Some Men Should Really Start Growing Some Backbones

I agree because I know a lot of men who let people walk all over them. I love my boyfriend, but his mom and his step-father love to walk all over him, and they have done some of the most terrible and horrible things to him, and he doesn't stand up to them. His step-father tried to kill himself, and my boyfriend took the knife away from him hurting his hand in the process. My boyfriend has several stitches in his hand because of it. Instead of his step-father being grateful and pretty much thanking my boyfriend for saving him, he still teases my boyfriend, he belittles my boyfriend, and he threatens my boyfriend. I keep telling my boyfriend to stand up to him, and he won't, and I have told my boyfriend that his ungrateful step-father wouldn't even be here if it wasn't for him. This is a case where my boyfriend needs to stand up for himself.

I agree because too many men allow their girlfriend/spouse act like a bleep and take over everything. Makes me sick. You have to consider the exceptions though. Ex. M y mom is more educated than my father and she is more wise when it comes to budgeting their money than him so there are a lot of things that are left for her to decide because of that. My dad has the say when it comes to those things that he knows best.

It is that kind of sexist macho crap that prevents the sexes from being equal. A woman does not need a leader, she needs a partner. Protection is just an excuse men use to keep stupid women subservient. I can protect myself, damn it. I am with my husband because I love him, not because I "need" him. It's because I don't need him, that he knows I truly care for him, and not for what he can do for me. Instead of protecting women, we need to teach more aggressive men to be gentle. If we do, then eventually women won't need protection.

As for me, I have seen men who live off their girlfriends and that explains why they are so "obedient". I do not agree this is a healthy relationship when it is benefit motivated and the men are actually falsely submissive. What you have related isn't obvious that the men are without backbone, because I do not think you know what is actually between the both of them. For a start, the guy may be at the lowest point of his life where he just does not have the confidence to make the decisions and call the shots or that he is seemingly at the errant stage where nothing he decides is right and doing the relationship any good. So, I don't think there's anything wrong when the girlfriends are calling the shots. This is a free society and relationship is one's choice, the guy can always disagree or even refuse to participate. Likewise, we girls do not feel there's anything wrong when we try to decide for the guys especially when they are lost and confused most of the time.

Oh some one who thinks that men should have back bones. How nice to see. I have been married for 16 years. I am not going to say that don't love my man, cause I do. I love him and trust him with all my heart. But where my man need to have a back bone when it comes to the house and kids. He goes to work, comes home then spends his time on the couch and falls asleep. I tell him to go to bed. Yeah yeah in a minute. 2 hours later he is still there. He makes a mess and I clean up. So my kids make a mess a mess. I believe that he should be the back bone and clean up after himself to show the kids that it is important for the kids to clean up. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind doing house work. But, why should I always have to clean up after 3 other people in my house as well as clean up my own mess. Here is what I deal with. I clean up a small coffee table then as soon as every one comes home, it is a mess. Next day I clean it, next day it is a mess, and it keeps going. I can't break the cycle. No matter how much I attempt to speak up and tell every one to clean up after themselves it falls on deaf ears. If feel that I am the back bone of my family. I don't have that strong man to lean on who protects me. I haven't felt like a princess for way too long. I don't ask for much. All I ask for is my husband to help me maintain a clean house when I clean up. Be active in the kids life and encourage them to help me maintain a clean house. Make me feel like a beautiful princess. His princess. and here is the way I currently feel. Cook, maid, taxi (cab) driver, referee, alarm clock, cleaner, security, nurse, kitchen hand, zoo keeper (3 cats), bedroom toy and any other jobs you think of within the house. All on top, delivering catalogues for shops to letterboxes twice a week. The back bone of the house is sadly is me.

Oh okay i was little confused when I read your post because nodding for me is like NO. So nodding in your case is a Yes. Yeah i believe that a man should make some decisions on his own. I respect my man and I like it when he makes decisions for Us. I really don't want a servant. I don't even like anyone opening doors for me and all that that many girls enjoy when men do for them. I am normal and I want to do things on my own. thanks for sharing. have a wonderful day.