What is your relationships like with your family?

@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
August 8, 2012 12:16am CST
I have always considered myself to be a very lucky person when it comes to the relationships that I have with our family. You see, my mother has always been one of my best friends and one of the only people in the world that I have been able to talk to about everything. I also have a younger brother and younger sister and we've always been very close to one another. We lost our father when we were young, I was 14, my brother was 12 and my little sister was 8 when he died. I think that the loss of our father was something that has made us closer. Now we are all grown, but we are also very close. My brother has three daughters that absolutely love me and they are constantly calling me to come over to their house. In addition to that my daughter and son are very close to their cousins as well. So, I'm looking forward to hearing what your relationships within your family are like?
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
8 Aug 12
We are all pretty close. My parents and I are really close. My mom helps me with my son everyday, so we are always together.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Aug 12
I honestly wish that I still got to see my mother every single day because of the fact that we have always had a great relationship with each other. However, I don't get to see her every day. Despite this, however, I do get to talk to her on the phone each and every day.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
8 Aug 12
I have very strong relationships with everyone in my family too...even though our parents have passed we still get together as often as possible. This weekend our family goes to a cabin in Wisconsin for the weekend...all the nephews, nieces, greats and of course my brother and my sisters and spouses. As brother and sisters...we live a nice distance so once in a while we meet for supper someplace that is central to all of us....we are very lucky!
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Aug 12
It does seem like your family is very lucky to have the kinds of bonds that you do have. Our family is still younger and we do still have our mother that holds my siblings and myself together. However, I know that even once she is gone we are all still going to remain close to each other.
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
8 Aug 12
Relationships among family members should necessarily be of a binding disposition. Proper love and needful attachment could only be gained only when you mutually lovable,agreeable and understandable.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Aug 12
I do know that there are times that relationships with family members are tough and that is because of the fact that there are times that we are very different from our family members. However, in the end it is typically our family that we are able to count on.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Aug 12
We pretty much all get along. My two sisters-in-law can be somewhat annoying, but we get along...
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Aug 12
My sister-in-law is the one person in my family that I really can say is a person that does drive me nuts. The reason that this is the case is the fact that she thinks she does no wrong and if she believes that something is the truth, then it may as well be written in stone because there is no way that you can convince her otherwise.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
8 Aug 12
We used to be closer as a family but it's really been years isnce we have been. It used to be we'd have get togethers regularly at my grandmother's house and at first she'd cook and then it came to ordering pizza, then chinese to go with the pizza. We'd have fun, play card games or games outside and just talk and socialize. Even then I wasn't really all that close with my sibilings or cousin, but it was better then it is now. We are an antisocial family, atleast some of us are. We don't ever really get together unless it's someone's birthday party and actually the only birthday parties I will go to is for my niece and nephew, not my cousins kids at all.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Aug 12
With my extended family, being my aunts, uncles and cousins, we were much closer when we were all younger. However, I do still feel that I do have a pretty good relationship with them. We do all try to get together a few times a year and that is something that does help our family remain strong.
@else22 (4317)
• India
9 Aug 12
I have an extremely sweet relationship with my family.A few years back we were a joint family consisting of more than 30 members.We then used to share the same kitchen in the same house.As time passed by,some misunderstanding among us brothers took place,and then we got ourselves separated from each other.Now my brothers are no more,but their sons and daughters respect me.My own sisters also respect and love me and so is my wife.We are a happy couple now and we can't live without each other.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Aug 12
Just a few years ago, we all lived together as well. It was myself and my husband along with our two children, my brother and sister-in-law with their two daughters and also my mother and my little sister. It was interesting to all live together, but I really do appreciate the fact that I have a space of my own now.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Aug 12
I tend to believe that realizing the dream of having your own home is something that can be realized with hard work and determination in your life.
@else22 (4317)
• India
10 Aug 12
I too have a dream of having a small,beautiful house of my own,and I hope my dream would be realized one day.I have been trying my best for it.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
10 Aug 12
Hi dorannmwin, My parents passed on many years ago and now most of my brothers and sisters are gone as well. There were nine of us brothers and sisters when I was young, now I have just one brother and one sister. Like you I was blessed with a great relationship with all of them. Our parents were poor but loving and compassionate and treated us all very well. I have three sons and hope that they too will have such good memories someday and always a good relationship with each other. Blessings.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Aug 12
I tend to believe that people who grow up in families that are close to each other will have children of their own that have a very good relationship with their parents and their siblings as well. Yes, my two children are still young, but I also have to say that they are quite close to each other.
