Does religion matter when you love someone

It is far more important that two people who intend to live together and raise a family should have a unity of purpose and respect each others' beliefs and those of the children, when they arrive. If you find that your religion is very important to you, then it certainly makes sense to find a partner with the same beliefs and outlooks. That way, you are likely to have fewer disagreements in your daily life and less argument about how your children should be educated. Always remember that, though your religion may be right for you, it isn't necessarily the same for everyone else. What is important is that you love the person and respect and try to understand their point of view without compromising your own (though, of course, you should always be open to learning something new). Religion is a very personal thing and children are individuals and have a right to choose whatever religion (or none) they feel best for them as they grow to an age of understanding. If they are 'force fed' a religion in childhood, they may very well grow up rejecting it simply because it was something they were made to do. The best way, really, is to be very clear about your own way and reasons for believing and worshipping the way you do and to allow your children to learn about religion in general (not just Islam but also about any other religions which they might encounter). That way, they will be better able to accept and acknowledge that other people are good people, even though they think differently. They will also learn why YOU think and behave the way you do and, because you are their parent, will honour and respect you and be much more likely to grow up as good and devout Muslims.

does religion matter when you love someone? for me is not, bec. the important is that both of you understand each other and love one another. bec. religion is not a barrier in your love for each other. other couples are have different religion but they are ok with other company. and God is love that is the center of there love. and God knows that. thank you

Although I disagree with you on your choice of religion, I applaud your decision to only marry someone of the same religion. When both spouses are of the same religion, it makes for a more harmonious household and a better environment in which to raise children.

Now when I met my husband and even when our daughter was born, he was not a member of the same faith as I was and I didn't really care about that. The only thing that I asked of him was that he take the time to learn my religion. He did this and did decide to become a member of the same faith as I am and that is fine with me, but it would have been equally okay with me if he had not decided to become Catholic because at least by taking the classes that he took, he did at least learn where I was coming from because I knew that I would not be changing my religion.

Yes, it does matter; but it doesn't have to be 'the religion you both are in now.' Just 'that you both believe the same things about life now.' Actually, a man from a different religion would be good for both of you---to show you both what "religion" really is (that's 1-900-UNCLE-J-IS-CHRISTIAN )

Why you bother about religion and all, be brave to face it, do it

Hi manduri, When religion matters to a person, it's best to marry someone from your religion.I am not religious but spiritual,yet,if I was a young person today,I would rather marry someone who feels as I do. Blessings.

I think that differing religions are very difficult unless the people involved are ambivalent about their religions. If both parties are devoted, it creates another area where conflicts can arise.

Hello my friend manduri20 Ji, I think you are a most sensible person here to think that way.Religion does matter if not at initial stage, at later part of life. here in our country there are lot many differences at every mile-stone we walk.There are many different customs and traditions amoung Hindus and among Muslim as well, where 'SIYA AND SUNI ' have differences. So you must ask your parents before you get into any relationship. May God bless You and have a great time

I feel the same way as you, I'd want to marry someone who is of the same religion as me. I however, am an Atheist. I wouldn't want my kids to be brought to church every sunday, or doing daily prayers, or pushed into a religion from an age when they can only start to recognize colors. I'd rather be pushing my kids towards science, and show them how amazing the world is through that. I've been with Christian and Muslim girls, but I have many disagreements with them, and things don't work out so well. If I was to get married to a girl who was like that, who knows how many problems could come up through it. It's too bad, I wish that religion wouldn't play such a vital role of who can be with who, but its just the way it happens.

Well,love is did not mean to choose someone but whom how we feel to love someone. It is useless to love someone with the same religion if that person did not love you and cheat on you after all.

I would never marry someone that wasn't a Christian like myself. You can "love" anyone. But the question is does G-d matter? If G-d matters, then you should obey him. My G-d says that I should not marry someone that is not a Christian. So, no matter how much I care about my Muslim friend Nadia, she is still not an option for marriage. I can help her. I can support her. I can give her money if she needs food or something. But I can not marry her. We will always only be just friends, and only friends. Not lovers, not husband and wife. :)

Some people think that love will win all. I disagree. Lover is hard to maintain, and if both of you have many differences that effect the way you see the future - you better have a broken hearth right now, then divorcing later on when you already have kids. I noticed the most people that I know, that claim it doesn't matter are usually people that aren't "that strong" in religious, so they have no idea what it actually means, or they think that they won't mind "as long as no-one will force them". However, it is impossible not to "force them" to some extant since there are rules in religions you can only keep if the entire house is keeping (like rules about food or intimate relationships etc). Therefore, I think that relationship with people from other religions, or even the same religion but different levels of belief will be hard to maintain for long (possible, but hard).

If you really love someone who belong to different religion, i think it's still likely for you to marry. Because different religion don't mean you can't make a agreement in life. Life is full of compromise. and some religion have some in common with their belifes. And as to your children , it's up to themselve to choose their religion. Whatever they choose, the final objective is to get hapiness from it. If you love someone but for religion, you give up. You feel pain in heart and it's possible for one of you to make sacrifice for other.

Somehow, I could not help sensing that you will actually be asking your boyfriend if he is a Muslim before you proceed further. Wouldn't this act be imposing and prying? Out of interest, what happens when the guy you fancy and really like turns out to be a non Muslim? Will you go with your heart or religion?

I am non-denominational. So religion in general doesn't matter much to me. The only time it would matter is if my boyfriend was trying to push it on me or "convert" me to his religion. That could be a deal-breaker, I don't like people telling me what to think. Another time it MIGHT be a problem is if we had a kid together, how to raise them (religious or not). Otherwise religion in general doesn't really bother me - again, unless someone is trying to push their beliefs on me (in which case, that is NEVER cool!). Happy MyLotting!

I'm not religious, so I'm going say my thoughts from my own perspective. For me it would not matter as long as my fiancé was not a die-hard, bigoted, really-really-really, radically religious one. I do not think religion should be taught or forced to kids... later as they grow up they can decide what kind of teachings they want to live after... and I do not think you can control your heart... and love and infatuation can find you in the weirdest situations... you can't know for sure whom you would fall for, even if you try really hard to steer clear from them.

Hi, if religion matters to you, then its okay if you want to marry a guy from your religion.

Hi, If religion matters to you then what you are saying is okay.

Good day my dear muslim siste.all i can say is that religion is really matter specially we females we need to keep in mind that we are the Queen of our king. AND DEFINITELY you have a right decision not to fall in love with a guy with other religion.If you really know about a good muslim even single blink of your eye you will never let your religion to sacrifice just because you love someone.We know that before anything else we love Allah first before we love others.im not trying to offend any religion here. its not about the religion its about the relation between you and the creator. Good thing you have a you choice and you will not regret.