You're too good for her

Generally, people attract people who are similar to themselves in some aspect. Thus I find it bothersome that he is attracting bad people. Perhaps there is some aspect about him, that is not so great, that bad people find attractive. It could also be that he simply has low standards. People also tend to find what they are looking for. If you hunt for bad people, you end up finding bad people. If you happen to meet a really nice girl, that has a great reputation, that you have known and seen enough of too feel secure in suggesting them... then in the most light, non-intrusive way possible, you can try and bring it up to him. But I would advise being as reserved as you can possibly be. Zero pushy-ness factor. It's is amazingly easy to make him feel obligated to meet the girl, and then if things go badly, he'll be suspect of you for a long time.

OK well don't exactly play match maker. What you can do is invite all your friends for a dinner party or something (find an excuse) and let them mingle together. Then maybe they will turn out to be friends with one another as well if they get along really well and then if anything else happens well you didn't exactly do anything whether it turns out good or bad. The only hope would be that it doesn't turn out too awkward if things don't work out!

I would stay out of it also unless you are extremely confident in the person you would set him up with. It's always sad to see good people get their hearts ripped out, it's makes you wonder why such a good person attracts women like that.

I do think that it is in our best interest to stay out of our friend's business when it comes to matters of love. You see, I see my best male friend (not including my husband) struggling with relationships and I really do want to just tell him that she isn't the right girl for him, but I know that he is hard-headed and really won't listen to me. That said, I have finally just told him that all that I really want for him is for him to be happy in his life. I don't think that this is asking for too much, but then again I could be wrong.

I think your husband has a point. It is difficult to dictate someone's heart. You may introduce girls with him but don't push to much so you won't get blamed when time comes.

tell your friend his true value, then let him decide to himself holding in mind what you have said to him, he might have a low self esteem that's why he thinks that he does not deserve a better relationship, or shall we say worthy of his love...

No matchmaking is needed. Your friends need to Truly Kniw his worth. He is a good person and deserve so much better! But how to get him to see it? besides just telling him I don't know.

I wonder if you'd stop for a while and think if it his misfortunes were actually his own doings and that he really needs a helping hand on knowing the right girl for him. Your post describes him to be a desperate and he could have carelessly committed himself on girls who do not have any intention of being with him. His rush ways will just get himself into picking up girls from all the wrong places and end up having his heart crushed again. So if you have someone you think is suitable, I do not think you should hesitate because whether they would end up together will depend on the both of them. Should the relationship not work out, no blame would be on your account because your responsibility is just to introduce them to each other. For the sake of the friendship, all the more you should help wherever you deem fit and can.

Hello my friend Raine38 Ji, I think if you follow your hubby's advise, it will serve you better with your own hubby. Next I am of the view some people learn only after falling into ditch not theoritically. May God bless You and have a great time

Aw poor guy, but yes I would definitely stay out of it. I feel so bad for people who are nice people who are just looking for a relationship that can be long term and then it turns around that the person they are seeing is not looking for the same thing. I've had too many friends go through the same thing and I too have gone through the same thing until I met my husband. Which we are now still together as of today. My advice would be to tell him the next relationship he gets into just take it slow and don't rush into anything and just let things take its course. If its meant to be then it will happen if not then there is always someone else out there. I hope he finds someone that he can have a wonderful relationship with. Good luck to him.

Sometimes it's nice to play cupid but sometimes it may lead into trouble. So, I guess that depends on the situation. I will only play cupid if I feel both have same attraction and I am sure both party are serious with finding true love.

Hi Raine! If its me I will stay out of it unless if I am so sure that they are suit with each other very well as there are risky. Anyway I hope he don't lose hope and never had such thinking like every woman is just the same, a heartbreaker or something like that and continue find his love.(^^)

If your friend is a good man,i think he will find a good girl in him own eyes. You wanna to help him that explain to you'r a hot-hearted person and you have a beatiful heart. But I also support the opinion of your husband. It says "Every Dog Has his Day", I agree this proverb. Happy mylotting.

well stay out of this because you don't what will happen in future and if something bad happens then you will be blamed. I tell you there are boys and girls who are very sweet and handsome but there are some things which can't make out being a friend. Only those in the relationship can make out. So there must be something wrong somewhere. They will meet their Mr right and Miss right in their own time and space. To keep a healthy relationship with your friend, it is better not to fall in this. good day to you.

so sad to hear about this, and yeah i guess sometimes we just have to meet the wrong people and re think of what type of guys or girls we get attracted to? i feel i am able to relate to this situations. i always seem to fall for the wrong guys myself and my friends would tell me how i am such a catch and that i should just value myself more and so on. maybe your friend is just so quick to trust and overlook the true nature of the women because of the trusting nature he has. this is what i am working on in my life right now. i just seem so quick to trust people and not see their true colors or maybe deny them in my mind hence i fall for them and is into the trap they have set out. I am wiser now, though. as for you trying to match him with your girl friends, i think it is okay if you do.. just do not be pushy about it. just set them up or let them meet in one dinner together and if they hit it off, it is up to them.

There is a fine line between match making and organising a get together. I do agree with your husband. Don't play match maker. But orgainise a lunch. Just something informal. Even if it is a local club or resturant or cafe. If things happen then they will. If not, then don't push it. Your friends will make up their own mind.

Yes, you should not interfere. Let him grow with experience. Give advice if he asks.

It is common that such a good gentalman always meets bad girls. Maybe your husband is right, if I were you, I just talk to him once or twice, and then stay out of it.

He should believe in himself and no one can teach him this except he himself. He should learn to judge people rather than just cursing his fate after he has been dumped by her. I do not want to be rude to him but he should know that he is good looking as well as he should by now understand how less looks matter. He should feel your statement " he is too good for her". We as his friend can just do very less. He is the driver. And he should know this fact.

You are a real friend for him. I can see that. Maybe you should give him some advice, you can say it unobjectionablely. If he is a good friend, he will understand that you are good to him. He will accept your advice.