@much2say (55686)
• Los Angeles, California
9 Aug 12
That's great your family is so close like that, dorannmwin! I thought my family had a pretty good relationship, I really did. But through some recent events during our move to our house, I had to question it (but that's a whole 'nother discussion). We are all mostly nice to each other - even now after all that happened a couple months ago - but now things are a tad awkward. My dad and I aren't close, but at least we are civil . . . I've never been able to really talk to him, and he's not one to "chat" anyway except when it comes to his opinions - but at least he tries really hard to be a nice grandfather to the kids. My mom and I are much closer - but she tends to internalize a lot and over analyze to the point where misunderstandings can happen too easily - but I have a lot to thank her for. My sister and I got closer as adults - but sometimes that girl can have a mouth and I don't appreciate that at all - but she is a good aunty to the kids. Right now we are all getting along well again, but a big part of me resents them at the same time.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Aug 12
The relationship that I had with my sister was strained at times when we were younger because of the fact that there is a pretty big age difference between the two of us. However now that we are older, we get along great, she is actually one of my favorite people to hang out with since we have a lot in common. In addition to that, she is also very, very close to my daughter which has helped our relationship as well.
@bostonphil (4459)
• United States
10 Aug 12
You are very lucky to have such a close family. My relationship is very poor with what exists of my family. There are not many people left but almost no one has nothing to do with me. My mother was very cruel to me and I was forced to leave home very young. She was a very angry and unhappy woman. I always tried to reach out and connect but it was never successful. I have a sister but she suffers from M.S. and lives in another state. Her children do not have anything to do with me. They also have very little to do with her. There are a few first cousins but some are elderly and ill. Others have no interest in me. When I went to Boston recently for my 50th high school reunion, I saw a couple of old friends who were wonderful. The only family left in Boston was a first cousin and his wife. Though they are elderly, they are still in fair health and drive. They live very close to the hotel where we were having the reunion but could not find the time to visit. I would love to have a family like you are describing. I have friends who have close families and I have seen what I missed out on. I always feel sad that I did not have a better family life.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Aug 12
It is sad to hear that your nieces and nephews have very little to do with their mother and nothing at all to do with you. Then when it comes to the cousin that you are talking about, that is something that is sad as well because as people grow older, I feel that it is more important to spend some time with your family.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
12 Aug 12
I guess the fact that you were able to see that the fact that your family was dysfunctional wasn't your fact was something that did help you out. And, I have to say that you are right that it is their loss that they don't want to spend time with you.
• United States
11 Aug 12
It is sad but I also feel that it is their loss. I have tried to reach out but with only the most limitted success. I have always wanted a strong, close and loving family. It was not meant to be. I come from a very dysfunctional family, not just the immediate family. I last some members of the family at a religious event in 1985 and I was shocked by the bad feelings and infighting between different members which had nothing to do with me. I have had friends who had equally dysfunctional families and friends who had close and healthy families. Oh, how I envied those with good family lives. There is no substitute for family.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Aug 12
For me and my family our personalities are all over the places so for some of us it makes it hard for us to get along then others. I've always been pretty close to both of my parents but now as a mom I'm more closer to my own mother then I am with my father just because well he doesn't understand the mom part but he understands the parent part which I can always talk to him about. I can talk to him about soccer and stuff like that from when I was little. I wouldn't say me and my brothers are that closer because we are not. My brothers and I we have very different personalities so we don't always get along that well. My oldest brother he has a sharp fast heated temper so it doesn't go over well. My other brother our personalities are very much the same so we are pretty much always looking for a good laugh we when can but also very serious so we get a long a lot better. When we are all together we don't fight or anything.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Aug 12
I do have to admit that though I've always had a great relationship with my mother, it did really grow and evolve after Kathryn was born. My mother is definitely the person that I turn to when there are issues that I am having when it comes to parenting.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
12 Aug 12
And this is definitely something that I have seen changed in my relationship with my mother after Kathryn was born.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
11 Aug 12
I think moms tend to be closer to there moms or someone that is a mom figure after you have a baby because they understand how you feel and stuff. It can be nice to just talk to your parent like they are not your parent but more like a friend.
