Relationships: The difference between reasonable and unreasonable expectations

In personal relationships, that's hard cuz my definition of "reasonable" may be different than my mate's. Although I feel I'm pretty lenient. I was never one of those call-me-everyday types. I kind of let things go at the pace of the other person. But if a conversation happened with the logistics all spelled out then it's just being a decent human being to follow through. Now once a relationship has been going for a long time, there's just common courtesy type things - Call when you're going to be late - Ask me first before you invite your friends over - Don't show up at my parents house drunk. You know stuff like that. In business, it's easier I think. There it's the customer's always right, so you gotta do what you gotta do for a buck. Co-workers, well you have to go the pace you want and be clear about it. I kinda hate it when people say "oh someday you'll have to come over for dinner..", etc. but never really set it up. I tend to be on the cool side with co-workers until I really understand them and if I feel we'd make good friends I'll try and set up drinks or something.

You should expect the other to love you and only you in an intimate way. But the relationship should be 50/50. It shouldn't be one person doing it all.

Hello my friend sherrybelle Ji, My hubby is very much fond off maintaining his words of promises and never forgets. I would try and take you back in 1970, after our marriage, we invited someone after taking his timings, as the time for meeting was slipping , my hubby was getting excited, and did not waity for more than 15 mts. Finished dinner and went for walk, on the way met person in question, exchenged greetings only. Now you analyse the facts. My hubby says, it is duty of everyone to keep other party informed after un-keepm of promises. But such rules do not hold good under different circumsatnces.Mother is always expected to bring up children, whereas , for children there is no compulsion. By the way I am Indian and talking under thse ethics. Take care. May God bless You and have a great time

I admit that often I will expect from others what I automatically will do for them, and that is not a reasonable expectation if they have not asked me to do this nor have I asked them to do it. There are some things that I think should be automatic, such as being honest, but I have found that not everybody agrees with this. Therefore, I do try to address these issues before I get upset with anybody, because maybe our views and expectations are different. If they have agreed with my requests, though, then I do feel that I have a reasonable expectation for them to do it consistently in the future rather than having to request it every time, although there are some things that could be situational and would not necessarily apply in the future.

Expectations start with communication. If you don't communicate well, you're fostering the very environment you dislike. So, do you communicate well? That sets expectations and no one is disappointed!

I always analyse myself to see whether or not my expectations are unreasonable. There are times, I will freely admit, when I do have somewhat unrealistic expectations of another person- Not deliberately, but more hoping that they will live up to those expectations. I never let myself get upset when those are let down, because I knew they weren't realistic in the first place. It's always important to be understanding of others, and I try to be the same, especially where my expectations are concerned. Unfortunately, it's still something I'm working on. Expectations or not, though, I do at least control my reactions and reason things through before... Well, reacting.

Yes, there are all kinds of people in this world. Some are reasonable and some are absolutely illogical! Some bosses even expect sales target that is beyond achievable. That is really frustrating and demotivating. Why can't people be more reasonable and understanding Different people have different level of expectations.

They say that in marriage, it is important that husband and wife should set a reasonable expectations of each other in order for them to survive their marriage. Because some thinks that being in love or marriage are like bed of roses or fairy tale. I think that it is unfair for ladies to expect that their guy would be like prince charming. But sometimes, I really do expect a lot from other people. I expect them to know what they have to do or what I want them to do. I guess that high expectations can lead to so much disappointment and this isn't fair for both parties. I feel so upset if they don't meet my expectations especially if it is my husband. I expect so much from him and I guess that I am hurting him for pushing him too hard. People are different from one another. All of us have our own limitations so if we are going to base other people's capacity or capability on our own, we are being unreasonable to them.

Yes. I have reasonable expectation to someone if I have scheduled appointment with them. I don't get upset when someone doesn't meet my expectation because they reason out why they were not able to meet it. But I hate people who are demanding and get angry when I don't meet their expectations.

We all have some expectations with our friends, relatives, colleagues and clients. We will be happy if they fulfill our expectation and disappointed a lot if our expectation was not fulfilled by them. We must try our maximum to avoid expectations, since too much of expectation will results in disappointments. Some people are sportive and take the disappointment in a normal way, on the other hand some people don't have the ability to tolerate the disappointment. There is nothing wrong in fulfilling other persons expectation if it is good and with a reason. Most of us will try our maximum to fulfill this kind of reasonable expectations, mostly this kind of expectations having some meaning and both of us will get some benefits by doing it. Some times our friends have some unreasonable and meaningless expectations with us, we are not interested in doing it, since we don't get any benefits by doing the task and it is merely waste of time. There is no need to do this kind of unwanted jobs and no one have the rights to force us to do unwanted things. In short, we will do a work, if we are interested with it. There is no meaning in doing a work without any benefit for other persons expectation, we are merely wasting our time by doing this kind of unwanted things. Time is precious , we must organize it in a good way and spend it wisely. Fulfill your friends honest expectations which is having a reason, don't waste your time with unwanted and meaning less expectations.