Very well said deo, in fact the bible also say the same thing that children will leave their parents to have their own family and they would treat their husband or wife as their own self. This is why I always put my husband on top my list because I know that this is important in every marriage. They have to value one another more than anything because like you have said, when they get old, their kids would have their own family. So it is important that as early as possible, they would make their best efforts to strengthen the bond of their friendship and marriage. That way, when time comes that their kids would have their own family, they won't be experiencing problems. Some couples ends their marriage after their kids left their house finding out that they are only staying together just because of their children. So as a wife and a husband, they should also make a special bond between them above anything or anybody.

Thanks for commenting lit. I do appreciate what you have said and thank you very much for reminding me those. The bible always have the answers to our every questions. And it is very important to married couples to read the bible everyday because it will guide them along their ways to a happy and successful marriage.

Thank you for your response. This is actually one of my concerns. A newly wed couple needs time to be with each other to nourish and strengthen the bond of their marriage. That is why the first 2 years of marriage is very critical and many say that the adjustment period would even take 7 years. Once they have built a good foundation, their marriage won't easily be shaken up when problem arises. As for my case, I love my family the most, but I always prioritize my husband and our marriage. I do not know if that contradicts each other. I know that people normally give priority to someone who they value the most.

Thanks for sparing your time to comment. This is actually my problem at present, don't know which one to prioritize. Although I have chosen to choose my husband, I am not at peace that I can't prioritize my parents and siblings.

Thanks angel. That is true, people would sometimes do not really say or show how they feel. But if it is between husband and wife, I think that it would cause misunderstanding and problems to arise. One partner may feel that they are being neglected and more so, that their partner no longer love them. So I guess that every time we have the chance, we should really show and tell them that we love them. Because we do not know what might happen tomorrow.

Thanks for sharing. Was wondering why you haven't been involved in a romantic relationship until now :D You are maybe too careful in choosing the right person. I, too, love my parents so much. They have been my priority over the past years and nothing comes first before them even my job. But now that I have a family of my own, I always give priority to my husband and our marriage.

Thanks for sharing. I think all of us love God above all and there is no doubt about it so I am just referring to a person.

Thanks for your response. I also feel the same way at present. Much of my time was already devoted to my husband. I guess that it is fairly right at the moment because we are on the first year of our marriage so we are still on the process of building the bond and foundation of it.

Thanks for sharing, good to know you love and cherish your little brother. I have two younger brothers and although they aren't little anymore, I always see them that way. It is nice to know that your relationship with your brother is very good.

Thank you for commenting. Good to know that you still value and love your parents. I also feel the same. I always love my original family (my parents and siblings) but I just realized that since I got married, I prioritize my husband first. Does it mean that I love him more than them? I may not able to tell my husband what he means to me but I do really love him that I am willing to give up everything for him. Would you give up everything for a specific person in your life?

Thanks for sharing jam. You are right about it, not all marriages are happy. If they having problems with their partners, definitely, they won't consider them as the person they love the most. It can be the other way around :D

Thank you for commenting. I think that you are referring to a third party or someone not related to the either the husband or the wife. Was it like having an affair? That is definitely questionable if the husband or the wife loves other person (for example, a friend, an office mate or someone he or she know) more than their partner. Your are right that loving your parents or your children more than your partner is understandable but if this is someone which is not related to both couple, I also think that it maybe really hard to accept.