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
I have a very close relationship with my family. My siblings and I have a large age gap since I was born really late. We have a 14 year age gap. But despite these, we are still very close. They have become my mini-parents. They tell me what is the right thing to do and stuff like that :) I really appreciate their kind efforts. I love my family. happy mylotting.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Aug 12
I always wondered what it would be like to have siblings with whom you have a large age difference. You see, there was only six years between myself and my baby sister. However, if my mother hadn't had her miscarriage and I hadn't had my first miscarriage, we would have children that were the same age and I would have been twenty years older than my little brother.
10 Aug 12
Me and my family are more closer now. these past few years we may not be as close as now because i'm with them, i see them everyday. But 2 months ago when i decided to work in the city, a couple of miles away from my hometown i still feel their presence though were very far they made me fell they are with be by calling everyday. We talked over the phone for almost an hour every day. I really miss them just imagine i still have to ride a boat for one night and a bus plus the fare is not cheap plus the only vacation i have is only during new years day and this is my first time to work away from my family.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Aug 12
It is great to hear that you are able to be closer to your family now than you used to be. I do know that living apart from your family would be something that would be quite difficult for a variety of reasons. I know that my husband isn't as close to his more distant family as I am because of the fact that his dad was in the Army and that meant that he didn't have the opportunity to know those members of his family as I was able to do.
@Mark72125 (135)
• United Arab Emirates
11 Aug 12
My relationship with my family is very good indeed.I have a brother and he has supported me in every way possible till now.My father has always been working abroad so we didn't get to see him as much as our mother.But, he came back every few months and we were pretty glad and satisfied about it.As me and my brother both were with my mother since the childhood we were much more comfortable with her and closer to her.But we have always had a friendly relationship with our father and we are all pretty close to each other.So I am pretty family with my family and how it is :)
@daisy777 (214)
• South Africa
31 Aug 12
We are also a very close family. Unfortunatley, we only see them three times a year as we live in a different province to them. When we do get together it's absolutely awesome. The cousins are also very close to each other, which is lovely.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Sep 12
I've always been pretty close to my cousins, despite the fact that we've never lived in the same state as they live in. There were pretty much two different generations of cousins and when we got together with the younger set of cousins, we were able to make up all kinds of fun games and we would keep ourselves occupied for hours.
@kylanie (1205)
• United States
8 Aug 12
I am real close to my sister my dad used to make her take me with her when she went out I only see my brothers once in a while we grew up close but now they moved away and now days the only way I talk to my cousins is on facebook but my relationship with my parents is really good they have helped me with my son and daughter alot for that I am grateful.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Aug 12
Though I don't get to see my cousins as much as I would like to, I do like the fact that we are still able to keep in touch with each other through facebook and we do tend to get together a few times every year. One of the things that I think is pretty unique about my family is that not only did I grow up pretty close to my first cousins, I have several third cousins that I am pretty close to as well.
@inkyuboz (1392)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
8 Aug 12
I'm closer to my mom than to my dad. We share a lot of interests, particularly word games like Scrabble and Boggle. My dad's a bit sporty (amateur basketball player) and I've been a nerd/geek all my life, so there's just no connection there. Also, I'm the only boy among 3 siblings. I'm also the middle child (5 year gap with older sister, 11 year gap with younger sister). You can say I was a spoiled brat until my younger sister came along. 11-year old me was jealous of all the attention my younger sister was getting that time, but as time flew, I became more mature and accepting of that. I know I'm not a very expressive person but I love everyone in my family. I would do anything for them to have a good life. I wish that for all of us.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Aug 12
There is no doubt in my mind that I would be one of those people that would go to the end of the world for a member of my family. I do make sure and tell my mother that I love her every time that we talk. Now when it comes to my brother and sister, I don't always tell them that I love them, but I know that the feeling is there on my part and on their parts as well.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
8 Aug 12
Okay, My relationship with my family is very good too. I have two elder brothers and I am in very good terms with them. They will do anything for me and I can do anything for them. I am away from them but We have a bond that is very strong. My parents are awesome and wonderful people. I love my parents.Though I am far from home, when ever I think of them even a little bit, I get call from them, So you can imagine what our relationship would be like. thanks for sharing,. have a wonderful day.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Aug 12
I'm not far from my family considering my mother and my siblings live only six miles away from us. When it comes to our extended family, they average living about 100 miles away from us, so we are still able to see them on a pretty regular basis. With that said, when I do start to think about one of them, it does seem that they are calling me shortly after that.